Xangsane
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There's a man in my belly dance group that makes the majority of the group uncomfortable, but the teacher "loves" him.
I've been part of a belly dance group for three years and recently a man has joined. The teacher has a vision for the group to be inclusive and welcoming to all, and I think she really does want a male member but this certain man can't be it.
He's creepy, says inappropriate things, and forces himself into interactions/conversations. He chooses to wear small shorts that leave little to the imagination, and his favorite "dance move" (it's really not a dance move at all) is humping the air.
I know men can belly dance, but it's not about having a women's only group, it's about feeling comfortable.
One member had enough and took him to the side after class. She straight up told him he's not welcome anymore. She said he seemed remorseful and didn't mean to intrude on our "safe space". I really am grateful for her speaking up, but the teacher has no clue about it. I think in the end our teacher will choose our comfort over some random man, and hopefully from here on out we can be more discerning about who we allow in.
I've been part of a belly dance group for three years and recently a man has joined. The teacher has a vision for the group to be inclusive and welcoming to all, and I think she really does want a male member but this certain man can't be it.
He's creepy, says inappropriate things, and forces himself into interactions/conversations. He chooses to wear small shorts that leave little to the imagination, and his favorite "dance move" (it's really not a dance move at all) is humping the air.
I know men can belly dance, but it's not about having a women's only group, it's about feeling comfortable.
One member had enough and took him to the side after class. She straight up told him he's not welcome anymore. She said he seemed remorseful and didn't mean to intrude on our "safe space". I really am grateful for her speaking up, but the teacher has no clue about it. I think in the end our teacher will choose our comfort over some random man, and hopefully from here on out we can be more discerning about who we allow in.