My (31M) gf (30F) said she had the "best sex ever" with another man in front of me. How do I proceed?

[fluoride1337]

Oof, this one was tough to hear. I am not sure whether I should continue to address this or just move on and push forward in the relationship.

I have been with my partner for about 7 months - still relatively new. I am happy in the relationship and she is too. We have pretty good, open and honest communication.

So, I was at a party with my girlfriend this weekend. We were all relatively drunk, and her friends brought up her taking a guy back to their AirBNB and I guess having some pretty vocal sex. She was drunk and just went "it was the best sex ever!" while, unfortunately, I was standing right there.

We were drunk and cabbing back to her place and I think I got pretty rattled and asked her what was it. She did explain to me, in detail what it was. I do appreciate the openness and we have had a good relationship with pretty open and honest communication thus far.

Now look - I know in a relationship people have pasts, and sex is a journey. We have good sex, and she reassured me that she loves sex with me.

But man this sucked to hear. I'm honestly not super angry about it but I am definitely ruminating on it. I could choose to never bring it up again. I could choose to work on improving our sex life and getting to an amazing spot and being thankful for her honesty. But I could also choose to end it, although that seems aggressive for a one off comment.

I feel kind of lost and am wondering if I should just move on from this or continue to bring it up.

EDIT/UPDATE: Gonna keep this thread open and post an update in 30 days. Talking to my therapist in 18 days. Honestly, the approach I am planning to take is to focus on myself for the near future. I am not going to end things because of one drunken comment. If I see patterns or signs of continued disrespect though I will make a choice and leave. So far, I've seen honesty and trustworthiness in the relationship, even with things she felt uncomfortable sharing. I do love her. This absolutely hurt my ego, and she did not think before she spoke, but I think a lot of the woman's perspectives in here were helpful (she probably just blurted it out cause the girls were ribbing her) and some of the male perspectives were good too (get over yourself and get better).

That will be the approach I take VS just giving up.

 

[Calippo]

Man, I feel you. It’s rough hearing that kind of stuff, especially from someone you care about. But honestly, this is a perfect opportunity for growth. She’s clearly open and honest, which is a good sign. Instead of letting it eat you alive, use it to fuel your own self-improvement.

Focus on what you can control—your own game, your confidence, your skills. If she’s really into you, she’ll notice the changes and appreciate the effort. Plus, if she loves you, she’ll still want to make great memories with you too.

Remember, it’s just one comment in the grand scheme of things. Don't let it define your relationship. If you see any signs of disrespect moving forward, then you can reassess. But for now, keep working on yourself and enjoy what you have!

 

[klip11]

That girl is poison

 

[klip11]

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[distance decay]

Hes 30 might aswell live with it