JeanneDArcAlter
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This is all new to me, but recently my 17 year old son told me he wants to be a girl. He was on the fence and he was very nervous to tell me. I’m a 39 year old father and I have 4 children(all boys). 17M, 9M, 13M, and 19M and my 17M wants to be a girl. I really don’t know what to do. I’m not really that educated on trans topics. The only member in my family who’s LGBT is my younger sister and she’s bi however aside from that I don’t know much about gender identity. When he told me I had a long convo with him in private, and he told me he hasn’t decided a new name yet and but he’s been on the fence and has been scared to tell me, but that he’s been feeling like this for a while. I thought it was a joke at first until he gave me more details and I realized that he was serious about this. I told my wife about this and she told me that she knew and she wanted to know if I was ok with it? My oldest son(19M) who I’m very close with, is away for college, and I don’t really know how to manage this with my 17M son. My (40F) wife also told me that I should be more considerate about his feelings and that she’s planning on buying him some feminine accessories like wigs, clothes, makeup, etc. before fully transitioning but I just don’t know. I’ve raised him for 17 years as a boy and now he wants to be a girl? I don’t have any issues with trans or any LGBT minorities but it feels like a fever dream when you raise a kid for so long and they want to change everything about themselves out of nowhere.
He’s a good kid, he has currently went back to school, but he also told me he wants to start off his new school year as a girl and feel like his true self. I want to be supportive of him, but I don’t know where I start. I can’t really be supportive of something I don’t really have knowledge about? The thing is I don’t want him to face harassment over this so I’m kind of on the fence of letting him transition so soon since he’s still too young and he’s my kid and I rather him not experience so much hate for making a permanent decision until he’s much older. I’ve figured that posting here I could get some positive feedback from people that are trans themselves and have some knowledge.
I myself grew up in an all boys household and I’m raising all 4 boys along with my wife but one of my boys wants to be a girl. I need some advice because I have no idea on how to raise a girl. My son doesn’t really have strong masculine features(he’s pretty skinny, no visible Adam’s apple, and with no facial hair) but I just don’t think he could pass and if he does pass he would still face harassment which as a father I don’t want to see.
He’s a good kid, he has currently went back to school, but he also told me he wants to start off his new school year as a girl and feel like his true self. I want to be supportive of him, but I don’t know where I start. I can’t really be supportive of something I don’t really have knowledge about? The thing is I don’t want him to face harassment over this so I’m kind of on the fence of letting him transition so soon since he’s still too young and he’s my kid and I rather him not experience so much hate for making a permanent decision until he’s much older. I’ve figured that posting here I could get some positive feedback from people that are trans themselves and have some knowledge.
I myself grew up in an all boys household and I’m raising all 4 boys along with my wife but one of my boys wants to be a girl. I need some advice because I have no idea on how to raise a girl. My son doesn’t really have strong masculine features(he’s pretty skinny, no visible Adam’s apple, and with no facial hair) but I just don’t think he could pass and if he does pass he would still face harassment which as a father I don’t want to see.
