No matter what I’m just never happy, why?

[House Lannister]

Even after a great day maybe I’m happy for a few hours then back to normal. Why is my head like this. What do I do to solve it.

 

[Yliaster]

Because you need to create happiness,not something that spontaneously happens.You do this by creating
goals for yourself and accomplishing them,every step closer to your goals makes you more and more
stimulated.

Tony Robbins said that Happiness is making progress,regardless of what it is.Getting out of your comfort zone
though is essential

 

[Deleted member 11126]

Even after a great day maybe I’m happy for a few hours then back to normal. Why is my head like this. What do I do to solve it.

Idk I was happy back in my last year of HS I finally got friends we would hang out everyday drive around at the time tho I just was bored talking to them. I also had a gf my life was looking up.

I don't know if long term happiness is possible but I know for sure hell has levels to it. Happiness is finite to some degree but misery is not its nearly infinite you might think reality is bad but it could be worse. So even back then I was not happy persay but my life was not bad either. I think misery is sorta a neccisary thing for humans. When you are miserable or looking towards something you get the most done.

Fear of lose will always be more powerful then wanting to gain something. I still think I have adapted pretty well to being miserable but I do miss the happy days. You need to be moving towards something if you are miserable and suffering but things are not improving then its got no upsides but at least if you suffer to improve then you can look back on it and be happy

 

[Maalik]

Idk I was happy back in my last year of HS I finally got friends we would hang out everyday drive around at the time tho I just was bored talking to them. I also had a gf my life was looking up.

I don't know if long term happiness is possible but I know for sure hell has levels to it. Happiness is finite to some degree but misery is not its nearly infinite you might think reality is bad but it could be worse. So even back then I was not happy persay but my life was not bad either.

Happiness in my opinion, is the absence of unease, nervousness, insecurity, restlessness and other mentally draining emotions

 

[Latinus]

Same here. No matter what I do, the abused dog syndrome will never leave me away.

 

[Deleted member 11126]

Happiness in my opinion, is the absence of unease, nervousness, insecurity, restlessness and other mentally draining emotions

Yeah human biology dictates that happiness will always be weaker then pain and suffering. It makes sense in a logical way lets say you want food you risk your life fighting a bigger animal and die or even if you do win you get food for a week. Your body is always more afraid of the negatives since they are terminal.

Losing to your brain is more scary then winning is stimulating. They did experiments on lobsters and forced them into fights and intentionally rigged them so one lobster lost. The more it lost the more its brain resembled a depressed person. Even in fights without interference the lobster always lost or avoided fights and was extremely timid. Your brain will always avoid conflict if losing is a likely outcome creating the defeatists you see on this board. The lobster had lower testosterone its brain rewired it and it had higher anxiety levels. Basically its brain and biology are telling it that it will lose and not to bother trying. The chemical make up of its brain changed to reflect reality.

What do you think losing thousands of times does to the brain? Certainly nothing good... I don't think a person with any IQ or self awarness can have loses and negative feedback without cracking. They call this anxiety depression or even autism but its natural. Failure in nature is always negatively rewarded your brain avoids it like crazy. The more you fail the more likely you are to fail or avoid said thing

 

[House Lannister]

Yeah human biology dictates that happiness will always be weaker then pain and suffering. It makes sense in a logical way lets say you want food you risk your life fighting a bigger animal and die or even if you do win you get food for a week. Your body is always more afraid of the negatives since they are terminal.

Losing to your brain is more scary then winning is stimulating. They did experiments on lobsters and forced them into fights and intentionally rigged them so one lobster lost. The more it lost the more its brain resembled a depressed person. Even in fights without interference the lobster always lost or avoided fights and was extremely timid. Your brain will always avoid conflict if losing is a likely outcome creating the defeatists you see on this board. The lobster had lower testosterone its brain rewired it and it had higher anxiety levels. Basically its brain and biology are telling it that it will lose and not to bother trying. The chemical make up of its brain changed to reflect reality.

What do you think losing thousands of times does to the brain? Certainly nothing good... I don't think a person with any IQ or self awarness can have loses and negative feedback without cracking. They call this anxiety depression or even autism but its natural. Failure in nature is always negatively rewarded your brain avoids it like crazy. The more you fail the more likely you are to fail or avoid said thing

That lobster reminds me of myself smh

 

[Deleted member 11126]

That lobster reminds me of myself smh

You can rewire it but it will be hard. You need to put yourself in environments where you can win then use momentum. This is how kids are supposed to develop with milestones. They go through stages compete and as they get older stronger and smarter have more adversity.

Too much adversity you snap too little you deteriorate but your brain and body is always seeking homeostasis. For me I ended up a neet because my brain realized I couldn't make it I failed too much too hard in college and it just shut me down. I am slowly getting out though your brain will lag behind but you need to win incrementally each win makes it easier to win next time.

If you shock your system too hard your brain will retaliate and seek to avoid that but if you don't do it enough you will be a neet or spend your whole life hiding and getting worse.

 

[House Lannister]

You can rewire it but it will be hard. You need to put yourself in environments where you can win then use momentum. This is how kids are supposed to develop with milestones. They go through stages compete and as they get older stronger and smarter have more adversity.

Too much adversity you snap too little you deteriorate but your brain and body is always seeking homeostasis. For me I ended up a neet because my brain realized I couldn't make it I failed too much too hard in college and it just shut me down. I am slowly getting out though your brain will lag behind but you need to win incrementally each win makes it easier to win next time.

If you shock your system too hard your brain will retaliate and seek to avoid that but if you don't do it enough you will be a neet or spend your whole life hiding and getting worse.

Was able to rewire quite a bit with a few wins recently but as soon as I go too long without one I just regress badly

 

[Deleted member 11126]

Was able to rewire quite a bit with a few wins recently but as soon as I go too long without one I just regress badly

You should always be having micro wins. Physical activity is one good way

Happiness will always be weaker then pain or misery (brutal brainwiring pill)

Happiness has baked in limits even someone on drugs will tell you that. As much happiness as they feel the pain they feel is always greater in the end no drug addict ever says the happiness outweighed the pain. Happiness is finite even chads often times chase dopamine from drugs (even the most...

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[Zonar]

Same problem tbh. This thread has been insightful. Thank you