My mom is holding me back from ascension

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This is just me partially venting, but yeah, here it goes. My mom has always held me back from ascending, even at a young age. She thinks I shouldn't go to the gym or do skincare, even though I have fucking fungal acne on my face and even more on my forehead. She also thinks I shouldn't grow out my hair because she believes it's against her and God. However, whenever she sees my friends with long hair, she always compliments it. But if I ever bring up how good mine would look if I decided to grow it out, she immediately starts saying my hair looks like something a homeless man would have. Yet, she's the same person who says I don't need hair products other than shampoo and conditioner. (If you were wondering, I'm East African, but not Somali.) She says the only way for my hair to look good is for her to do it for me, but all she does is rinse it with cold water, put leave-in conditioner in it, and dry it with a blow dryer, which is honestly so fucking stupid because I'm not just gonna let her put shit in my hair that she doesn't know how to use.

Another reason why I don’t want my hair cut is that I was born with the right side of my hairline having less hair than the left side, which is full. This makes it look very lopsided and instead of cutting it now i wanted to grow out more for a little bit more to have an even front taper. With all these issues, I always get made fun of at school, receive looks of pity or disgust, and have even had people use my insecurities to make their stupid friends laugh and would even get pushed around. I've tried talking things out with my mom trying to explain how i want to do somethings differently, but it’s always her thinking that, since she’s my mother, everything she says is always correct & my father does the same.

But I’m not going to let them hold me back from what I could be. I know that when summer break rolls around, I’m going to get a job. Another reason my parents don’t want to buy me anything like skincare or hair products is because they think it’s a waste of money, and I should buy it with my own when I get a job. When I start earning money, I’m going to learn how to trade and manage it, and luckily for me, there’s an elective at my school just for that. I pray to God that 2025 looks much brighter for me because I’m not trying to have a repeat of what happened in middle school continue into the rest of high school.

Tagging users who may understand me: @Gengar @afroheadluke @Mess @ey88

TLDR version: My mom holds me back from improving myself, like not letting me go to the gym, care for my skin, or grow out my hair. She criticizes my hair, even though it’s something I want to change. I get made fun of at school for it, but I’m determined not to let it stop me. I plan to get a job, save up for skincare and hair products, and learn to manage my money so i can do and get whatever the fuck i want.
 
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you’re black, stop being an urkcel and beat the shit out of her

thug or nuthin
 
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JFL IF YOU THINK SOMEONE IS READING THAT :lul::lul::lul:
 
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Kill her
 
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you’re black, stop being an urkcel and beat the shit out of her

thug or nuthin
i cant beat my mom to a pulp because im just to high inhib for that. Plus if i did my dad would fucking kill me hes still 50 but he moves like hes 30
 
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Can I talk to your mother?
 
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This is just me partially venting, but yeah, here it goes. My mom has always held me back from ascending, even at a young age. She thinks I shouldn't go to the gym or do skincare, even though I have fucking fungal acne on my face and even more on my forehead. She also thinks I shouldn't grow out my hair because she believes it's against her and God. However, whenever she sees my friends with long hair, she always compliments it. But if I ever bring up how good mine would look if I decided to grow it out, she immediately starts saying my hair looks like something a homeless man would have. Yet, she's the same person who says I don't need hair products other than shampoo and conditioner. (If you were wondering, I'm East African, but not Somali.) She says the only way for my hair to look good is for her to do it for me, but all she does is rinse it with cold water, put leave-in conditioner in it, and dry it with a blow dryer, which is honestly so fucking stupid because I'm not just gonna let her put shit in my hair that she doesn't know how to use.

Another reason why I don’t want my hair cut is that I was born with the right side of my hairline having less hair than the left side, which is full. This makes it look very lopsided and instead of cutting it now i wanted to grow out more for a little bit more to have an even front taper. With all these issues, I always get made fun of at school, receive looks of pity or disgust, and have even had people use my insecurities to make their stupid friends laugh and would even get pushed around. I've tried talking things out with my mom trying to explain how i want to do somethings differently, but it’s always her thinking that, since she’s my mother, everything she says is always correct & my father does the same.

