Never obsess over how a woman feels

[Alexanderr]

Might be a :water: thread for most of you guys (even though most of you still fall victim to this, don't lie to me).

Picture this, you're in a relationship with her, she's had a terrible day at work- do you rush over and console her however you can? NO.

This is not to say you can not be a little sympathetic, just don't become engorged in their emotional state. A quick comment and then leave it as an afterthought.
Why? Because it's a rollercoaster. Women are emotional rollercoasters.

You'll never be able to soothe them and they'll start using you as their emotional dumpster. Hell, before you know it, they'll start acting fake upset knowing you'll scoot over to make her feel better. Wanting to see just how far you're willing to go.

You'll have them affecting the other parts of your life as well which you don't want.

Women can love or hate you but as long as they aren't indifferent, you'll be fine.

 

[khvirgin]

Just don't get in a relationship then

 

[Shieda_Kayn]

Insane thread. Wouldn't be surprised to see it pinned soon.

 

[Alexanderr]

Just don't get in a relationship then

This might apply to guys not in a relationship even more. The guys that aren't even getting to fuck her, the ones just in the friendzone, who she comes to whenever she has trouble with her boyfriend.

 

[Alexanderr]

Insane thread. Wouldn't be surprised to see it pinned soon.

Great idea.

 

[Sprinkles]

I’m naturally cold

if my bitch started crying I’d laugh at her and ignore her

i have low empathy

 

[Deleted member 20370]

 

[alien]

Might be a :water: thread for most of you guys (even though most of you still fall victim to this, don't lie to me).

Picture this, you're in a relationship with her, she's had a terrible day at work- do you rush over and console her however you can? NO.

This is not to say you can not be a little sympathetic, just don't become engorged in their emotional state. A quick comment and then leave it as an afterthought.
Why? Because it's a rollercoaster. Women are emotional rollercoasters.

You'll never be able to soothe them and they'll start using you as their emotional dumpster. Hell, before you know it, they'll start acting fake upset knowing you'll scoot over to make her feel better. Wanting to see just how far you're willing to go.

You'll have them affecting the other parts of your life as well which you don't want.

Women can love or hate you but as long as they aren't indifferent, you'll be fine.

I comforted my ex-FWB after she had a terrible day at work. And that ended up being our last date. And she ghosted me later.
I fucking hate this shit. I am a hopeless romantic at heart. I'm not interested in just casual sex.

 

[khvirgin]

This might apply to guys not in a relationship even more. The guys that aren't even getting to fuck her, the ones just in the friendzone, who she comes to whenever she has trouble with her boyfriend.

I only heard of the term "emotional tampon" with "female friends"
never in a relationship
In a relationship you're supposed to care about your partner and comfonrt her, just like she's supposed to care about you and comfort you

 

[Deleted member 25193]

Why obsess over a object that will never come to your defence unless you are the top of her pyramid of options she is a object I will use her as a stool and a punch bag

 

[ezio6]

Might be a :water: thread for most of you guys (even though most of you still fall victim to this, don't lie to me).

Picture this, you're in a relationship with her, she's had a terrible day at work- do you rush over and console her however you can? NO.

This is not to say you can not be a little sympathetic, just don't become engorged in their emotional state. A quick comment and then leave it as an afterthought.
Why? Because it's a rollercoaster. Women are emotional rollercoasters.

You'll never be able to soothe them and they'll start using you as their emotional dumpster. Hell, before you know it, they'll start acting fake upset knowing you'll scoot over to make her feel better. Wanting to see just how far you're willing to go.

You'll have them affecting the other parts of your life as well which you don't want.

Women can love or hate you but as long as they aren't indifferent, you'll be fine.

Theres a reason why in the bible said women should just stand in thr back of the church and stfu. Yeah 99% christian religion right now is just a scam. Free grace is where its at

 

[Xangsane]

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[Alexanderr]

In a relationship you're supposed to care about your partner and comfonrt her, just like she's supposed to care about you and comfort you

It's a fruitless task. Women being the emotional creatures that they are, will simply be emotional.
If you start to bear the responsibility of becoming the guy she comes to voice all her woes, you'll find yourself stuck in this position.
If you're overly empathetic, it might even start affecting your emotional state, spilling over onto the other aspects of your life like work.
If you opt to go on this emotional rollercoaster with her, you won't find yourself in a better position in the future- you'll just find yourself dangling from extreme to extreme more often.

