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As someone who has some time analyzing relationships and societal trends, I’ve come to some uncomfortable realizations about how modern dating operates. Many of these truths are shaped by biology, culture, and evolving societal norms. Here’s my take:
1. Hypergamy Is Real
It’s hard to ignore the fact that women often seek partners who are “above average” in some way—whether that’s financially, socially, or in terms of looks. This isn’t inherently bad; it’s rooted in evolutionary biology. But it can create a harsh reality for the average man who feels overlooked despite being stable, hardworking, and kind.
2. Attention Is Currency
In today’s world, social media has amplified the validation women receive from men. A single Instagram post can garner more attention than many men receive in months. This surplus of options sometimes makes it harder for women to settle or value genuine relationships.
3. Men Are Often Seen as Utilities
Society tends to define a man’s worth by what he can provide. If you don’t have status, resources, or an edge, you might be ignored, regardless of your other qualities. This can make many men feel like they’re only valued for their utility, not for who they truly are.
4. The "Grass Is Greener" Mentality
With dating apps, people now have a near-endless stream of options. This can lead to a constant search for the next best thing, leaving both men and women dissatisfied with their current partners.
5. Double Standards Persist
Society continues to hold different expectations for men and women. For example, a man’s success in dating often depends on his achievements, while a woman’s attractiveness is often prioritized. These standards can be demoralizing for those who don’t fit traditional molds.
1. Hypergamy Is Real
It’s hard to ignore the fact that women often seek partners who are “above average” in some way—whether that’s financially, socially, or in terms of looks. This isn’t inherently bad; it’s rooted in evolutionary biology. But it can create a harsh reality for the average man who feels overlooked despite being stable, hardworking, and kind.
2. Attention Is Currency
In today’s world, social media has amplified the validation women receive from men. A single Instagram post can garner more attention than many men receive in months. This surplus of options sometimes makes it harder for women to settle or value genuine relationships.
3. Men Are Often Seen as Utilities
Society tends to define a man’s worth by what he can provide. If you don’t have status, resources, or an edge, you might be ignored, regardless of your other qualities. This can make many men feel like they’re only valued for their utility, not for who they truly are.
4. The "Grass Is Greener" Mentality
With dating apps, people now have a near-endless stream of options. This can lead to a constant search for the next best thing, leaving both men and women dissatisfied with their current partners.
5. Double Standards Persist
Society continues to hold different expectations for men and women. For example, a man’s success in dating often depends on his achievements, while a woman’s attractiveness is often prioritized. These standards can be demoralizing for those who don’t fit traditional molds.
