Should I date down?

[asian_ascender]

I’m quite confident I am HTN based on how people treat me irl (guys call me handsome, girls are smiley and friendly towards me irl, some girls I went on dates with even complemented my looks, “handsome” “cute” “above average”)

But using dating apps matching HTB+ is near impossible. Matching MTB and below is relatively easy.

Should I settle for an MTB who genuinely desires me because she knows Chadlite+ is impossible for her?

 

[IHATEINDIANS]

only as a last resort. keep trying, if you get consistent matches i'd guess youd eventually get an htb+

 

[It'snotover]

Try to get a htb irl. If you date down you just fuel the hypergamy system. Your choice.

 

[asian_ascender]

only as a last resort. keep trying, if you get consistent matches i'd guess youd eventually get an htb+

It’s tough bro. Stacielite+ are impossible. Been on dates with HTBs but rejected most of the times. Only experienced genuine desire from MTB

 

[asian_ascender]

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Try to get a htb irl. If you date down you just fuel the hypergamy system. Your choice.

It’s tough bro, I’m introverted irl and not very social. Need to rely on apps

 

[IHATEINDIANS]

It’s tough bro. Stacielite+ are impossible. Been on dates with HTBs but rejected most of the times. Only experienced genuine desire from MTB

Do you have an idea of why they might have rejected you? Are you NT? Height? do you fraud pics?

 

[asian_ascender]

Do you have an idea of why they might have rejected you? Are you NT? Height? do you fraud pics?

6 foot living in SEA so height is not the problem. Maybe personality idk. I’m not the most social person or a very good conversationalist

 

[asian_ascender]

Do you have an idea of why they might have rejected you? Are you NT? Height? do you fraud pics?

Foids have said I look better irl. I guess due to asymmetry

 

[bicepsandscalpels]

When I was in university in my early twenties and I had just started looksmaxing, I went through a period (maybe like 9 months) where I would fuck a bunch of 4s (mainly kinda chubby White girls and plain Asian girls) because I was was worried that, if I were to eventually improve my looks to such a degree that I could now date and hook-up with hotter girls, my inexperience would show. It helped a bit, to be honest. The main problem is that you need to figure out how to sleep with them without having to commit to an actual relationship. I didn’t want to be seen in public going on dates with most of these girls, either.

 

[asian_ascender]

When I was in university in my early twenties and I had just started looksmaxing, I went through a period (maybe like 9 months) where I would fuck a bunch of 4s (mainly kinda chubby White girls, plain White girls, and Asian girls) because I was was worried that, if I were to eventually improve my looks to such a degree that I could now date and hook-up with hotter girls, my inexperience would show. It helped a bit, to be honest. The main problem is that you need to figure out how to sleep with them without having to commit to an actual relationship. I didn’t want to be seen in public going on dates with most of these girls, either.

but I cannot bring myself to fuck these girls I’m simply unattracted to. How would my dick even stand

 

[IHATEINDIANS]

6 foot living in SEA so height is not the problem. Maybe personality idk. I’m not the most social person or a very good conversationalist

yeah, being awkward is definitely an issue.

really it's up to you. Do you feel happy and attracted to these MTBs, or do you feel dissapointed, like you wish you had more? If it's the former, you may as well just settle for one if it doesn't bother for you. If you want more, or you want to make sure you don't fuel hypergamy, keep trying.

 

[asian_ascender]

And I’m pretty sure I have looksmaxed to my limit so further ascension is very unlikely

When I was in university in my early twenties and I had just started looksmaxing, I went through a period (maybe like 9 months) where I would fuck a bunch of 4s (mainly kinda chubby White girls and plain Asian girls) because I was was worried that, if I were to eventually improve my looks to such a degree that I could now date and hook-up with hotter girls, my inexperience would show. It helped a bit, to be honest. The main problem is that you need to figure out how to sleep with them without having to commit to an actual relationship. I didn’t want to be seen in public going on dates with most of these girls, either.

 

[bicepsandscalpels]

but I cannot bring myself to fuck these girls I’m simply unattracted to. How would my dick even stand

Yeah, I wasn’t really that into it, either, to be honest. I sort of viewed it as a self-improvement exercise more than anything else. Try and find like a 4 or a 5 that has one standout feature - like a chubby girl with massive tits. If you’re better looking than these girls, they’ll often be way more down to do whatever you want, too.

 

[asian_ascender]

Ive been on countless dates (I think over 30) already and everytime I get with a MTB I always wished I could do better. But going on dry spells not dating feels shit too

yeah, being awkward is definitely an issue.

really it's up to you. Do you feel happy and attracted to these MTBs, or do you feel dissapointed, like you wish you had more? If it's the former, you may as well just settle for one if it doesn't bother for you. If you want more, or you want to make sure you don't fuel hypergamy, keep trying.