97baHater
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We were married for 7 years, we have 2 kids, one 4-year-old and a 2-year-old. We were happily married.
A few hours ago, I found her panties and an open condom sachet while I was cleaning our vehicles. It was in her car under the passenger seat.
The condom isn't mine, and I don't have that kind of kink (having sex in a car.)
I was initially heartbroken, but, I wasn't so shocked, I'm just sad and disappointed right now.
I haven't confronted her about this, good thing she is on a 1 week business trip right now so I have time to sort my feelings.
Currently, she is the breadwinner, because I quit my job during the pandemic and took the role of a house husband to take care of her and our kids.
She's in no position to quit her job because she holds a very important role as one of the division chiefs in one of our government agencies, so she travels a lot and is very busy. She's married to her job.
I selflessly chose and swallowed my pride to sacrifice myself because my job wasn't paying that well compared to hers. She was in a better position than me. Choosing that path was the best choice for our family. Not for me, but for my family.
I have my own business, and it hasn't quite gained a lot of attention.
Right now, I'm torn if I should leave the house with the kids and go to my aunt's house for a while, but I don't want to add to her problems, because she is sickly old.
In our country, there is no divorce, but adultery is a crime.
If I file for adultery, that would mean I would ruin her career and put her in jail, and the well-being of our kids would also be in jeopardy.
Adultery is no joke here, everyone will know and talk about it for quite a while and I don't want my kids to experience that kind of pain.
Should I just suck it up and continue being a pushover? Keep it a secret and continue being a loving husband and a loving father to our kids. Or should I be selfish for once, taking back my pride as a man and breaking my family?
I don't care what happens to me, all I want is for my kids to be happy and grow with a mom and dad because I haven't experienced growing up with parents, she is indeed a good mom for the kids.
This is probably one of the most saddest things that have ever happened to me after my mom and dad died.
Edit: I forgot to mention that they do a lot of business/social activities/ and seminars every now and then like for example hosting events for executives/politicians which extends to evening socials. She would come home late most of the time.
Before her flight they had a social night gala.
My kids made a mess of the car going back home after we sent her off to the airport in the morning. I found out after cleaning their mess when we got home.
A few hours ago, I found her panties and an open condom sachet while I was cleaning our vehicles. It was in her car under the passenger seat.
The condom isn't mine, and I don't have that kind of kink (having sex in a car.)
I was initially heartbroken, but, I wasn't so shocked, I'm just sad and disappointed right now.
I haven't confronted her about this, good thing she is on a 1 week business trip right now so I have time to sort my feelings.
Currently, she is the breadwinner, because I quit my job during the pandemic and took the role of a house husband to take care of her and our kids.
She's in no position to quit her job because she holds a very important role as one of the division chiefs in one of our government agencies, so she travels a lot and is very busy. She's married to her job.
I selflessly chose and swallowed my pride to sacrifice myself because my job wasn't paying that well compared to hers. She was in a better position than me. Choosing that path was the best choice for our family. Not for me, but for my family.
I have my own business, and it hasn't quite gained a lot of attention.
Right now, I'm torn if I should leave the house with the kids and go to my aunt's house for a while, but I don't want to add to her problems, because she is sickly old.
In our country, there is no divorce, but adultery is a crime.
If I file for adultery, that would mean I would ruin her career and put her in jail, and the well-being of our kids would also be in jeopardy.
Adultery is no joke here, everyone will know and talk about it for quite a while and I don't want my kids to experience that kind of pain.
Should I just suck it up and continue being a pushover? Keep it a secret and continue being a loving husband and a loving father to our kids. Or should I be selfish for once, taking back my pride as a man and breaking my family?
I don't care what happens to me, all I want is for my kids to be happy and grow with a mom and dad because I haven't experienced growing up with parents, she is indeed a good mom for the kids.
This is probably one of the most saddest things that have ever happened to me after my mom and dad died.
Edit: I forgot to mention that they do a lot of business/social activities/ and seminars every now and then like for example hosting events for executives/politicians which extends to evening socials. She would come home late most of the time.
Before her flight they had a social night gala.
My kids made a mess of the car going back home after we sent her off to the airport in the morning. I found out after cleaning their mess when we got home.
