ranierean
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In the U.S. and Canada, even in “multicultural” cities, gay districts are still dominated by white, Middle Eastern, and Latino men. Many aren’t especially handsome or fit — some have extra belly fat or average looks — but they’re still seen as very desirable. People often find others who look like themselves attractive.
For East Asian men, I keep seeing the same two boxes:
1. The submissive twink.
2. The super muscular guy.
If you’re average-looking and don’t fit either, you’re often invisible — unless you’re exceptionally attractive or perfectly match someone’s expectations.
From my experience:
• Some people have zero interest in East Asians and know nothing about our culture.
• Some are genuinely curious and open-minded.
• Some fetishize us, sometimes with a colonial “passport bro” vibe, and some quietly hold racist attitudes.
I’ve noticed that many guys I’m into don’t like me back, but plenty of much older men do — especially in parts of Europe (Austria, Spain) where the “Asian boy” image is exoticized.
Brazil felt different — more mixed-race, more used to diverse faces. An Asian face isn’t unusual there, though people rarely meet someone with a foreign passport. Japan felt best — no fetishization, no being “the Asian guy” — attraction there was based on body type or personality, and I felt much more confident.
What I keep wondering is: why do average white/Latino/Middle Eastern guys — sometimes with a belly, sometimes not even well-endowed — still get treated as top-tier, while I have to put in so much more effort just to get the same attention? I’m not ugly, but I don’t want to play into a submissive stereotype just to be seen.
For East Asian men, I keep seeing the same two boxes:
1. The submissive twink.
2. The super muscular guy.
If you’re average-looking and don’t fit either, you’re often invisible — unless you’re exceptionally attractive or perfectly match someone’s expectations.
From my experience:
• Some people have zero interest in East Asians and know nothing about our culture.
• Some are genuinely curious and open-minded.
• Some fetishize us, sometimes with a colonial “passport bro” vibe, and some quietly hold racist attitudes.
I’ve noticed that many guys I’m into don’t like me back, but plenty of much older men do — especially in parts of Europe (Austria, Spain) where the “Asian boy” image is exoticized.
Brazil felt different — more mixed-race, more used to diverse faces. An Asian face isn’t unusual there, though people rarely meet someone with a foreign passport. Japan felt best — no fetishization, no being “the Asian guy” — attraction there was based on body type or personality, and I felt much more confident.
What I keep wondering is: why do average white/Latino/Middle Eastern guys — sometimes with a belly, sometimes not even well-endowed — still get treated as top-tier, while I have to put in so much more effort just to get the same attention? I’m not ugly, but I don’t want to play into a submissive stereotype just to be seen.
