My "theory" on how to KEEP a girl (the hardest part in dating)

[gymcel64]

A herculean task, that is what keeping a woman is after you've initially attracted her and are in a LTR.

I have a vague theory based on my own experiences which is as follows :

You NEED to keep mingling with other women, it doesn't even need to be in a sexual or flirty manner, simply being in the presence and hanging out with other women.

First here is my input, me being a high IQ gent I was pretty good at accounting in uni and we had a small class and everybody knew eachother, the grand majority of people in my class were struggling with accounting (lazy bastards) and one day like 10 girls from the class asked me to give them lessons, so we proceed to book a classroom and I teach them (chad activities i know), after that they all want to thank me so they basically invite me to some restaurant and I sit there and eat with like 8 chicks (pretty cool I know) and so I happen to come back later from school than I should have. When I come home my then gf asks what was happening which I proceed to explain :
Now at that moment, I can see the insecurities and fear light up in her eyes. She seems nervous and a bit irritated, starts asking a bunch of questions about who they are and how they look (the girls) etc...

Miraculously, the following days, she is more affectionate, wants me to take her out to eat which I do (same place where I eat with the girls jfl) and there seems to be overall more attraction.

Now why is this, well certainly if it isn't clear enough it certainly will be now ; as insecurities and jealousy and fear start to spawn in the woman's mind, she will exert much effort in trying to "keep" you for herself and outcompete the other women. This is obviously because of fear of losing you, you gained more value because other women are interested in you, and even better if you are not the one to start the interactions and events.
Obviously this is maybe only one part of the whole "scheme", don't get me started on the amount of effort and thinking you have to do to keep a woman, it's fucked up, I know. Why we have to do all this effort for a reward that we don't even know if it is worth anything, that's something to ponder, but it's not like we have a choice anyway.

In essence it's sad that you have to make your woman insecure and scared for her to stay with you but that's just how the game is. As I don't think we will ever go back to the nuclear family sadly this is now the world we live in and what we have to do. Ideally you would like to have a woman that never gets bored of you, but we know that does not exist, even a morbidly obese 2PSL creature will get bored of you after enough time.

Now I'm warning you the reader that will get into relationships, do not do the same mistake as I did and stop actively talking and mingling with women, as this led me to losing the attraction from my ex. That's how it is, whatever your gf tells you to stop doing, continue doing it (fuck what a retarded but kinda true sentence).

Feel free to add your input on other stuff you have to keep in my mind for a LTR.

 

[LLsurgeryEnthusiast]

dnr + prob water

 

[gymcel64]

dnr + prob water

faggot, I put effort in.
And water but I still forgot to do the right thing

 

[LLsurgeryEnthusiast]

faggot, I put effort in

sorry, you are right i will now read then assess if its water or not

 

[davidlaidisme67]

A herculean task, that is what keeping a woman is after you've initially attracted her and are in a LTR.

I have a vague theory based on my own experiences which is as follows :

You NEED to keep mingling with other women, it doesn't even need to be in a sexual or flirty manner, simply being in the presence and hanging out with other women.

First here is my input, me being a high IQ gent I was pretty good at accounting in uni and we had a small class and everybody knew eachother, the grand majority of people in my class were struggling with accounting (lazy bastards) and one day like 10 girls from the class asked me to give them lessons, so we proceed to book a classroom and I teach them (chad activities i know), after that they all want to thank me so they basically invite me to some restaurant and I sit there and eat with like 8 chicks (pretty cool I know) and so I happen to come back later from school than I should have. When I come home my then gf asks what was happening which I proceed to explain :
Now at that moment, I can see the insecurities and fear light up in her eyes. She seems nervous and a bit irritated, starts asking a bunch of questions about who they are and how they look (the girls) etc...

Miraculously, the following days, she is more affectionate, wants me to take her out to eat which I do (same place where I eat with the girls jfl) and there seems to be overall more attraction.

Now why is this, well certainly if it isn't clear enough it certainly will be now ; as insecurities and jealousy and fear start to spawn in the woman's mind, she will exert much effort in trying to "keep" you for herself and outcompete the other women. This is obviously because of fear of losing you, you gained more value because other women are interested in you, and even better if you are not the one to start the interactions and events.
Obviously this is maybe only one part of the whole "scheme", don't get me started on the amount of effort and thinking you have to do to keep a woman, it's fucked up, I know. Why we have to do all this effort for a reward that we don't even know if it is worth anything, that's something to ponder, but it's not like we have a choice anyway.