 

[Deleted member 17872]

Just don’t be a beta cuck

 

[Deleted member 25193]

Just don’t be a beta cuck

Gynocentrism is the entirety of that statement

 

[Alexanderr]

I comforted my ex-FWB after she had a terrible day at work. And that ended up being our last date. And she ghosted me later.
I fucking hate this shit. I am a hopeless romantic at heart. I'm not interested in just casual sex.

It's pretty ironic how the more you care about women, the lower your odds of success with them.
In this day and age, if you care too much, you'll have your heart broken many, many times before you find a woman you can actually build a future with.

 

[khvirgin]

It's a fruitless task. Women being the emotional creatures that they are, will simply be emotional.
If you start to bear the responsibility of becoming the guy she comes to voice all her woes, you'll find yourself stuck in this position.
If you're overly empathetic, it might even start affecting your emotional state, spilling over onto the other aspects of your life like work.
If you opt to go on this emotional rollercoaster with her, you won't find yourself in a better position in the future- you'll just find yourself dangling from extreme to extreme more often.

This is way too extreme, you started from a bad day at work.

I only had one relationship and yes it was emotionally draining, but because she's was mentally unstable.
A woman with a normal mental health venting sometimes won't affect anything.

If you see it's too much for you just tell her to go to a therapist

 

[foidaddict]

Maybe when I'm in the first few stages of dating, but after a while I'd be too in love with her to just ignore her problems

 

[GetShrekt]

How much money for the cool names nigga

 

[Alexanderr]

This is way too extreme, you started from a bad day at work.

Because it's a straightforward example, it could be her period, family matters, or a million other things in the world.

I only had one relationship and yes it was emotionally draining, but because she's was mentally unstable.
A woman with a normal mental health venting sometimes won't affect anything.

The more comfortable she feels using you as her emotional outlet, the more often you'll experience the venting.

The problem doesn't even lie with her venting, it lies with becoming too emotionally engorged in her venting. It's when you make it an absolute priority to ensure her happiness always (an impossible task).

In fact, they might even subconsciously start doing so more often knowing you'll be there for them.

If you see it's too much for you just tell her to go to a therapist

Most girls that would need therapy, wouldn't react well to a comment about them needing therapy. It'd be better to avoid such stress by just breaking up before it gets to that point.

 

[Alexanderr]

Maybe when I'm in the first few stages of dating, but after a while I'd be too in love with her to just ignore her problems

You can acknowledge her problems, just don't let her problems become your problems. I know this might seem obvious but lots of guys are constantly overthinking about the way a girl feels, whether it's about them or just in general.

 

[Alexanderr]

How much money for the cool names nigga

Buy VIP broke ass nigga

 

[khvirgin]

In fact, they might even subconsciously start doing so more often knowing you'll be there for them.

Well...that's part of a relationship.

I feel like you feel this way because you wouldn't open yourself to your girl in a relationship, because she would use it against you or see you as weak, so you see no benefits in doing it, since it wouldn't be mutual

 

[Alexanderr]

Well...that's part of a relationship.

I feel like you feel this way because you wouldn't open yourself to your girl in a relationship, because she would use it against you or see you as weak, so you see no benefits in doing it, since it wouldn't be mutual

I imagine myself in the position and think, will my overt attention and full emotional capacity change the end result? No. Then why bother?

Perhaps, if I could guarantee myself to not let her emotional outbursts spill over to other aspects of my life, but if you care too much- that is what'll inevitably happen.

So, I'd opt to give her a quick comment of support or understanding and then leave it as an afterthought. Knowing this state of seesaw emotions is her usual state.

Now, like all things some nuance is involved here, one needs to have a sense of where the relationship is going, and not every situation is quite like the other (ex. family passing).

 

[ReadBooksEveryday]

I comforted my ex-FWB after she had a terrible day at work. And that ended up being our last date. And she ghosted me later.
I fucking hate this shit. I am a hopeless romantic at heart. I'm not interested in just casual sex.

Women don’t want the faint hearted

Only the cold emotionless incels can handle a real relationship . You were born and bred for the 90s where this actually worked

 

[BoneDensity]

Why obsess over a object that will never come to your defence unless you are the top of her pyramid of options she is a object I will use her as a stool and a punch bag

Yo that's so based bro!

 

[ShowerMaxxing]

It's pretty ironic how the more you care about women, the lower your odds of success with them.
In this day and age, if you care too much, you'll have your heart broken many, many times before you find a woman you can actually build a future with.

That’s cus most women of today are overly masculine due to “feminism.” Quite the oxymoron. On top of that many are damaged either as children(molested,no father figure) or as adults(promiscuous and used). Atleast in the west

 

[alriodai]

This is way too extreme, you started from a bad day at work.