But I’m not going to let them hold me back from what I could be. I know that when summer break rolls around, I’m going to get a job. Another reason my parents don’t want to buy me anything like skincare or hair products is because they think it’s a waste of money, and I should buy it with my own when I get a job. When I start earning money, I’m going to learn how to trade and manage it, and luckily for me, there’s an elective at my school just for that. I pray to God that 2025 looks much brighter for me because I’m not trying to have a repeat of what happened in middle school continue into the rest of high school.

Tagging users who may understand me: @Gengar @afroheadluke @Mess @ey88

TLDR version: My mom holds me back from improving myself, like not letting me go to the gym, care for my skin, or grow out my hair. She criticizes my hair, even though it’s something I want to change. I get made fun of at school for it, but I’m determined not to let it stop me. I plan to get a job, save up for skincare and hair products, and learn to manage my money so i can do and get whatever the fuck i want.
ngl half of these things u can literally just do in secret
 
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ngl half of these things u can literally just do in secret
shes not very against gym but the problem is that i get back from school at 4:10 since i finish at 3:30 and take a 40 ,minute train ride home but shes always complaining about how shes always tried and stuff and it genuienly pisses me off when she doesnt say the same things about me going to church class. Shes never "tired" and always wants me to go even though shes knows i do not give a fucking shit and let alone study the material or do the work they give me:feelswhy:
 
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thank you bhai:). Do you relate at all?
yeah my mom is always yapping about keeping my hair short, but if u just grow it out theres nothing really she can do (assuming u dont live in a typical african household)
 
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Thats why i made a TLDR

I cant i still need a place to live, besides moving out when im 18 so i wont have too see her for a while
Nigga don't actually kill her :lul:
 
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i cant beat my mom to a pulp because im just to high inhib for that. Plus if i did my dad would fucking kill me hes still 50 but he moves like hes 30
What if your dad was 70?
 
Thats why i made a TLDR

I cant i still need a place to live, besides moving out when im 18 so i wont have too see her for a while
Don't worry cravens stupid. Tell her to her face you are making me ugly. Im being bullied and you are making me ugly
 
yeah my mom is always yapping about keeping my hair short, but if u just grow it out theres nothing really she can do (assuming u dont live in a typical african household)
I do and there always doing too much even for the smallest things like the other day when i took a shower 4 hours later than she told me too. She came home and started yelling at me about how i dont listen to her for shit even though its things that you could literally let go of and she takes away my phone & all my other devices other than my school laptop for the rest of the week. ive heard alot of my friends who are in college and seniors say that when you move out they will start to respect you and miss you alot
 
Thats why i made a TLDR

I cant i still need a place to live, besides moving out when im 18 so i wont have too see her for a while
Tell her it's her fault that your ugly and if she starts screaming and yelling at you. Then be a rebellious teenager
 
Don't worry cravens stupid. Tell her to her face you are making me ugly. Im being bullied and you are making me ugly
might try that in a couple of weeks because after we argued she says dont talk to me and everytime she says that she always is the first one to say something to me. but anyways she argued with me yesterday saying my hair looked ugly but shes the one not giving me any products not to take care of it right even though it is always frizzy.
 
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i wont kill her but the most i can do is just ignore whatever she says
 
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This is just me partially venting, but yeah, here it goes. My mom has always held me back from ascending, even at a young age. She thinks I shouldn't go to the gym or do skincare, even though I have fucking fungal acne on my face and even more on my forehead. She also thinks I shouldn't grow out my hair because she believes it's against her and God. However, whenever she sees my friends with long hair, she always compliments it. But if I ever bring up how good mine would look if I decided to grow it out, she immediately starts saying my hair looks like something a homeless man would have. Yet, she's the same person who says I don't need hair products other than shampoo and conditioner. (If you were wondering, I'm East African, but not Somali.) She says the only way for my hair to look good is for her to do it for me, but all she does is rinse it with cold water, put leave-in conditioner in it, and dry it with a blow dryer, which is honestly so fucking stupid because I'm not just gonna let her put shit in my hair that she doesn't know how to use.