In essence it's sad that you have to make your woman insecure and scared for her to stay with you but that's just how the game is. As I don't think we will ever go back to the nuclear family sadly this is now the world we live in and what we have to do. Ideally you would like to have a woman that never gets bored of you, but we know that does not exist, even a morbidly obese 2PSL creature will get bored of you after enough time.

Now I'm warning you the reader that will get into relationships, do not do the same mistake as I did and stop actively talking and mingling with women, as this led me to losing the attraction from my ex. That's how it is, whatever your gf tells you to stop doing, continue doing it (fuck what a retarded but kinda true sentence).

Feel free to add your input on other stuff you have to keep in my mind for a LTR.

Ngl this is water but I appreciate your effort

 

[LLsurgeryEnthusiast]

A herculean task, that is what keeping a woman is after you've initially attracted her and are in a LTR.

I have a vague theory based on my own experiences which is as follows :

You NEED to keep mingling with other women, it doesn't even need to be in a sexual or flirty manner, simply being in the presence and hanging out with other women.

First here is my input, me being a high IQ gent I was pretty good at accounting in uni and we had a small class and everybody knew eachother, the grand majority of people in my class were struggling with accounting (lazy bastards) and one day like 10 girls from the class asked me to give them lessons, so we proceed to book a classroom and I teach them (chad activities i know), after that they all want to thank me so they basically invite me to some restaurant and I sit there and eat with like 8 chicks (pretty cool I know) and so I happen to come back later from school than I should have. When I come home my then gf asks what was happening which I proceed to explain :
Now at that moment, I can see the insecurities and fear light up in her eyes. She seems nervous and a bit irritated, starts asking a bunch of questions about who they are and how they look (the girls) etc...

Miraculously, the following days, she is more affectionate, wants me to take her out to eat which I do (same place where I eat with the girls jfl) and there seems to be overall more attraction.

Now why is this, well certainly if it isn't clear enough it certainly will be now ; as insecurities and jealousy and fear start to spawn in the woman's mind, she will exert much effort in trying to "keep" you for herself and outcompete the other women. This is obviously because of fear of losing you, you gained more value because other women are interested in you, and even better if you are not the one to start the interactions and events.
Obviously this is maybe only one part of the whole "scheme", don't get me started on the amount of effort and thinking you have to do to keep a woman, it's fucked up, I know. Why we have to do all this effort for a reward that we don't even know if it is worth anything, that's something to ponder, but it's not like we have a choice anyway.

In essence it's sad that you have to make your woman insecure and scared for her to stay with you but that's just how the game is. As I don't think we will ever go back to the nuclear family sadly this is now the world we live in and what we have to do. Ideally you would like to have a woman that never gets bored of you, but we know that does not exist, even a morbidly obese 2PSL creature will get bored of you after enough time.

Now I'm warning you the reader that will get into relationships, do not do the same mistake as I did and stop actively talking and mingling with women, as this led me to losing the attraction from my ex. That's how it is, whatever your gf tells you to stop doing, continue doing it (fuck what a retarded but kinda true sentence).

Feel free to add your input on other stuff you have to keep in my mind for a LTR.

read it all and can still say h2o asf. learned this lesson at 14 u are late OP.

 

[gymcel64]

Ngl this is water but I appreciate your effort

Thanks dude

 

[gymcel64]

read it all and can still say h20 asf. learned this lesson at 14 u are late OP.

Yeah but some of us were autists losers at that age so I could only learn this later in life

 

[LLsurgeryEnthusiast]

Yeah but some of us were autists losers at that age so I could only learn this later in life

unfortunately understanding this lesson subconsciously threw me back in the loop/cycle afterwards only now escaping it is much harder because the bliss aspect is gone.

 

[gymcel64]

unfortunately understanding this lesson subconsciously threw me back in the loop/cycle afterwards only now escaping it is much harder because the bliss aspect is gone.

