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They say that if you're in the right environment, the people around you will naturally place you in a "leading" position through their expectations, and little by little, your "persona" will be shaped.
For example, consider a loving family, with grandparents who contribute, help, point out your mistakes, sponsor you for a job, and much more. In short, you get the idea: the kind of people who create an entire "family infrastructure", providing support for work, social life, and relationships, give you an advantage compared to other families where members are not as collaborative or quarreled.
But what if we are responsible for ourselves, since we don’t have the luck of such a family, and need to start from scratch?
What are the responsibilities a man takes on in his life that separate him from being just a guy to becoming a solid, reliable man?
Is it currently possible to do so without family and social support, or is it just an "American dream"?
This is a genuine question, because we also know that, due to the halo effect, simply by having responsibilities places you in a higher position in society. (Being in a relationship, having children, a great job, social status, etc.)
This doesn’t necessarily mean the person is good, intelligent, or cultured, but their image suggests so.
You know, you can be the most disgusting and childish man on earth, but if you have responsibilities and those "elements," you're seen as an adult. And you can be the most serious, loving, and sane man, but if you don't have certain elements, you're seen as inept.
I know very well you know what I mean.
Example: I'm somewhat of an artist and make about five drawings a year (realistic, so it takes me a lot of time).
People don't know how much work goes into it, but the only time I'm taken "seriously" is when I enter contests, and I win every single one.
So they see that you're the king, but before that you were just an ordinary person.
Yet, nothing has changed for me.
For example, consider a loving family, with grandparents who contribute, help, point out your mistakes, sponsor you for a job, and much more. In short, you get the idea: the kind of people who create an entire "family infrastructure", providing support for work, social life, and relationships, give you an advantage compared to other families where members are not as collaborative or quarreled.
But what if we are responsible for ourselves, since we don’t have the luck of such a family, and need to start from scratch?
What are the responsibilities a man takes on in his life that separate him from being just a guy to becoming a solid, reliable man?
Is it currently possible to do so without family and social support, or is it just an "American dream"?
This is a genuine question, because we also know that, due to the halo effect, simply by having responsibilities places you in a higher position in society. (Being in a relationship, having children, a great job, social status, etc.)
This doesn’t necessarily mean the person is good, intelligent, or cultured, but their image suggests so.
You know, you can be the most disgusting and childish man on earth, but if you have responsibilities and those "elements," you're seen as an adult. And you can be the most serious, loving, and sane man, but if you don't have certain elements, you're seen as inept.
I know very well you know what I mean.
Example: I'm somewhat of an artist and make about five drawings a year (realistic, so it takes me a lot of time).
People don't know how much work goes into it, but the only time I'm taken "seriously" is when I enter contests, and I win every single one.
So they see that you're the king, but before that you were just an ordinary person.
Yet, nothing has changed for me.