Another reason why I don’t want my hair cut is that I was born with the right side of my hairline having less hair than the left side, which is full. This makes it look very lopsided and instead of cutting it now i wanted to grow out more for a little bit more to have an even front taper. With all these issues, I always get made fun of at school, receive looks of pity or disgust, and have even had people use my insecurities to make their stupid friends laugh and would even get pushed around. I've tried talking things out with my mom trying to explain how i want to do somethings differently, but it’s always her thinking that, since she’s my mother, everything she says is always correct & my father does the same.

But I’m not going to let them hold me back from what I could be. I know that when summer break rolls around, I’m going to get a job. Another reason my parents don’t want to buy me anything like skincare or hair products is because they think it’s a waste of money, and I should buy it with my own when I get a job. When I start earning money, I’m going to learn how to trade and manage it, and luckily for me, there’s an elective at my school just for that. I pray to God that 2025 looks much brighter for me because I’m not trying to have a repeat of what happened in middle school continue into the rest of high school.

Tagging users who may understand me: @Gengar @afroheadluke @Mess @ey88

TLDR version: My mom holds me back from improving myself, like not letting me go to the gym, care for my skin, or grow out my hair. She criticizes my hair, even though it’s something I want to change. I get made fun of at school for it, but I’m determined not to let it stop me. I plan to get a job, save up for skincare and hair products, and learn to manage my money so i can do and get whatever the fuck i want.
That bitch is clearly projecting hard on you dude. I only read till the hair part, and for me that tells all the stoy. She is probbly frustrated because she couldn't do no bigger shit with her life than giving birth to you that now she has to keep you close and tight so you won't get anywhere, because if you do, you will remember her how of a loser she is.
 
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i wont kill her but the most i can do is just ignore whatever she says
Ask yourself what kind of parent doesn't want their children to become sucessful: a frustrated one. She probably didn't even wanted to become a mother. She is so much of a failure that now she has to drag her son down LOL.
 
That bitch is clearly projecting hard on you dude. I only read till the hair part, and for me that tells all the stoy. She is probbly frustrated because she couldn't do no bigger shit with her life than giving birth to you that now she has to keep you close and tight so you won't get anywhere, because if you do, you will remember her how of a loser she is.
your right about that projecting part. i dont quite remember what it was about but my dad and her would always say that i would turn out homeless if i didnt listen too them but there the same ones who only finished high school and moved to America. My mom has no excuse that she didnt have an opportunity to go college because all of her friends had don't the same thing as her which was finishing highschool and their home country but instead of just not trying at all they wanted their kids to have a better life instead of having them do it for themselves and decided to learn to get a good job and provide for themselves and family
 
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your 100% right about her wanting to keep me close. She always gets mad whenever im hanging out with my friends and not aknowledging her whenever she tries to have a conversation with me. but whenever she has her friends come over i dont say anything expect hi and other shit. A month ago i tried to ask her if i could hang out with my friends from my old school and she starts spouting bs saying how a kid from the same country as me tried to do the same but got kidnapped and murdered and when i said the chances of that happening is low she started saying that I'm wrong and she said the only way for her to let me go is to either meet with their parents or for her to go with me but i tried to get her and my friends mom to talk but then last second she wants to say "i dont wanna meet new people i dont wanna have a big social life". This alone wanted me to yell at her so fucking hard but i didnt because my dad and siblings were around. She cant say she doesnt want a big social life when she always wants me too meet her friends or go peoples house that I have never seen a day in my life.
 
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your right about that projecting part. i dont quite remember what it was about but my dad and her would always say that i would turn out homeless if i didnt listen too them but there the same ones who only finished high school and moved to America. My mom has no excuse that she didnt have an opportunity to go college because all of her friends had don't the same thing as her which was finishing highschool and their home country but instead of just not trying at all they wanted their kids to have a better life instead of having them do it for themselves and decided to learn to get a good job and provide for themselves and family
Time to darktriadmaxx then jfl. You need to know the why she is frustrated. She is a foid, just play withe her emotions and discover hey way she likes being treated the most so you are able to extract money from her. Keep looksmaxxin, bu keep it all hidden then.
 
