PseudoMaxxer
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Shoutout to my boy @Gaygymmaxx he’s completely right about being able to fix this shit and he’s a living example as myself, we both left for long periods of time and got better at being NT.
This is my personal method on how I became more NT, it’s slightly different than his but both very solid. This is what I used to do be super NT and go out and make out with Girls.
FYI: I’m now back here because I left the dating scene and don’t go out as much to focus on other things.
Step 1: Gymmaxing and Getting Lean.
This not only proved to myself that I can do hard things, but by just looking at myself in the mirror I was proud and I knew I had an attractive body.
Getting to 12% BF is crucial, the lower the better but sometimes you’ll look too skinny if you’re not super ripped (you don’t need to be super ripped obviously.)
Step 2: Social Training and Consistency.
Believe it or not, I used to go out with my friends at clubs or even walking through the city and if I saw a cute girl I would approach.
Approaching despite fear is crucial. Look at it as going for a cold plunge, it’s scary but the water doesn’t get any warmer if you wait for it and it’s only bad until you get into it.
I did this many times and got rejected approximately 50 times before I even got 1 IG? Why?
Because the first times I was literally trembling like a bitch, my voice was all cracked and I wasn’t even talking normally from the fear of rejection.
After getting used to approaching I was able to get multiple IGs and numbers and actually go out with some of the girls and my friends were too pussies to even try to approach and would even laugh at me while they got no girls or dates.
Obviously looks matter but this is not the point of the thread, we are focusing on NTness rn.
Step 3: Detach Yourself from People’s Opinions and What They Think About You.
Failing is not a bad thing, is a step closer to success and this is a fact.
But what you should focus on to not get depressed about getting rejected is that people and girls that you approach do NOT know who you are.
They only know the 10 second of approach that you gave and they’ll judge by that (and looks yeah but don’t focus on that now).
Step 4: Master Small Talk
This was so hard for me, I would be going out for walks during the day and just randomly start small talk with someone I saw.
For example, seeing a guy with a dog pass by I would ask “is it a male or female, is it good, what’s her name?” And stuff like that and then tell him to have a good day and people will genuinely appreciate you being interested or telling them to have a nice day.
Step 5: Complete Mastery.
This is what I didn’t do, which is keep doing this over and over until you fully master it. Obviously some days you won’t feel like it but you gotta do it to be able to escape that fear.
Once you master it, it’ll become your personality, but this doesn’t mean you won’t need to continue to train your brain and social skills.
See it as the gym, you can get ripped, but if you stop training and dieting you’ll lose your gains, the same goes for social skills.
It’s a muscle and you can train it and keep it healthy. Follow this through and be consistent and you’ll be able to become NT and actually make friends with random people at the bar or club and further your reach on new girls that might be into you.
By Pseudo.
This is my personal method on how I became more NT, it’s slightly different than his but both very solid. This is what I used to do be super NT and go out and make out with Girls.
FYI: I’m now back here because I left the dating scene and don’t go out as much to focus on other things.
Step 1: Gymmaxing and Getting Lean.
This not only proved to myself that I can do hard things, but by just looking at myself in the mirror I was proud and I knew I had an attractive body.
Getting to 12% BF is crucial, the lower the better but sometimes you’ll look too skinny if you’re not super ripped (you don’t need to be super ripped obviously.)
Step 2: Social Training and Consistency.
Believe it or not, I used to go out with my friends at clubs or even walking through the city and if I saw a cute girl I would approach.
Approaching despite fear is crucial. Look at it as going for a cold plunge, it’s scary but the water doesn’t get any warmer if you wait for it and it’s only bad until you get into it.
I did this many times and got rejected approximately 50 times before I even got 1 IG? Why?
Because the first times I was literally trembling like a bitch, my voice was all cracked and I wasn’t even talking normally from the fear of rejection.
After getting used to approaching I was able to get multiple IGs and numbers and actually go out with some of the girls and my friends were too pussies to even try to approach and would even laugh at me while they got no girls or dates.
Obviously looks matter but this is not the point of the thread, we are focusing on NTness rn.
Step 3: Detach Yourself from People’s Opinions and What They Think About You.
Failing is not a bad thing, is a step closer to success and this is a fact.
But what you should focus on to not get depressed about getting rejected is that people and girls that you approach do NOT know who you are.
They only know the 10 second of approach that you gave and they’ll judge by that (and looks yeah but don’t focus on that now).
Step 4: Master Small Talk
This was so hard for me, I would be going out for walks during the day and just randomly start small talk with someone I saw.
For example, seeing a guy with a dog pass by I would ask “is it a male or female, is it good, what’s her name?” And stuff like that and then tell him to have a good day and people will genuinely appreciate you being interested or telling them to have a nice day.
Step 5: Complete Mastery.
This is what I didn’t do, which is keep doing this over and over until you fully master it. Obviously some days you won’t feel like it but you gotta do it to be able to escape that fear.
Once you master it, it’ll become your personality, but this doesn’t mean you won’t need to continue to train your brain and social skills.
See it as the gym, you can get ripped, but if you stop training and dieting you’ll lose your gains, the same goes for social skills.
It’s a muscle and you can train it and keep it healthy. Follow this through and be consistent and you’ll be able to become NT and actually make friends with random people at the bar or club and further your reach on new girls that might be into you.
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