I only had one relationship and yes it was emotionally draining, but because she's was mentally unstable.
A woman with a normal mental health venting sometimes won't affect anything.

If you see it's too much for you just tell her to go to a therapist

Theses guys are all a brainwashed hive mind thinking the same
Generalizing every gender and dehumanizing them
"Omg women are so emotionally unstable" there is also ton of men that are emotionally unstable ;(some of them on the forum)

Whats the point? Why even LTR a girl if ur not gonna put up w her bullshit? Just fuck her

 

[Alexanderr]

Theses guys are all a brainwashed hive mind thinking the same
Generalizing every gender and dehumanizing them
"Omg women are so emotionally unstable" there is also ton of men that are emotionally unstable ;(some of them on the forum)

Most stereotypes hold some truth to them.
The stereotype that women are emotional creatures didn't appear out of thin air, it's a common theme.

Whats the point? Why even LTR a girl if ur not gonna put up w her bullshit? Just fuck her

Don't misinterpret the thread, you can "put up" with her bullshit, just don't get caught up in it.
The point is to not allow her to "yoyo" you into her ups and downs.

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

If they're not satisfied they leave then you have no puss

 

[khvirgin]

Theses guys are all a brainwashed hive mind thinking the same
Generalizing every gender and dehumanizing them
"Omg women are so emotionally unstable" there is also ton of men that are emotionally unstable ;(some of them on the forum)

Whats the point? Why even LTR a girl if ur not gonna put up w her bullshit? Just fuck her

Just sticky your own thread theorem

 

[cabbage]

In a relationship you're supposed to care about your partner and comfonrt her, just like she's supposed to care about you and comfort you

rare non psychotic .org user

 

[darkness97]

you should never obsess over anything that isn't in your control in the first place. its good to be supportive when one can but beyond that it isn't really your issue.

 

[LiteralCaucasian]

Women can love or hate you but as long as they aren't indifferent, you'll be fine.

On this forum, we only know of total apathy to the world, and complete dedication to one's work. No in between.

 

[BigNigga69]

I’m naturally cold

if my bitch started crying I’d laugh at her and ignore her

i have low empathy

I can't lie that's kinda fucked but based. I had a couple girlfriends over the past few months (got bored wasting time messaging bitches on apps) and I wish I had that ability looking back, bc those whores were very replaceable in hindsight.

 

[Deleted member 19036]

Most stereotypes hold some truth to them.
The stereotype that women are emotional creatures didn't appear out of thin air, it's a common theme.

Don't misinterpret the thread, you can "put up" with her bullshit, just don't get caught up in it.
The point is to not allow her to "yoyo" you into her ups and downs.

nah women are heartless as fuck.

 

[MoggerGaston]

Only dark-triad PSL moggers have what it takes to date modern women.

 

[Deleted member 23017]

Just don't get in a relationship then

Agreed, if you don't get in a relationship you can't get cucked.

 

[Gargamel]

I just fuck my gf if she feels bad.

Choke her until all the bad thoughts are squeezed out.

 

[๕ඞChick3ncu1ry]

The dilemma of female brain, wanting you to care but then get turned off by it, wanting you to share past trauma saying that it will bring us closer but then use it against u and ghost u. Honestly, just looksmax to the point of having abundance by that point you intrinsically care less by nature.

 

[horizontallytall]

How one feels is very subjective , i mean for autists. Most normies dont feel they just go with the tune. My irl autist friend has very different opinion compared to me and he has good logic , which u cant disregard. Things are subjective for certain people

 

[ezio6]

Theres a reason why in the bible said women should just stand in thr back of the church and stfu. Yeah 99% christian religion right now is just a scam. Free grace is where its at

I mean free grace of believing our lord jesus christ, not "religion" of christianity . You can be hindu or muslim and still believe lord jesus with your heart and you will still get salvation. Jesus is god.

 

[robtical]

You are still supposed to provide emotional support. You are suppose to hear her rant and let her FEEL heard and not judged. That will bond her more with you. Guys start giving solutions and treat the problem like theirs which makes her FEEL judged. Just listen and let her feel heard. thats it.

 

[distance decay]

You are still supposed to provide emotional support. You are suppose to hear her rant and let her FEEL heard and not judged. That will bond her more with you. Guys start giving solutions and treat the problem like theirs which makes her FEEL judged. Just listen and let her feel heard. thats it.

This, dont act too invested but just listen and throw in a couple therapist questions like "howd that make you feel"

I was talking to a girl and she was talking about she's a waitress and I told her "Oh I feel like that jobs alot harder than what people think it is" and she became alot more receptive to me