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This thread is for getting advice and discussing with my Muslim brothers if I should get a girlfriend.
Life is going good. Being a good looking man who is studying in college and going through regular sightings of beautiful women, I'm getting strong feelings to get into a relationship that would satisfy my carnal desires, support me in my career and provide emotional support.
The problem is that I'm a Muslim who is practicing to some extent. The point is that I should not miss the chance of my youth days where I'm being complemented for my looks, I should definitely get a girlfriend and enjoy life because this time won't come back. But in contrast, I should not indulge in haram just to enjoy few years of my life and risk my afterlife by getting punished in the hereafter. This is the form of ambivalence I'm going through. However, here's another point, get a girlfriend and get into LTR and repenting later - as God is forgiving and merciful. But there's a chance that I could die anytime being indulged in haram and not getting a chance to repent, as God forgives everything but only before death and death is unpredictable. It totally depends on the unseen future. This is a temptation and a test. If I pass this test I would be rewarded in this life and hereafter, marrying a pious beautiful woman and enjoying in the hereafter. But what if I enjoy in both lives? Getting a girlfriend, enjoying and repenting later and also quiting haram by marrying and leading a pious life. There is also a high chance of forgiveness if I make sincere repentance, but it might not be guaranteed. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said paradise is full of sinners who repented. Also don't forget that Satan might be involved in these temptations. What should I do guys? I'm stuck.
Seeking an advice from the people of my Muslim brotherhood on the forum.
@Fiqh @SecularIslamist @RAMU KAKA
Life is going good. Being a good looking man who is studying in college and going through regular sightings of beautiful women, I'm getting strong feelings to get into a relationship that would satisfy my carnal desires, support me in my career and provide emotional support.
The problem is that I'm a Muslim who is practicing to some extent. The point is that I should not miss the chance of my youth days where I'm being complemented for my looks, I should definitely get a girlfriend and enjoy life because this time won't come back. But in contrast, I should not indulge in haram just to enjoy few years of my life and risk my afterlife by getting punished in the hereafter. This is the form of ambivalence I'm going through. However, here's another point, get a girlfriend and get into LTR and repenting later - as God is forgiving and merciful. But there's a chance that I could die anytime being indulged in haram and not getting a chance to repent, as God forgives everything but only before death and death is unpredictable. It totally depends on the unseen future. This is a temptation and a test. If I pass this test I would be rewarded in this life and hereafter, marrying a pious beautiful woman and enjoying in the hereafter. But what if I enjoy in both lives? Getting a girlfriend, enjoying and repenting later and also quiting haram by marrying and leading a pious life. There is also a high chance of forgiveness if I make sincere repentance, but it might not be guaranteed. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said paradise is full of sinners who repented. Also don't forget that Satan might be involved in these temptations. What should I do guys? I'm stuck.
Seeking an advice from the people of my Muslim brotherhood on the forum.
@Fiqh @SecularIslamist @RAMU KAKA