I have trouble understanding what you mean

 

[Brus Wane]

Ive come to the conclusion that there is no formula to keep anyone

You should be mingling to keep your options open. Full stop. There may come a day you may have to use it.

Its like having a second bank account. Idk.

 

[LLsurgeryEnthusiast]

I have trouble understanding what you mean

thinking and dwelling on what you stated in the post makes you unable to conquer and get past it. by always having this reoccuring thought it is harder to sustain a lifestyle within the solution. its contradictory. when you are a kid you are always indifferent and ignorant to these issues. once you become an adult even if you are ignorant does not mean the issue does not persist anymore. now you are left to escape it but the hole is far deeper because not only is the issue worse but you no longer have any subconscious copes to get you through it.

 

[gymcel64]

Ive come to the conclusion that there is no formula to keep anyone

You should be mingling to keep your options open. Full stop. There may come a day you may have to use it.

Its like having a second bank account. Idk.

Like having a spare tire in your car yeah, if it pops you are all good but still can't keep the spare tire on your car for too long as it's not made for that, you have to get a good quality tire back on

 

[gymcel64]

thinking and dwelling on what you stated in the post makes you unable to conquer and get past it. by always having this reoccuring thought it is harder to sustain a lifestyle within the solution. its contradictory. when you are a kid you are always indifferent and ignorant to these issues. once you become an adult even if you are ignorant does not mean the issue does not persist anymore. now you are left to escape it but the hole is far deeper because not only is the issue worse but you no longer have any subconscious copes to get you through it.

Yeah I have a tendency to dwell on mistakes I made, at least I learn but it's hard to get over it. But yeah, ignorance is bliss.

 

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[snowbunnypolice]

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[PeasantKing53]

The best way to keep a girl is to maintain the reason why she was even interested in you in the first place. If you fall off (get ugly or your physique gets bad or you become boring) then she will leave.

Also a big dick is an essential thing to keep a girl in a relationship. It is extremely difficult to keep a girl if you have a small dick or are bad at fucking.

But even then , if you do all these things there is still a chance someone better might come along who activates her dopamine reward center more and she’s gone.

 

[gymcel64]

The best way to keep a girl is to maintain the reason why she was even interested in you in the first place. If you fall off (get ugly or your physique gets bad or you become boring) then she will leave.

Also a big dick is an essential thing to keep a girl in a relationship. It is extremely difficult to keep a girl if you have a small dick or are bad at fucking.

But even then , if you do all these things there is still a chance someone better might come along who activates her dopamine reward center more and she’s gone.

Dual-mating strategy will eventually be your doom anyway, it's just a matter of time

 

[BrutalMogger]

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this thread is unfortunately larp, this is a message to the future generations to disregard this thread.

 

[quantitativePSL]

Dnrd most but I get the message. Always make your girl aware that at any moment you can get another girl. Do it indirectly ofc and don’t be an asshole but just let her know. Women don’t like men who other women don’t like. Don’t do it too often but every now and then tell her about an experience that clearly shows women want you just to remind her. If you’re HighHTN+ you don’t really need to do this but still I’d say do it a bit because women get complacent and start to think you’re lower than what you are sometimes and if you’re hHTN you probably are with a stacylite at that point actual chads will be pursuing her so can’t get too comfortable.

 

[White_Bwoi]

This is the law of any relationship with a woman, even FBW really because it always boosts your attractiveness level.
Same apply to them tbh I don't want a chick that nobody wants besides me, also - don't be an insecure jealous faggot (never).

 

[gymcel64]

This is the law of any relationship with a woman, even FBW really because it always boosts your attractiveness level.
Same apply to them tbh I don't want a chick that nobody wants besides me, also - don't be an insecure jealous faggot (never).

Mate guarding is the most exhausting retarded shit.

 

[dovka]

The real answer is you don’t, replace with a new one. You are scamming yourself by doing LTRs.

 

[superpsycho]

i cant get women in the first place

 

[gymcel64]

The real answer is you don’t, replace with a new one. You are scamming yourself by doing LTRs.

In a perfect world I could just enjoy a peaceful long lasting LTR

 

[bicromial]

A herculean task, that is what keeping a woman is after you've initially attracted her and are in a LTR.

