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[Deleted member 136057]

Theres this one girl that is pretty and she likes me. The problem is that i have no money and i live at home sharing my room with multiple siblings.

She also lives at home with her siblings.

So basically if i get together w her i cant take her out to eat or anything until i find a job. Also we cant really be intimate since both our houses are always occupied.

But finding a gf in todays economy is not easy so idk what to do. If i wait for a year or two till i move on my own she might find someone else, or lose feelings for me.

What would you guys do. Please tell me.

 

[Deleted member 136057]

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[kash Register]

Theres this one girl that is pretty and she likes me. The problem is that i have no money and i live at home sharing my room with multiple siblings.

She also lives at home with her siblings.

So basically if i get together w her i cant take her out to eat or anything until i find a job. Also we cant really be intimate since both our houses are always occupied.

But finding a gf in todays economy is not easy so idk what to do. If i wait for a year or two till i move on my own she might find someone else, or lose feelings for me.

What would you guys do. Please tell me.

Just do it now

 

[3wtf]

If she truly loves y she wont give a fuck trust me homie

 

[Deleted member 136057]

Just do it now

Do what?

 

[kash Register]

Do what?

Just date her now don’t wait

 

[Deleted member 136057]

If she truly loves y she wont give a fuck trust me homie

Ishe doesnt really care but what can we even do since we cant hangout outside cz i have no money and neither can we be at each others homes

 

[i_Mogger]

Theres this one girl that is pretty and she likes me. The problem is that i have no money and i live at home sharing my room with multiple siblings.

She also lives at home with her siblings.

So basically if i get together w her i cant take her out to eat or anything until i find a job. Also we cant really be intimate since both our houses are always occupied.

But finding a gf in todays economy is not easy so idk what to do. If i wait for a year or two till i move on my own she might find someone else, or lose feelings for me.

What would you guys do. Please tell me.

if shes into you for real it doesnt matter

 

[Deleted member 136057]

Just date her now don’t wait

But how do i date her? Just dont have sex? Its possible

 

[Deleted member 136057]

if shes into you for real it doesnt matter

she doesnt really care but what can we even do since we cant hangout outside cz i have no money and neither can we be at each others homes

 

[kash Register]

But how do i date her? Just dont have sex? Its possible

Yes Sex isn’t needed

 

[Deleted member 136057]

Yes Sex isn’t needed

Have you had such a relationship? How did it work out?

 

[kash Register]

Have you had such a relationship? How did it work out?

Yea it worked out badly but we just lost interest but if u dont date her now she’s gonna get with chad or something

 

[i_Mogger]

she doesnt really care but what can we even do since we cant hangout outside cz i have no money and neither can we be at each others homes

do things that doesnt take money and still are fun, like going for walks and just hanging out, and if you live in a slightly more rural place take her to explore n shit thats what i did with my girl and maybe some illegal things if shes into the bad boy archetype like urban exploring or taking candy from stores n shit

 

[Deleted member 136057]

Yea it worked out badly but we just lost interest but if u dont date her now she’s gonna get with chad or something

Yeah thats what i think also. Having sex is a important part of relationships, especially when ur young.

And she isnt gonna ”get with chad” but she will definetely lose interest after a while.

Im one of her first guys shes talked to. This would be easy relationship if i was older.

 

[Deleted member 136057]

do things that doesnt take money and still are fun, like going for walks and just hanging out, and if you live in a slightly more rural place take her to explore n shit thats what i did with my girl and maybe some illegal things if shes into the bad boy archetype like urban exploring or taking candy from stores n shit

U sure that will keep her interested? Cuz i dont wanna waste the little amount of money i have on her, if shes just gonna get bored in a couple months.

Even i myself would get bored of that kind of relationship in a while.

 

[Zeuxx]

unfortunately dude your just gonna have to let go, I’ve had this experience before, i am poor as dirt and this girl had only had crazy good bfs before that, but i just couldn’t compete, if you are her first, go ahead, but beware that it will suck for you and her, for her because she isn’t gonna feel like she’s having the real girlfriend experience but also you as you will feel inadequate for being unable to meet her standards,

If you wanna keep life simple don’t, if you are willing to sacrifice some time and some of your mind, go ahead

 

[Deleted member 136057]

unfortunately dude your just gonna have to let go, I’ve had this experience before, i am poor as dirt and this girl had only had crazy good bfs before that, but i just couldn’t compete, if you are her first, go ahead, but beware that it will suck for you and her, for her because she isn’t gonna feel like she’s having the real girlfriend experience but also you as you will feel inadequate for being unable to meet her standards,

If you wanna keep life simple don’t, if you are willing to sacrifice some time and some of your mind, go ahead

Yeah ur probably right. This response was really helpful.

I might just wait till summer and message her again and hope i can rekindle it. During summer you can do lots of things without the need for money. Rn its too cold outside.

This is really sad because everything is good between us, but circumstances dont let me be with her.

Ive been trying to find couple years older girls that already live alone but they dont want younger poor guys, especially since im not some htn or tall.

