Recessed Life
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My (39m) wife (28f) and I were very recently married. We dated for a little over 9 months before I proposed, and she accepted. We never had sex during that 9 months. I asked a few times, but she always said no. I figured she was waiting until marriage, and I was fine with that.
Now the wedding and ensuing honeymoon come along. I assumed we'd be doing what most newly weds do on their honeymoons, but again she said no. This time, however, she explained further and told me she is asexual. She finds the thought of having sex with me or anyone absolutely disgusting. I admittedly got a little heated, not just because we weren't going to have sex that night, but because I think this is something she should have told me long before we got married. That's pretty much what I told her and she said I have no right being upset over her sexual orientation.
I've had some time to cool down and think things through. I still absolutely love her. She is an amazing person and we've always gotten along like best friends since the day I met her. I don't want a divorce and I'm certainly not going to start cheating on her. But I do feel like she lied to me and it's not unreasonable for me to be a little angry. I'm not "upset over her sexual orientation" as she put it. I am upset that she kept something so major like that from me until now. Am I overreacting?
Now the wedding and ensuing honeymoon come along. I assumed we'd be doing what most newly weds do on their honeymoons, but again she said no. This time, however, she explained further and told me she is asexual. She finds the thought of having sex with me or anyone absolutely disgusting. I admittedly got a little heated, not just because we weren't going to have sex that night, but because I think this is something she should have told me long before we got married. That's pretty much what I told her and she said I have no right being upset over her sexual orientation.
I've had some time to cool down and think things through. I still absolutely love her. She is an amazing person and we've always gotten along like best friends since the day I met her. I don't want a divorce and I'm certainly not going to start cheating on her. But I do feel like she lied to me and it's not unreasonable for me to be a little angry. I'm not "upset over her sexual orientation" as she put it. I am upset that she kept something so major like that from me until now. Am I overreacting?
