Bewusst
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If you hate the way you look, you will suffer, no matter how much positive feedback you get from others or how successful your sex/dating/social life is. Looksmaxing only to increase your appeal to women or following stupid trends to increase your chances of getting laid is pointless imo. Imagine caring more about an irrelevant female's opinion about you than your own, the person you're stuck with for the rest of your life. I say irrelevant because you wouldn't give a damn if you weren't so desperate for sex or - even worse - validation. What's another person's validation worth if you can't value yourself in the first place because deep down, you dislike the way you look/talk/act/whatever? If your actions are aimed to satisfy others' expectations instead of your own, your self esteem will be dependent on other people's approval indefinitely, as long as you yourself are not content with the way you are.
On the other hand, if you were happy with your looks (and other characteristics), you could be authentic, actually be yourself and content with your life even if your social/sex life was bland. Your inhibitions would dissolve naturally and your baseline stress levels would drop significantly. You'd stop being so autistic and be able to live to your full potential.
So, when planning for your surgeries, don't ask yourself "do women like this jaw shape?". Ask yourself "do I like this jaw shape?" And, more importantly, "what do I NOT like about my face?" Fix the flaws that bother you the most first. You want to improve your life, not her's or his and the only way to achieve that is to do everything that's necessary to make you like yourself better.
Tl;dr: imo, your quality of life does not depend on external validation, your laycount or the number of friends you have but primarily on how you perceive yourself.
On the other hand, if you were happy with your looks (and other characteristics), you could be authentic, actually be yourself and content with your life even if your social/sex life was bland. Your inhibitions would dissolve naturally and your baseline stress levels would drop significantly. You'd stop being so autistic and be able to live to your full potential.
So, when planning for your surgeries, don't ask yourself "do women like this jaw shape?". Ask yourself "do I like this jaw shape?" And, more importantly, "what do I NOT like about my face?" Fix the flaws that bother you the most first. You want to improve your life, not her's or his and the only way to achieve that is to do everything that's necessary to make you like yourself better.
Tl;dr: imo, your quality of life does not depend on external validation, your laycount or the number of friends you have but primarily on how you perceive yourself.
