Nightlife advice

[TerminatorGenisys9]

I need tips on how to approach at college bars. Every time I talk to a girl I’m just way too neurodivergent to continue the convo and move it to making out then slaying. Last weekend I made my first approach ever usually I’d make eye contact with a girl and just say walk near her and she would talk to my group first. Anyways the 28 year old for some reason was at a college with a bunch of people under 21, and of course I was too drunk to tell this wasn’t gonna work. Regardless I larp 21 as she’s 28 and she tells me her job is a sleep expert . This flicked a switch in my brain from drunk nt to autistic drunk nd and I start begging her to help me fake my sleep apnea test for a free double jaw surgery. She still entertained me but I clearly just lost any chance I had as I went from asking her questions and listening to venting about this shit. This goes back to my point of me just not having enough nt lines to talk to with girls. I don’t listen to music and one girl blocked me this week cause of it. Is there any way someone can explain what to actually say to a girl to get her to dance then slaying eventually like I’m just so nd and don’t know a guide to actually fix it.

TLDR: I’m too autistic when I go out at night and need help talking to girls what to say and how to slay them from bar to their place because my roommate will cuck me if he’s home

Also the only music I ever listen to is Lana del Rey and weird niche stuff with a sprinkle of autism bp songs in there. Girl was too freaky for me so didn’t mind the block

 

[Sektor]

Alr if ur nervous get drunk but tipsy

Before approaching are you making eye contact with her if shes looking at u smiling Go for it buy her a drink notice something abt her hair skin accent ask her questions make yourself seem like a fun oerson

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

Alr if ur nervous get drunk but tipsy

Before approaching are you making eye contact with her if shes looking at u smiling Go for it buy her a drink notice something abt her hair skin accent ask her questions make yourself seem like a fun oerson

I’m not necessarily nervous I just feel autistic when approaching or like a creep. I’ve never asked a girl if she wants me to buy a drink and I’m not sure most guys do that in the bars we go to as it’s a very hectic environment where almost everyone there just comes in hammered already and doesn’t spend money at the bars. I also don’t know how to proceed post compliment she could thank me and compliment back and I’ve sat there in silence before looking at the ground and shi. My guess would be asking to dance and just hope I got drunk enough to go with the flow

 

[taai]

Tbh op if she is so much into music that answer "I do not care enough about music" just makes it over. It's like you are saying you don't care about what interests you.

Depending on how much they like you a priori they will tolerate so much of your weirdness. This threshold is bigger as she gets to know you: she's ok with you being weird.

If you are drunk and don't know what to talk about ask her about very NT background check questions NT people do like: do you have a boyfriend? Tells her you are interested in her for example and opens up to talk.

 

[taai]

I’m not necessarily nervous I just feel autistic when approaching or like a creep. I’ve never asked a girl if she wants me to buy a drink and I’m not sure most guys do that in the bars we go to as it’s a very hectic environment where almost everyone there just comes in hammered already and doesn’t spend money at the bars. I also don’t know how to proceed post compliment she could thank me and compliment back and I’ve sat there in silence before looking at the ground and shi. My guess would be asking to dance and just hope I got drunk enough to go with the flow

It's normal to feel autistic. You are uncomfortable and putting yourself in a hard situation, just don't get carried away by this, try to unironically larp, it's hard but if you are drunk inhib is not that low

 

[Sektor]

I’m not necessarily nervous I just feel autistic when approaching or like a creep. I’ve never asked a girl if she wants me to buy a drink and I’m not sure most guys do that in the bars we go to as it’s a very hectic environment where almost everyone there just comes in hammered already and doesn’t spend money at the bars. I also don’t know how to proceed post compliment she could thank me and compliment back and I’ve sat there in silence before looking at the ground and shi. My guess would be asking to dance and just hope I got drunk enough to go with the flow

This is what i mean drink a little so the nervous is out of ur system

Like i said if shee making eye contact with u smiling Go for it nothing to lose if she rejects just walk away nothing you'll be to drunk to even care

Do yk how to start a convo?

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

Tbh op if she is so much into music that answer "I do not care enough about music" just makes it over. It's like you are saying you don't care about what interests you.

Depending on how much they like you a priori they will tolerate so much of your weirdness. This threshold is bigger as she gets to know you: she's ok with you being weird.

If you are drunk and don't know what to talk about ask her about very NT background check questions NT people do like: do you have a boyfriend? Tells her you are interested in her for example and opens up to talk.

I can admit I was being a dick to this girl but I also didn’t wanna pretend. I could’ve larped and acted extremely sweet with her anyways but that’s just too performative for me.

I’ve also never asked a girl if she has a bf in the bar and stuff but yeah I def see how it would make her know I’m interested. In my brain I always think just going up and saying hi is enough but I’m not Chad so gotta work for it

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

It's normal to feel autistic. You are uncomfortable and putting yourself in a hard situation, just don't get carried away by this, try to unironically larp, it's hard but if you are drunk inhib is not that low

Will try thank you!

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

This is what i mean drink a little so the nervous is out of ur system

Like i said if shee making eye contact with u smiling Go for it nothing to lose if she rejects just walk away nothing you'll be to drunk to even care

Do yk how to start a convo?

No I have no idea how to initiate convo and then lead onto it. The one girl I brought back to my friend’s apartment I knew from hs and she had a bf who I knew so it’s not like I was hitting on her anyways, but we had things in common we could talk about. Carrying on she had all her friends come with and it was more so for one of the boys in my group could get play and I just sat on the couch talking with my friend talking to the more interesting lesbian because we actually found her pretty cool

 

[Sektor]

No I have no idea how to initiate convo and then lead onto it. The one girl I brought back to my friend’s apartment I knew from hs and she had a bf who I knew so it’s not like I was hitting on her anyways, but we had things in common we could talk about. Carrying on she had all her friends come with and it was more so for one of the boys in my group could get play and I just sat on the couch talking with my friend talking to the more interesting lesbian because we actually found her pretty cool

Hm i used to be like that but i just didnt care try to mske actually funny jokes so you'll seem interesting about the talking ask her what shes styding where she lived music taste you have to keep yk asking questions untill she can freely talk and then just ask her questions about that topic

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

Hm i used to be like that but i just didnt care try to mske actually funny jokes so you'll seem interesting about the talking ask her what shes styding where she lived music taste you have to keep yk asking questions untill she can freely talk and then just ask her questions about that topic

I’ll try and reply Friday night with results. I’ll prob lead with hi I like something about her, ask if she has a bf then either ask if I can buy her a drink or dance after talking to her for about a minute or 2. I also saw if ur talking to a girl and in 2 mins she doesn’t show huge iois to just take the hint and leave her. What do I say? Another inquiry is about the texting to slay. I find this probably the easiest but I just don’t feel like doing it at all. I’m sure the girl would’ve let me slay as she was always sexualizing herself to me which freaked me out too much because I’m a little virgin who would prefer to get drunk and then slay. I also just find it really disingenuous because I haven’t actually texted anybody I actually truly like