ElySioNs
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So me and my girlfriend have been talking to each other for a year and recently made things official. In the past, I had noticed that she wasn’t asking for sex much, even though we do have it, and that when I was horny she wouldn’t reciprocate or be interested often. At first, I thought this might be because of her getting on anti-depressants which have sexual dysfunction side effects, and we talked about this - but yesterday she told me that the real reason is that my penis is too small and that she’s also not attracted to me physically. I was pretty taken aback. For reference, my penis hard is about 5.5 inches almost 6, and I have NEVER had an issue pleasing any woman before her. I figured I wasn’t big but average enough to do the job. She says she has never had this issue with any other guy. She says that she is attracted to my facial features, thinks I’m very handsome, and loves me, which wouldn’t make her want to leave or anything. She also says that I am the only guy she’s been with that hasn’t been skinny and that’s it’s a turn-off. I am 5’10 - 158 lbs. I work out almost every day and have good muscle definition, but still admittedly have some midsection fat I’m trying to tackle. I discussed my concerns with her that the whole issue may lead to infidelity, as I know how important sex is for a human. She says that wouldn’t happen and that she doesn’t care. I can’t help but feel insecure. We discussed using toys, oral, new positions, and other means to get her off as of now. \*she does finish when we have sex, eventually. We also discussed that both of us halt any porn use or masturbation to keep our sexual desire stored for one another. I told her I understand that everyone has preferences and I’m not mad at her. I just need to know if this is going to be detrimental or fixable. I have agreed to focus very hard on weight loss as well, it’s something I want to do regardless. Looking for any advice. I worry that maybe we simply aren’t compatible. Thanks for your help, this was embarrassing to admit but I’m looking for experience or guidance. Everything outside of this in our relationship is good.
\*note, I did have some issues staying hard due to my antidepressants in the past. I can understand that being frustrating for her. This doesn’t occur while directly engaged in sex and I am taking a new medicine to counteract this.
\*note, I did have some issues staying hard due to my antidepressants in the past. I can understand that being frustrating for her. This doesn’t occur while directly engaged in sex and I am taking a new medicine to counteract this.
