iblamementalhealth
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Backstory :
I’ve tried numerous methods, mainly ones where you had to go “cold turkey” and stop suddenly the bad habit.
While it gave me temporary results (I stopped masturbating completely for one month and a half), I relapsed inevitably after every attempt of quitting this shit.
It wasn’t the worse addiction ever, but it had gotten to the point where I was doing it multiple times a day and actually feeling pain and soreness during and after doing it (over masturbation). I wasn’t feeling shame towards myself doing it, and was kind of accepting my situation, my half a decade long addiction.
So, what made me change ?
We will go over :
I) Mindset realization/change
II) The solution
III) My current progress
Mindset realization/change.
I realized that it will be unacceptable to still by addicted to this being in a future romantic relationship (if I end up in one which I believe I will). I have to prepare myself beforehand, because I know I would not be able to stop as soon as I enter one.
I am not doing it for bullshit “benefits”. Sure, you’ll experience a handful, but they (increased confidence, focus, ect…) are always only temporary, talking from experience.
I only do it for the reason I previously mentioned, no other reason was strong enough to push me to stop.
I also realized that stopping everything all of a sudden wasn't a suited strategy for my case (I have been addicted for so long) What made me think I needed to stop abruptly was my ego. I thought I could do it.
I dropped this approach and my ego at the same time. I needed to slowly distance myself form it.
The solution.
I came up with a long term solution to my problem :
Every new week I don't watch porn for one more day than the previous week, the general idea is to watch porn less and less as weeks go by ;
It also came with a set of rules :
-I can j*ck off during days where I don't watch porn (and am allowed to jack off).
-I allow myself to j*ck off once per day max.
What also helps me is :
I do other activities (drawing, listening to music, working, writing her, playing basketball, ect...) and it helps to not think , I don't count the days (just barely keep track of the weeks). Sometimes I get an urge and I just let it pass and do something else, without thinking about that urge.
I started (week one) to j*ck off only once a day, and not watch porn for one day. (whatever day I wanted)
Then week two, I did the same, but did not watch porn for 2 days.
You get my point.
Logically, in week 8, I should be watching porn once every 8 days.
Once that time period is reached, on top of what I am already doing, I will start to not j*ck off for one more day than the previous week.
About 2-3 month in, I believe I will be enough detached from porn, and I'll eventually stop watching without even thinking about it.
Another goal of mine is to stop looking at women lustfully, especially if I am in a relationship, I will not look at other women lustfully. I believe I will be enough detached from j*cking off and I will stop doing it without even thinking about it.
Personal results.
I am in the middle of week 3 (two weeks fully completed) so far.
-I have not relapsed nor failed one time.
-I've gotten my mind off porn more.
-Actually, I'm going too fast : last week, on a day where i couldn't watch porn, I did not j*ack off. This week, two days in a row, I did not watch porn nor did I j*cked off. I believe it is due to the fact that I haven't been looking lustfully at girls IRL, and or am still too used to porn to do it while thinking about IRL girls.
All without the use of any kind of porn blocker or similar stuff.
(tell me if there is too much green/color, it will help me to better my future posts.)
Your turn now !
Iblamementalhealth
I’ve tried numerous methods, mainly ones where you had to go “cold turkey” and stop suddenly the bad habit.
While it gave me temporary results (I stopped masturbating completely for one month and a half), I relapsed inevitably after every attempt of quitting this shit.
It wasn’t the worse addiction ever, but it had gotten to the point where I was doing it multiple times a day and actually feeling pain and soreness during and after doing it (over masturbation). I wasn’t feeling shame towards myself doing it, and was kind of accepting my situation, my half a decade long addiction.
So, what made me change ?
We will go over :
I) Mindset realization/change
II) The solution
III) My current progress
Mindset realization/change.
I realized that it will be unacceptable to still by addicted to this being in a future romantic relationship (if I end up in one which I believe I will). I have to prepare myself beforehand, because I know I would not be able to stop as soon as I enter one.
I am not doing it for bullshit “benefits”. Sure, you’ll experience a handful, but they (increased confidence, focus, ect…) are always only temporary, talking from experience.
I only do it for the reason I previously mentioned, no other reason was strong enough to push me to stop.
I also realized that stopping everything all of a sudden wasn't a suited strategy for my case (I have been addicted for so long) What made me think I needed to stop abruptly was my ego. I thought I could do it.
I dropped this approach and my ego at the same time. I needed to slowly distance myself form it.
The solution.
I came up with a long term solution to my problem :
Every new week I don't watch porn for one more day than the previous week, the general idea is to watch porn less and less as weeks go by ;
It also came with a set of rules :
-I can j*ck off during days where I don't watch porn (and am allowed to jack off).
-I allow myself to j*ck off once per day max.
What also helps me is :
I do other activities (drawing, listening to music, working, writing her, playing basketball, ect...) and it helps to not think , I don't count the days (just barely keep track of the weeks). Sometimes I get an urge and I just let it pass and do something else, without thinking about that urge.
I started (week one) to j*ck off only once a day, and not watch porn for one day. (whatever day I wanted)
Then week two, I did the same, but did not watch porn for 2 days.
You get my point.
Logically, in week 8, I should be watching porn once every 8 days.
Once that time period is reached, on top of what I am already doing, I will start to not j*ck off for one more day than the previous week.
About 2-3 month in, I believe I will be enough detached from porn, and I'll eventually stop watching without even thinking about it.
Another goal of mine is to stop looking at women lustfully, especially if I am in a relationship, I will not look at other women lustfully. I believe I will be enough detached from j*cking off and I will stop doing it without even thinking about it.
Personal results.
I am in the middle of week 3 (two weeks fully completed) so far.
-I have not relapsed nor failed one time.
-I've gotten my mind off porn more.
-Actually, I'm going too fast : last week, on a day where i couldn't watch porn, I did not j*ack off. This week, two days in a row, I did not watch porn nor did I j*cked off. I believe it is due to the fact that I haven't been looking lustfully at girls IRL, and or am still too used to porn to do it while thinking about IRL girls.
All without the use of any kind of porn blocker or similar stuff.
(tell me if there is too much green/color, it will help me to better my future posts.)
Your turn now !
Iblamementalhealth
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