Realistically, how hard is making friends as an adult? By this i mean 21+ graduated

[DoctorLooksmax]

Considering where im gonna live and work after university currently, one major draw of staying in my uni town would be having some sort of social circle, if I move away somewhere else its gonna be hard for me to establsih a new social circle, perhaps even impossible. After age 22 it seems everyone who is normal and socialable already has their own social cirlce so no one is looking to make new friends really, its different when youre 18 and starting uni or in high school because everyone is looking to make friends and are more open to including you in their social circle.

 

[Peachy]

At this point you have to resort to genetic trash meetup groups that failed at life just like you

 

[Deleted member 209]

why do you need friends lol???

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

At this point you have to resort to genetic trash meetup groups that failed at life just like you

Yeah i mean im not gonna do that, also ive defo not failed at life socially, ive actually achieved being fairly popular at uni, know fuck loads of people, get invited out loads. The problem is i feel like the day i graduate, which is like 5 months away, my whole social life is gonna pretty much dissapear forever. I could live back at home and hang out with my old school mates a bit, they just sort of go to the pub and drink there and thats about it, theres no girls in that social cirlce other than peoples gfs who occassioanlly tag along to things, how on earth am i gonna meet girls after uni I have no idea

 

[Deleted member 4438]

I think it's easier to get friends who are subhuman

The big goodlooking guys ignore me after a while, Fucking Chad's

 

[Peachy]

Yeah i mean im not gonna do that, also ive defo not failed at life socially, ive actually achieved being fairly popular at uni, know fuck loads of people, get invited out loads. The problem is i feel like the day i graduate, which is like 5 months away, my whole social life is gonna pretty much dissapear forever. I could live back at home and hang out with my old school mates a bit, they just sort of go to the pub and drink there and thats about it, theres no girls in that social cirlce other than peoples gfs who occassioanlly tag along to things, how on earth am i gonna meet girls after uni I have no idea

It vanishes for everyone after you graduate, get a job. It's not the 1800s where you're best friends for life with your neighbor farmer.

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

It vanishes for everyone after you graduate, get a job. It's not the 1800s where you're best friends for life with your neighbor farmer.

I mean it inevitable the social life isnt gonna be as good after graduating, but I dont think itsa correct that everyone just completley stops going out once they turn 21 and get a job, for most surely it slowly winds down throughout their 20s and then they completley stop say at age 30 or so

 

[SixFootManlet]

After college it's hard but still doable if you're social and outgoing. After 27-28 is when it truly gets near-impossible.

 

[Butthurt Dweller]

i never had friends and I am already post-college age, LDAR is the only way.

 

[RAITEIII]

i never had friends and I am already post-college age, LDAR is the only way.

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[CupOfCoffee]

Go back to school theory

 

[Time Travel]

I haven't made a single friend in the last 2 years ever since I turned 20 but maybe you have better luck.

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

After college it's hard but still doable if you're social and outgoing. After 27-28 is when it truly gets near-impossible.

How do you meet people? Im guessing the best way is to work a job full of relatively young people say age 21-25, start going out with them at the weekend and then meet more people through their already established social circles. Honestly once im 27-28 im not fussed about meeting any more friends or anything like that, but 21 seems too young to completley stop going out and socialising. Actually atm I have a really good social circle in my uni town but if i go back home after uni thats gonna evaporate possibly, even if I stay in my uni town a ot of people might leave but i suppose atleast some will probably stay.

 

[SixFootManlet]

Im guessing the best way is to work a job full of relatively young people say age 21-25, start going out with them at the weekend and then meet more people through their already established social circles.

You guessed right.

Jobs in the new media sphere or the startup world is full of people in their early to mid 20's.

Also helps if you live in a city like NY, San Francisco, London, or BLR that has a ton of young transients looking for jobs post-college.

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

You guessed right.

Jobs in the new media sphere or the startup world is full of people in their early to mid 20's.

Also helps if you live in a city like NY, San Francisco, London, or BLR that has a ton of young transients looking for jobs post-college.

