Once you match with a girl what to say?

[green]

I've matched with girls and sent out "hey" to everyone. About 1/3 responded with some form of "hiii" "hii" "hey". Where do you go from here? There must be some attraction because I am matching and getting a response, but it's not like I have chad looks where I can just ask them to hook up with any kind of success rate at all.

 

[magnificentcel]

Wanna fuck

 

[SkinjobCatastrophe]

Just ask them if they want to meet up at some hipster coffee shop. That way theres no obligation to spend a bunch of money and its a public place so you dont seem creepy or too desperate like saying “lets bang at my place”

 

[green]

Wanna fuck

Chad only

 

[Mr.cope]

all tinder girls just want to fuck

 

[Deleted member 10536]

I've matched with girls and sent out "hey" to everyone. About 1/3 responded with some form of "hiii" "hii" "hey". Where do you go from here? There must be some attraction because I am matching and getting a response, but it's not like I have chad looks where I can just ask them to hook up with any kind of success rate at all.

You talk with them like they're a person with whom you want to meet up.
Wtf is this autism. And people tell me I'm mentalcel. Fuck this world.
@lutte @WadlowMaxxing @streege
Experts that will surely help you.

 

[Deleted member 10782]

1. Safe route, but more time consuming: 3-4 messages building comfort (ask about hobbies, something about her pics), then ask her out for drinks in a bar.

2. Direct route, but more polarizing: ask what she's doing, then ask her if she's "looking for company".

Both have worked for me in the past, but:

- Number (1) will get you more dates, but also last-minute FLAKES, which I fucking hate. Dates are going to take more time, and might end up in absolutely nothing. So you might waste hours of your life of planning, scheduling, going on the date, and then go back home with your dick in your hand.

- Number (2) will get you ghosted 90% of the times unless you're Chad. However, when a girl is down to meet, sex is likely to happen, BUT NOT GUARANTEED. Regardless, it is low investment for you to have a girl come over, escalate, and either fuck or tell her to go back home if she doesn't want to put out.

Your call.

 

[Tusseleif]

Ideally they should message first, because they do. I just say hey and me or they ask what’s up, I just say relaxing or doing my hobbies or stuff like that, then add them on snap and let it go from there

 

[Deleted member 2854]

So what you're saying is you have zero conversation / social skills

 

[WadlowMaxxing]

You talk with them like they're a person with whom you want to meet up.
Wtf is this autism. And people tell me I'm mentalcel. Fuck this world.
@lutte @WadlowMaxxing @streege
Experts that will surely help you.

@lutte did we break him

 

[JustBeCurry]

say hey bighead

 

[green]

So what you're saying is you have zero conversation / social skills

Yes

 

[Deleted member 10524]

1. Safe route, but more time consuming: 3-4 messages building comfort (ask about hobbies, something about her pics), then ask her out for drinks in a bar.

2. Direct route, but more polarizing: ask what she's doing, then ask her if she's "looking for company".

Both have worked for me in the past, but:

- Number (1) will get you more dates, but also last-minute FLAKES, which I fucking hate. Dates are going to take more time, and might end up in absolutely nothing. So you might waste hours of your life of planning, scheduling, going on the date, and then go back home with your dick in your hand.

- Number (2) will get you ghosted 90% of the times unless you're Chad. However, when a girl is down to meet, sex is likely to happen, BUT NOT GUARANTEED. Regardless, it is low investment for you to have a girl come over, escalate, and either fuck or tell her to go back home if she doesn't want to put out.

Your call.

Which have you eventually gotten more lays from

 

[Deleted member 8576]

ask to have sex

 

[Deleted member 2684]

Yes

Welcome to the club

 

[Back Alley Boy]

1. Safe route, but more time consuming: 3-4 messages building comfort (ask about hobbies, something about her pics), then ask her out for drinks in a bar.

2. Direct route, but more polarizing: ask what she's doing, then ask her if she's "looking for company".

Both have worked for me in the past, but:

- Number (1) will get you more dates, but also last-minute FLAKES, which I fucking hate. Dates are going to take more time, and might end up in absolutely nothing. So you might waste hours of your life of planning, scheduling, going on the date, and then go back home with your dick in your hand.

- Number (2) will get you ghosted 90% of the times unless you're Chad. However, when a girl is down to meet, sex is likely to happen, BUT NOT GUARANTEED. Regardless, it is low investment for you to have a girl come over, escalate, and either fuck or tell her to go back home if she doesn't want to put out.

Your call.

bump

 

[Deleted member 10782]

Which have you eventually gotten more lays from

Latter, but I started using it during lockdown as bars are closed. Need to try using it in normal times for a better comparison

 

[green]

1. Safe route, but more time consuming: 3-4 messages building comfort (ask about hobbies, something about her pics), then ask her out for drinks in a bar.

2. Direct route, but more polarizing: ask what she's doing, then ask her if she's "looking for company".

Both have worked for me in the past, but:

- Number (1) will get you more dates, but also last-minute FLAKES, which I fucking hate. Dates are going to take more time, and might end up in absolutely nothing. So you might waste hours of your life of planning, scheduling, going on the date, and then go back home with your dick in your hand.

- Number (2) will get you ghosted 90% of the times unless you're Chad. However, when a girl is down to meet, sex is likely to happen, BUT NOT GUARANTEED. Regardless, it is low investment for you to have a girl come over, escalate, and either fuck or tell her to go back home if she doesn't want to put out.

Your call.

What would you say to reassure them if they responded to number 2 but are nervous. They said "idk you tho". Or is that response equivalent to a ghost.