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This is a theory of mine, something I've been thinking about for a long time, and I believe I've finally figured it out.
In the pickup world there's the concept of getting use to rejection, so that it no longer bothers you. This is a oversimplification.
Effects of Rejection
Effects of Acceptance:
The most effective way you can get over rejection is by other girls liking you, and then you focusing on that instead of the rejections. If you are rejected by women non stop for long enough with no women being interested in you, you will start to feel you are worthless.
This feeling of worthlessness is something women can feel off your vibe, even if you try to talk in a slow confident, or funny charming voice. You can not mask it. After a while, it will guarantee you keep getting rejected, even if there was one woman out of 10,000 that would have actually liked you if you were filled with more positive internals, like genuine love, desire to connect, and feeling good about yourself.
Other Possible Cumulative effects of Rejection (without acceptance)
Solution
This better plan, could be more research on looks maxing, and trying a new strategy for looks maxing. It could be trying to move to a new location. It could be becoming a pastor of a church or mosk, knowing that assuming you are looksmaxed, religious women will be forced to interact with you, and watch you week and could easily become attracted to you over time. Or if you are already pastor maxed, it could be researching subliminal messages, and covert hypnosis, to hypnotize some of the women in your church to liking you, ontop of the mere exposure effect, and other effects from being the center of attention.
These are just some ideas, but my point is, dating apps are mostly male, and most men will never succeed on them, probably even if they are fully looksmaxed. Cold approach is limited in what's possible to but may be better than dating apps for many men. Even cold approach won't work for many guys, and they'll need to try something radically different, possible creative, that most men haven't thought of so there's not as much competition.
TLDR: If something isn't working, change up your strategy, and potentially try a radically different approach, because too much non stop rejection could destroy your self worth which may further limit you in the future.
In the pickup world there's the concept of getting use to rejection, so that it no longer bothers you. This is a oversimplification.
Effects of Rejection
- Emotional Pain
- Depression
- Sadness
- Feelings of Worthlessness
Effects of Acceptance:
- Happiness
- Confidence
The most effective way you can get over rejection is by other girls liking you, and then you focusing on that instead of the rejections. If you are rejected by women non stop for long enough with no women being interested in you, you will start to feel you are worthless.
This feeling of worthlessness is something women can feel off your vibe, even if you try to talk in a slow confident, or funny charming voice. You can not mask it. After a while, it will guarantee you keep getting rejected, even if there was one woman out of 10,000 that would have actually liked you if you were filled with more positive internals, like genuine love, desire to connect, and feeling good about yourself.
Other Possible Cumulative effects of Rejection (without acceptance)
- Learned Helplessness
- Loss of Willpower
- Depression
- Extreme Sadness
- Feeling bad about yourself (that would repeal any woman that wasn't already repealed)
- Feelings of Anger and Resentment (that would repeal any woman that wasn't already repealed)
- Belief that you're not attractive to most women (that would repeal any woman that wasn't already repealed)
Solution
- If your face isn't good enough to get at least one date out of a month of swiping on Dating apps, then don't use dating apps
- If you don't have a good enough body (size & height) to get a hookup or date after one month of pursuing girls in bars and clubs, then don't go to bars and clubs
- If you can't get a single date after one month of cold approaching everyday during the day, then don't do cold approach
This better plan, could be more research on looks maxing, and trying a new strategy for looks maxing. It could be trying to move to a new location. It could be becoming a pastor of a church or mosk, knowing that assuming you are looksmaxed, religious women will be forced to interact with you, and watch you week and could easily become attracted to you over time. Or if you are already pastor maxed, it could be researching subliminal messages, and covert hypnosis, to hypnotize some of the women in your church to liking you, ontop of the mere exposure effect, and other effects from being the center of attention.
These are just some ideas, but my point is, dating apps are mostly male, and most men will never succeed on them, probably even if they are fully looksmaxed. Cold approach is limited in what's possible to but may be better than dating apps for many men. Even cold approach won't work for many guys, and they'll need to try something radically different, possible creative, that most men haven't thought of so there's not as much competition.
TLDR: If something isn't working, change up your strategy, and potentially try a radically different approach, because too much non stop rejection could destroy your self worth which may further limit you in the future.
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