my husband is asexual i like BDSM and group sex my husband is a stay at home recluse i like the outdoors and going out a lot he works full time while

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my husband is asexual i like BDSM and group sex my husband is a stay at home recluse i like the outdoors and going out a lot he works full time while i have a disability which means i have to fill all of my time myself he expects me to be in the house which isn’t fair i feel like our arrangements at the moment where i meet my Dom or play partner 1 nights sometimes 2 a week at most is not sustainable i need more maybe 3 nights sometimes maybe join a running club, i volunteer and do yoga twice a week i find when im home and not out walking or whatever im on my phone all the time and not committed to my husband which isn’t fair of me but he spends all day grumpy anyway or doing gardening or cars or computers none of which interest me. im not saying we don’t love each other im not saying there isn’t security humour and safety but im bored of my life, which is my responsibility to fix i’m not working very hard on this marriage other than counselling and honesty but i feel like a traitor complaining that we’re not inspiring each other and i need more

hence my wanting to suggest a roommate marriage where he is like a brother i live with who has no say in what i do ever and has no right to expect anything of me other than food shopping and sometimes share a bed and mealtimes and tv and i’ll help in the garden some more and then maybe i’d be fulfilled enough to want to spend some time at home