wishIwasSalludon
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Me, 26m and my wife, 27f recently had a baby. We have been trying for years to get pregnant, so when my wife suddenly got pregnant it was a huge shock to us both. For privacy reasons, we’ll call her Anne. Anne and I met in college through a mutual friend. We hit it off instantly and got married 2yrs later. She is the light of my life. She’s beautiful, kind and funny. When Anne got pregnant last July, I was ecstatic. Although my wife wasn’t as happy as I expected her to be. She was overall really depressed during her pregnancy and didn’t talk to me much. I thought it was just mood swings or something, but boy was I wrong. Then a few days ago, she gave birth. For context, Anne and I are both very Asian. I emigrated to the US with my family from Korea when I was little. Anne’s family is third gen Chinese. I held her hand throughout the whole procedure. As soon as I saw the baby’s skin, I knew something was off. I’m really pale and my wife is just slightly tan. The baby looked very obviously African American. The nurses brought the baby out of the room and Anne started crying. She hasn’t spoken to me since, but I’ve been trying to bond with “our” child even if he isn’t biologically mine. I really love my wife but it’s obvious that an affair had been going on. I’m not sure what to do anymore
EDIT: I just had a straightforward conversation with my wife and asked who the father is, because I’m obviously not. She began to sob and tell me she was raped. I had to restrain myself from crying as well. He was an ex-coworker of hers. Now I understand why she wanted to quit her job so badly. I hugged her for a while and started questioning why I doubted her in the first place. Anne’s a very quiet and reserved person, so it makes sense why she wouldn’t tell anyone, not even her husband. I’m signing my wife up for therapy next week. I also think I might be infertile, as we tried for a baby for years straight, but one night with another guy got her pregnant. I’m going into the doctor for a test. I have no idea how I’ll explain this to my very traditional family without revealing my wife’s trauma. Nonetheless, I love my wife and newborn son and am planning on teaching him Korean even though he isn’t. I feel so fucking bad there was nothing I could do.
EDIT: I just had a straightforward conversation with my wife and asked who the father is, because I’m obviously not. She began to sob and tell me she was raped. I had to restrain myself from crying as well. He was an ex-coworker of hers. Now I understand why she wanted to quit her job so badly. I hugged her for a while and started questioning why I doubted her in the first place. Anne’s a very quiet and reserved person, so it makes sense why she wouldn’t tell anyone, not even her husband. I’m signing my wife up for therapy next week. I also think I might be infertile, as we tried for a baby for years straight, but one night with another guy got her pregnant. I’m going into the doctor for a test. I have no idea how I’ll explain this to my very traditional family without revealing my wife’s trauma. Nonetheless, I love my wife and newborn son and am planning on teaching him Korean even though he isn’t. I feel so fucking bad there was nothing I could do.