Not caring about what people think is such bullshit

[I_mustAccend]

The whole world treats you based on what they think. You can either have good relationships, jobs. friends and respect or be absolutely fucked over. Yeah it's great to not care and whatever the fuck but that's just not realistic if u want any kind of good life. People literally act because of what they think about u because what else do they have to go off? Literally nothing, so that means it determines exactly how you are treated and how good your life is. A few examples are that people are bullied for a reason, good looking people are more tolerated, popular, and respected and if there was an ugly and a good looking person that did the same thing the ugly person would always have a much worse outcome. There is just no instance where what people think doesn't affect how they treat u, and the sad part is you often can't recover from bad impressions and are just fucked for life.

 

[VohnnyBoy]

everyone cares what others think, the ones that really don’t are not NT

 

[Proex]

you shouldn't care if there is nothing you can do about it, it's just unecesary cortisol spikes atp

 

[greycel]

The whole world treats you based on what they think. You can either have good relationships, jobs. friends and respect or be absolutely fucked over. Yeah it's great to not care and whatever the fuck but that's just not realistic if u want any kind of good life. People literally act because of what they think about u because what else do they have to go off? Literally nothing, so that means it determines exactly how you are treated and how good your life is. A few examples are that people are bullied for a reason, good looking people are more tolerated, popular, and respected and if there was an ugly and a good looking person that did the same thing the ugly person would always have a much worse outcome. There is just no instance where what people think doesn't affect how they treat u, and the sad part is you often can't recover from bad impressions and are just fucked for life.

If you find your fulfillment through involvement of another person, then you can say their opinion on you does matter..
But other factors matter too, such as:
1. how many people are involved
2. if they are strangers (fresh slate), or people who you already have strong bonds with (family/friends)
3. how much time they spend with you
4. what they feel when they are with you - their experiences with you tied to what emotions?

And with all of this being said, you caring about another's input =/= you basing your own worth due to another's input.. this is where you don't care for another's validation.. which is what people mean when they say not caring about what people think

everyone cares what others think, the ones that really don’t are not NT

You can be NT yet choose an introverted life.

 

[greycel]

you shouldn't care if there is nothing you can do about it, it's just unecesary cortisol spikes atp

Even if there is something you can do, why should you bother doing it to appease somebody who should hold little to no worth in your eyes?

Not everybody holds the same worth.

People who make comments about how you look (say foids do amongst each other). The second somebody tries to to maliciously put somebody down, they aren't entitled to any of your respect, therefore any of your consideration.

They hold 0 value.

Strangers should not be 0, but should be very minimal.
When you have to go outside, no need to squint.. because you are wanting validation from random strangers you are pedestalizing. Giving them elevated worth, for no reason

The only person you should care to find you attractive, should be your wife.
Vice versa too.

 

[william.]

everyone cares what others think, the ones that really don’t are not NT