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How to Get a Girl to Like You - PuaHate.com
User : Sarah
Time : 10-19-2009, 12:51 PM
Every girl is different; if they were all alike, you wouldn't be interested in this one in particular, now would you? There are as many different ways to get a girl as there are girls, so let's go over some basic rules that will win over any girl worth getting.
Steps
2. Make an impression. There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself. Demonstrate a unique skill or talent that you're proud of, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too.
3. Be her friend. Girls don't just fall for random strangers. (Well, some do, but the relationship never goes very far!) If you're in the same Algebra class as her, learn her name. Every time she walks into class, smile at her. Sometimes this is all it takes for a girl to notice you. If she doesn't seem to see you, when she walks by, just say "Hi Tina." In a friendly way. This way she'll know you exist. If she's shy, she might just smile back, so don't take this as a sign that she doesn't like you! However, if you want your relationship to move ahead, don't get stuck in the quicksand that is the 'Friend Zone'. Sometimes a girl won't go out with you because she's afraid if the relationship ends badly, she'll lose your friendship! To start moving things along, be a little flirty!
4. Flirt. When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact and smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. The more you talk to girls, the more relaxed you'll become. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or if you have something stuck to your teeth. (Besides, if she likes you, she's probably worrying about the exact same things!) Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment. Just make sure not to go over-the-top when flirting. Girls tend to do this more than guys, but don't get so caught up in the moment that you say or do something you might regret later.
5. Talk to her. Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you had a bad day, still greet her pleasantly with a big smile. Most importantly, listen to everything she says. This is very important! Girls don't like guys who don't listen to them, because as you've probably noticed, girls talk a lot! Whether she talks about herself, her family, hobbies or anything, pay attention. Some things could be useful or important to know later in the relationship. Nod to show that you're listening, and also respond to what she says so she knows that you really are listening.
User : Sarah
Time : 10-19-2009, 12:52 PM
7. Break the touch barrier. There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your elbow so she can link arms with you as you walk together. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. Rub her hands when they're cold. If she's worried, put your hand lightly on her shoulder to comfort her. These are all polite ways to get a little closer to a girl without being creepy. Also, don't slap her like you would with your buddies on the football team. Girls don't enjoy a slap on the back and will just think you're a jerk. Girls are delicate, even if they put of a tough front, so make sure the touching is light. Still, if you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.
8. Compliment her. If you really like the girl, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt) make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other girls have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original. If she's pretty, you can bet every other guy who likes her has mentioned it to her - it's a wonder she doesn't just roll her eyes when someone tells her how beautiful she is and say, "Yeah, I've never heard that before." Better yet, compliment her personality or skills. If you're not sure what's good or bad complimenting, read How to Compliment Girls.
9. Make her laugh. Telling jokes or funny stories is a classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that will make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not illegal, of course). Laughter will come by itself if both of you are relaxed and enjoying each other's company.
10. Ask her out. Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you. Make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something you're proud of. Alternatively, you can express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. If you aren't yet ready or comfortable with the idea of sharing your personal lives to that extent, just go out for lunch or do something simple together, maybe with a small group of friends, where you can get to know her better.
User : Sarah
Time : 10-19-2009, 12:51 PM
Every girl is different; if they were all alike, you wouldn't be interested in this one in particular, now would you? There are as many different ways to get a girl as there are girls, so let's go over some basic rules that will win over any girl worth getting.
Steps
2. Make an impression. There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself. Demonstrate a unique skill or talent that you're proud of, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too.
3. Be her friend. Girls don't just fall for random strangers. (Well, some do, but the relationship never goes very far!) If you're in the same Algebra class as her, learn her name. Every time she walks into class, smile at her. Sometimes this is all it takes for a girl to notice you. If she doesn't seem to see you, when she walks by, just say "Hi Tina." In a friendly way. This way she'll know you exist. If she's shy, she might just smile back, so don't take this as a sign that she doesn't like you! However, if you want your relationship to move ahead, don't get stuck in the quicksand that is the 'Friend Zone'. Sometimes a girl won't go out with you because she's afraid if the relationship ends badly, she'll lose your friendship! To start moving things along, be a little flirty!
4. Flirt. When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact and smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. The more you talk to girls, the more relaxed you'll become. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or if you have something stuck to your teeth. (Besides, if she likes you, she's probably worrying about the exact same things!) Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment. Just make sure not to go over-the-top when flirting. Girls tend to do this more than guys, but don't get so caught up in the moment that you say or do something you might regret later.
5. Talk to her. Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you had a bad day, still greet her pleasantly with a big smile. Most importantly, listen to everything she says. This is very important! Girls don't like guys who don't listen to them, because as you've probably noticed, girls talk a lot! Whether she talks about herself, her family, hobbies or anything, pay attention. Some things could be useful or important to know later in the relationship. Nod to show that you're listening, and also respond to what she says so she knows that you really are listening.
User : Sarah
Time : 10-19-2009, 12:52 PM
7. Break the touch barrier. There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your elbow so she can link arms with you as you walk together. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. Rub her hands when they're cold. If she's worried, put your hand lightly on her shoulder to comfort her. These are all polite ways to get a little closer to a girl without being creepy. Also, don't slap her like you would with your buddies on the football team. Girls don't enjoy a slap on the back and will just think you're a jerk. Girls are delicate, even if they put of a tough front, so make sure the touching is light. Still, if you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.
8. Compliment her. If you really like the girl, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt) make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other girls have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original. If she's pretty, you can bet every other guy who likes her has mentioned it to her - it's a wonder she doesn't just roll her eyes when someone tells her how beautiful she is and say, "Yeah, I've never heard that before." Better yet, compliment her personality or skills. If you're not sure what's good or bad complimenting, read How to Compliment Girls.
9. Make her laugh. Telling jokes or funny stories is a classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that will make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not illegal, of course). Laughter will come by itself if both of you are relaxed and enjoying each other's company.
10. Ask her out. Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you. Make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something you're proud of. Alternatively, you can express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. If you aren't yet ready or comfortable with the idea of sharing your personal lives to that extent, just go out for lunch or do something simple together, maybe with a small group of friends, where you can get to know her better.
