Master_Race
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First, what is introversion?
Being introverted means having the need of calm and solitude to recharge your batteries. It's "psychic". The more you will be in contact with others, the more tired, sad and exhausted you will be. And the more you are in solitude, the healthier and happier you will be.
But when you're a child and you have parents who don't really understand this way of working, they can push you a little too much to go out, to see your friends, etc. Being “forced” to reach out to others when you don’t want to can create a long-term fear of reaching out to others.
How to overcome his shyness, while respecting his introverted temperament?
I sometimes see messages from people telling that you have to “learn to be NT EXTROVERT GO OUTTALK TO PEAOPLE
”. Not at all ! You have to learn to be comfortable with other people, yes. To be with others while being introverted.
What is needed is to accept the fact that we are different. Accept the fact that our way of being is a little different from that of the majority. And develop this authenticity with pride. Respect your needs and listen to yourself!
When you try to act in an unnatural way, in a way that is not your natural role, well, you create a role in which you do not excel. We'll never be as good as the extroverts in this role. It is therefore the wrong way for an inner well-being but a good way to be a " social weirdo ".
The idea is to learn to use your introverted qualities, such as calm, listening, to build your relationships.
Become that calm, wise person that people will appreciate. Respect the physical distances between people, while being a minimum of smiling and welcoming, without talking too much.
Stop forcing yourself out to imitate the extroverts !
Ask all your questions and share your experiences !
Being introverted means having the need of calm and solitude to recharge your batteries. It's "psychic". The more you will be in contact with others, the more tired, sad and exhausted you will be. And the more you are in solitude, the healthier and happier you will be.
But when you're a child and you have parents who don't really understand this way of working, they can push you a little too much to go out, to see your friends, etc. Being “forced” to reach out to others when you don’t want to can create a long-term fear of reaching out to others.
How to overcome his shyness, while respecting his introverted temperament?
I sometimes see messages from people telling that you have to “learn to be NT EXTROVERT GO OUTTALK TO PEAOPLE
”. Not at all ! You have to learn to be comfortable with other people, yes. To be with others while being introverted.What is needed is to accept the fact that we are different. Accept the fact that our way of being is a little different from that of the majority. And develop this authenticity with pride. Respect your needs and listen to yourself!
When you try to act in an unnatural way, in a way that is not your natural role, well, you create a role in which you do not excel. We'll never be as good as the extroverts in this role. It is therefore the wrong way for an inner well-being but a good way to be a " social weirdo ".
The idea is to learn to use your introverted qualities, such as calm, listening, to build your relationships.
Become that calm, wise person that people will appreciate. Respect the physical distances between people, while being a minimum of smiling and welcoming, without talking too much.
Stop forcing yourself out to imitate the extroverts !
Ask all your questions and share your experiences !
