SharpOrange
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I 34F matched with a guy 38M on Bumble. When asked if he was single/married/divorced, he told me he was going through his divorce. That should have been my first sign to run!!! However we began talking and he told me about his failed marriage and stuff.
You may ask why I entertained a stranger who was going through his divorce. Let me tell you, my empathetic self always believed that everybody deserves a second chance and if this man who also happened to be from my community was a nice person I was okay to consider him for marriage.
I was apprehensive about meeting him cos he was still going through his divorce so we met thrice in the span of 7 months. But those 7 months I was his unpaid therapist.
In the 7 months we spoke over msgs and calls, a beautiful attachment blossomed between us and we vibed on a different level altogether. We spoke about marriage, our future, kids and stuff.
In the 7th month I was telling my friend about meeting this guy on Bumble and how its going with him and shared his pics. My friend instantly recognised those pics were photoshopped and fake. These pics were the pics that I had screenshot from his Bumble profile for “memories”. I was taken aback!
I then started examining every picture, voice note and msg he had sent. How could a smart girl like me overlook such crucial details??? Maybe I was desperate to marry and settle down? I dont know.
Things he told me about his marriage
* It was an arranged marriage, wife denied sex on first night, demanded a flat and property in exchange for sex.
* When the divorce proceedings started, wife accused him of rape, hence his senior lady advocate asked him to send his d•ck pics to her and when presented to the wife, she picked the wrong one, thus proving she was lying about the rape. This investigation happened in a cafe btw.
* He would send me screenshots of conversations that were unrealistic and hard to believe often where his friends were stroking his ego. I later figured out that these pics were generated through those apps where you can create fake screenshots.
* He would say he is close friends with Sudha Murthy and they are neighbors.
* He would send me trading pictures saying he made 2L, 5L, 1L per day. Later I figured out those pics were fake too.
* He would always tell me how people are out there to get him. And how he is weary of people. He has 0 friends. 0 social skills.
• He had accidentaly mentioned a girl’s name who is a popular emcee in the city. I got in touch with her. She told me he took her out thrice, made her invest in his friend’s stock company and ghosted her when she lost money.
I decided to confront him and left msgs demanding an explanation and guess what he does? Blocks me!
I even went to his place looking for him. He had vacated and new tenants had moved in.
Cut to: 8th February I get roses from this man on Rose day.
I decided not to respond and kept quiet. Few days later out of curiousity I called his number, it said switched off.
Why am I pissed?
This man used me as an emotional crutch for 7 months. And ghosts me when I confronted him on his suspicious behaviour. I am hurt. My ego is hurt that I was taken for a ride. I had plans of marrying this man and spending the rest of my life with him.
Before you come at me with comments like I was thinking marrying a rich guy, was looking to settle down etc, let me tell you, this guy was well behaved, he showed a lot of integrity when he spoke and told me he came from a family of doctors and stuff. I have matched with entrepreneurs, pub owners, start up founders on bumble before(I usually go for premium subscription) but why him and and why not them? Cos he said he was from my community and spoke the same language. And I thought it would be easy to convince my parents.