 

[i_Mogger]

U sure that will keep her interested? Cuz i dont wanna waste the little amount of money i have on her, if shes just gonna get bored in a couple months.

Even i myself would get bored of that kind of relationship in a while

maybe, also you could hang out with friends, its easier if you live in a more rural place, where do you live?

 

[Deleted member 136057]

maybe, also you could hang out with friends, its easier if you live in a more rural place, where do you live?

Capital of my country

 

[Zeuxx]

Yeah ur probably right. This response was really helpful.

I might just wait till summer and message her again and hope i can rekindle it. During summer you can do lots of things without the need for money. Rn its too cold outside.

This is really sad because everything is good between us, but circumstances dont let me be with her.

Ive been trying to find couple years older girls that already live alone but they dont want younger poor guys, especially since im not some htn or tall.

That’s terrible dude, luck is so important and annoying to deal with, I have the same issues. My family hate the idea of girlfriends and boy friends, I could literally never; plus I have no money to do anything with her. Honestly I’m just venting but I imagine you can relate

Bottom line; if she hasn’t had a bf before, then go for it, if she has but they were worse than you’d be, go ahead

Anything else dont

 

[Deleted member 136057]

That’s terrible dude, luck is so important and annoying to deal with, I have the same issues. My family hate the idea of girlfriends and boy friends, I could literally never; plus I have no money to do anything with her. Honestly I’m just venting but I imagine you can relate

Bottom line; if she hasn’t had a bf before, then go for it, if she has but they were worse than you’d be, go ahead

Anything else dont

Im 99% sure she has never had a bf. But in this situation i wouldnt really be her boyfriend either since we cant do normal couple stuff.

My family is also weird i dont want them to know i have relationship. And even if they were easy to talk to i wouldnt be able to bring her to my place.

Ive been trying to think about this for weeks. Maybe i just need to accept my current sitauation. Because a bad relationship is definetely worse than letting go.

 

[Zeuxx]

Im 99% sure she has never had a bf. But in this situation i wouldnt really be her boyfriend either since we cant do normal couple stuff.

My family is also weird i dont want them to know i have relationship. And even if they were easy to talk to i wouldnt be able to bring her to my place.

Ive been trying to think about this for weeks. Maybe i just need to accept my current sitauation. Because a bad relationship is definetely worse than letting go.

might aswell prevent the upset from a breakup, I guess, pretty brootal but it is what it is

 

[Deleted member 136057]

might aswell prevent the upset from a breakup, I guess, pretty brootal but it is what it is

Ive always been sad about how i only ascended late in my life. But i slowly realise i literally couldnt have dated 99% of the girls ive liked during my life.

The only way i could have sex is in some party or if we live alone. The first one sounds kinda nasty so i wouldnt even like it. And the 2nd is only possible once i grow a bit older.

 

[i_Mogger]

what country?

 

[Deleted member 136057]

what country?

F

 

[i_Mogger]

Finland

oh okay, not to bad

 

[Divineincel]

Theres this one girl that is pretty and she likes me. The problem is that i have no money and i live at home sharing my room with multiple siblings.

She also lives at home with her siblings.

So basically if i get together w her i cant take her out to eat or anything until i find a job. Also we cant really be intimate since both our houses are always occupied.

But finding a gf in todays economy is not easy so idk what to do. If i wait for a year or two till i move on my own she might find someone else, or lose feelings for me.

What would you guys do. Please tell me.

Love will overcome everything. I you and her like each other there is no reason why you shouldn’t be with her

 

[Deleted member 136057]

Love will overcome everything. I you and her like each other there is no reason why you shouldn’t be with her

Yeah but this is not disney movie bro. Im afraid she might lose interest if we never do intimate couple stuff

 

[Divineincel]

Yeah but this is not disney movie bro. Im afraid she might lose interest if we never do intimate couple stuff

You can rent airbnb for one night if you want to be intimate with her

 

[Deleted member 136057]

You can rent airbnb for one night if you want to be intimate with her

Yeah i was thinking about hotels, but the problem is im poor asf i have like 20 bucks to my name

 

[Divineincel]

Yeah i was thinking about hotels, but the problem is im poor asf i have like 20 bucks to my name

Do you have a tent?

 

[Deleted member 136057]

Do you have a tent?

No

 

[mulattocel]

Take her hiking

Nature is free and girls love it

 

[Deleted member 136057]

Take her hiking

Nature is free and girls love it

Its -20 celsius (-4 fahrenheit) in my country rn. Otherwise i wouldve went to the beach etc with her.

Should i just wait till summer?

 

[mulattocel]

Its -20 celsius (-4 fahrenheit) in my country rn. Otherwise i wouldve went to the beach etc with her.

Should i just wait till summer?

Nah she’ll be gone by then

Plan a picnic in the spring or something

 

[Deleted member 136057]

Nah she’ll be gone by then

Plan a picnic in the spring or something

Yeah, im gonna try to get some money anyway possible so i can like maybe treat her to some food or movies. Atleast once a week or two.

Just need to get lucky and land a job somehow.