Ask yourself what kind of parent doesn't want their children to become sucessful: a frustrated one. She probably didn't even wanted to become a mother. She is so much of a failure that now she has to drag her son down LOL.
shes always saying to me to get into a full ride scholarship even though its different for everybody else. Once i turn 18 my life is finally going to be in my hands and theres nothing she can do but let me live it and accept or just cope
 
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Some people shouldn't have kids. OP you're your own person, you can do shit yourself, if you aren't a baby

Also a tip: don't write these long ass paragraphs nobody is reading allat
your 100% right about her wanting to keep me close. She always gets mad whenever im hanging out with my friends and not aknowledging her whenever she tries to have a conversation with me. but whenever she has her friends come over i dont say anything expect hi and other shit. A month ago i tried to ask her if i could hang out with my friends from my old school and she starts spouting bs saying how a kid from the same country as me tried to do the same but got kidnapped and murdered and when i said the chances of that happening is low she started saying that I'm wrong and she said the only way for her to let me go is to either meet with their parents or for her to go with me but i tried to get her and my friends mom to talk but then last second she wants to say "i dont wanna meet new people i dont wanna have a big social life". This alone wanted me to yell at her so fucking hard but i didnt because my dad and siblings were around. She cant say she doesnt want a big social life when she always wants me too meet her friends or go peoples house that I have never seen a day in my life.
 
Time to darktriadmaxx then jfl. You need to know the why she is frustrated. She is a foid, just play withe her emotions and discover hey way she likes being treated the most so you are able to extract money from her. Keep looksmaxxin, bu keep it all hidden then.
already know what she likes and its her being highly regarded. for example she says im a failure for not being known for anything signifanct. She makes me go to deacon class and choir but she knows i don't do jackshit which is just a waste of time for me and her. but i know that she likes being highly regarded by others for example: if one of my friends were a deacon she would always say how much of a high achiever they are and stuff. i already know if that i had done something similar and was highly regarded and prasied for it, she would feel satisfied.
 
Some people shouldn't have kids. OP you're your own person, you can do shit yourself, if you aren't a baby

Also a tip: don't write these long ass paragraphs nobody is reading allat
mb for the long paragraphs bro ive been going through this shit since i was 12

but yeah im my own person but no matter how much i argue and prove them right they will just ignore me and give me silent treatment because i am right. Besides there going to still force me to do what they want to do but im still gonna try to stand up for myself
 
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mb for the long paragraphs bro ive been going through this shit since i was 12

but yeah im my own person but no matter how much i argue and prove them right they will just ignore me and give me silent treatment because i am right. Besides there going to still force me to do what they want to do but im still gonna try to stand up for myself
How old are you?
 
Tell her it's her fault that your ugly and if she starts screaming and yelling at you. Then be a rebellious teenager
Ima do that but she gonna think that im telling her cuz i want a girlfriend but in reality my whole life ive been treated significantly worse for being ugly and not popular or too social
 
im 15 and this all started when i was 12
You're young, but you need to realize you're your own person. Your parents don't own you. Whats stopping u from doing what as you wish i don't understand that part, didn't read everything.
 
You're young, but you need to realize you're your own person. Your parents don't own you. Whats stopping u from doing what as you wish i don't understand that part, didn't read everything.
The only thing that's holding me back from saying what i really want to say is my siblings because if i do genuinely say what i want there just gonna take everything from me and kick me out & my parents are always going to say to them that im a bad person and shit

Im just waiting till i get a job and from them I'm just gonna learn how to make money hopefully saving up enough to buy an apartment & car when i get older and maybe even pay my own college tuition so they wont have to provide for me
 
The only thing that's holding me back from saying what i really want to say is my siblings because if i do genuinely say what i want there just gonna take everything from me and kick me out & my parents are always going to say to them that im a bad person and shit
No need to say anything to your parents, just do what you want in secret if u need to
 
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