I have a vague theory based on my own experiences which is as follows :

You NEED to keep mingling with other women, it doesn't even need to be in a sexual or flirty manner, simply being in the presence and hanging out with other women.

First here is my input, me being a high IQ gent I was pretty good at accounting in uni and we had a small class and everybody knew eachother, the grand majority of people in my class were struggling with accounting (lazy bastards) and one day like 10 girls from the class asked me to give them lessons, so we proceed to book a classroom and I teach them (chad activities i know), after that they all want to thank me so they basically invite me to some restaurant and I sit there and eat with like 8 chicks (pretty cool I know) and so I happen to come back later from school than I should have. When I come home my then gf asks what was happening which I proceed to explain :
Now at that moment, I can see the insecurities and fear light up in her eyes. She seems nervous and a bit irritated, starts asking a bunch of questions about who they are and how they look (the girls) etc...

Miraculously, the following days, she is more affectionate, wants me to take her out to eat which I do (same place where I eat with the girls jfl) and there seems to be overall more attraction.

Now why is this, well certainly if it isn't clear enough it certainly will be now ; as insecurities and jealousy and fear start to spawn in the woman's mind, she will exert much effort in trying to "keep" you for herself and outcompete the other women. This is obviously because of fear of losing you, you gained more value because other women are interested in you, and even better if you are not the one to start the interactions and events.
Obviously this is maybe only one part of the whole "scheme", don't get me started on the amount of effort and thinking you have to do to keep a woman, it's fucked up, I know. Why we have to do all this effort for a reward that we don't even know if it is worth anything, that's something to ponder, but it's not like we have a choice anyway.

In essence it's sad that you have to make your woman insecure and scared for her to stay with you but that's just how the game is. As I don't think we will ever go back to the nuclear family sadly this is now the world we live in and what we have to do. Ideally you would like to have a woman that never gets bored of you, but we know that does not exist, even a morbidly obese 2PSL creature will get bored of you after enough time.

Now I'm warning you the reader that will get into relationships, do not do the same mistake as I did and stop actively talking and mingling with women, as this led me to losing the attraction from my ex. That's how it is, whatever your gf tells you to stop doing, continue doing it (fuck what a retarded but kinda true sentence).

Feel free to add your input on other stuff you have to keep in my mind for a LTR.

Every molecule, helpful if i had a gf in the first place

 

[dovka]

In a perfect world I could just enjoy a peaceful long lasting LTR

Not in our world brother.

 

[gymcel64]

Not in our world brother.

I still cannot cope with this, tortures my mind very often

 

[dovka]

I still cannot cope with this, tortures my mind very often

It can get better. Maybe ur not blackpilled enough.

 

[gymcel64]

It can get better. Maybe ur not blackpilled enough.

what are you implying

 

[dovka]

what are you implying

Not being able to cope with how women are could be because u hold 2 conflicting views of the world. So that can get better. So does moving towards healthier lifestyles can also lead to being better.

 

[gymcel64]

Not being able to cope with how women are could be because u hold 2 conflicting views of the world. So that can get better. So does moving towards healthier lifestyles can also lead to being better.

It's not the women, it's the fact that I will never be able to have a life long relationship

 

[dovka]

It's not the women, it's the fact that I will never be able to have a life long relationship

How do you know that you would want it if you weren’t brainwashed by society? What you want does not exist in this world. So your problem is fixable with time and effort.

 

[superpsycho]

In a perfect world I could just enjoy a peaceful long lasting LTR

impossible

 

[gymcel64]

How do you know that you would want it if you weren’t brainwashed by society? What you want does not exist in this world. So your problem is fixable with time and effort.

I guess it's a way of seeing it, it still felt good to be in a LTR yk

 

[dovka]

I guess it's a way of seeing it, it still felt good to be in a LTR yk

Understandeable, however men are greatly limited by ltrs currently and can overall enjoy their life more in freedom. If u have nothing to do read manipulated man book, it reads fast. Should help with that a bit.

 

[gymcel64]

Understandeable, however men are greatly limited by ltrs currently and can overall enjoy their life more in freedom. If u have nothing to do read manipulated man book, it reads fast. Should help with that a bit.

I guess you're right, I guess I also was just a retarded oofy. I'll check that book out