I actually live in london atm but go to uni in another city in the UK. Thing is if i come back to London ill be living with my parents which at age 22 kinda sucks imo, if i stay in my uni town itll b easier to get my own place straight away rather than living at home for another 1-2 years which would really suck. Hopefully some of my uni friends will stay around but im not really sure, guess I could even move to another city in the UK, was thinking maybe sheffield, leeds, manc, somewhere like that where rent is affordable so i could get set up with a nice studio flat nearish the city centre straight away when i graduate, because doing that in London is just completley unrealistic unless i get a very high salary right off the bat (which prob wont happen)

 

[OldRooster]

It gets progressively harder as you age up until you enter nursing home, then it is easy again.

 

[Feanor]

Yeah i mean im not gonna do that, also ive defo not failed at life socially, ive actually achieved being fairly popular at uni, know fuck loads of people, get invited out loads. The problem is i feel like the day i graduate, which is like 5 months away, my whole social life is gonna pretty much dissapear forever. I could live back at home and hang out with my old school mates a bit, they just sort of go to the pub and drink there and thats about it, theres no girls in that social cirlce other than peoples gfs who occassioanlly tag along to things, how on earth am i gonna meet girls after uni I have no idea

so many people leaving college seem exactly like you. it's like everyone is trying their hardest to network and be sociable but once college ends everyone realizes they barely like each other

 

[Deleted member 1100]

This bullshit of "You need friends from middle or highschool because you'll never make new friends as an adult" is such an utter bullshit. PEOPLE CHANGE! Most of the people you met during that time are completely different people after 2-3 years, people who you probably wouldn't even feel like being friends with if you didn't know them.

The only reason you still talk to them is because of the memories, but that's it... MEMORIES! you're living a fantasy from the past imagine the people you know now are the same friends you knew in the past, THEY ARE NOT.

 

[rockndogs]

U tried taking a shower yet?

 

[Deleted member 3328]

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[Deleted member 1100]

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What you really need to make friends during any time in your life is FREE TIME to be able to spend with them, therefore you need MONEY, and they need MONEY as well

That's why you only make "real friends" when you're a kid or a old person, because you have a lot of free time

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

This bullshit of "You need friends from middle or highschool because you'll never make new friends as an adult" is such an utter bullshit. PEOPLE CHANGE! Most of the people you met during that time are completely different people after 2-3 years, people who you probably wouldn't even feel like being friends with if you didn't know them.

The only reason you still talk to them is because of the memories, but that's it... MEMORIES! you're living a fantasy from the past imagine the people you know now are the same friends you knew in the past, THEY ARE NOT.

Theres a certain level of intimacy to friendships that originate from childhood that you cant get when you meet people after college age. Shared memories bring you closer together and going for a few pints in the pub with your mates and rewinding the years back to the school days is one of lifes greatest pleasures imo. I just cant imagine someone you worked with being at the same level of friendship as someone you went to school or college with. Also socialising is important for a healthy brain and good mental health, I feel its less important when youve got a gf you live with, wife kids etc but its defo important when young

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What you really need to make friends during any time in your life is FREE TIME to be able to spend with them, therefore you need MONEY, and they need MONEY as well

That's why you only make "real friends" when you're a kid or a old person, because you have a lot of free time

Also you dont have 0 free time as an adult, maybe when you have kids and shit you do but what are friday and saturday nights for?

why do you need friends lol???

Life is pretty fucking boring without other people. Pretty much everything enjoyable in life involves socialising in some way or another.

 

[Deleted member 2506]

Literally after college its only possible through a job.

Most people start families so they only have 1 or 2 friends

 

[so_cold97]

Here’s the truth.
After college you need to land a job as part of a college hire program at a big company in some sort of business field. (Ex Deloitte accounting or Deloitte consulting college hire group). You have a roommate in a similar business/rival company.
you’re living in the city or in an dense urban suburb full of people your age.
everyone’s a business major so theyre all chill and you’ll build professional relationships and friendships. You’ll have group messages with inside jokes. Snapchat group messages. youll have a squad that has your back.
or get a job in IT making 20k more starting salary and be surrounded be seriously socially inept people, lose your mind, (and spend your life analyzing your coworkers maxillas and eyebrows. ) Everyone will be awkward and they’ll be difficult to build a real relationship with. You might go out to bars with them but it’s not really fun