Softmaxxing/Personality AREN'T COPE (my story)

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I am 19. I am 5'10", 150 lbs, with brutal coloring, bad asymmetry in the lower third and eye area, a "hawk nose", a slightly recessed mandible, terribly crooked teeth and braces, mild acne, forward head posture, and a low hyoid. I've been rated LTN on the looksmaxxing discord by multiple people. My best rating was HMTN. Before I started looksmaxxing at age 16, I was arguably subhuman from how bad my hygiene and overall appearance was.

For the first ~16 years of my life I was a total retard, 0-3 friends, no gf, no first kiss, no female attention, picked on for being short/ugly. I was also even skinnier and shorter (120 lbs, 5'8", pre "ascension".) I found out about looksmaxxing at the end of junior year and gave it a try.

Fast forward 3 years, and I have a beautiful girlfriend. Around 15 girls have asked me out, told me they had a crush on me, or asked for my number. Two of my gf's friends asked her not to date me so they could have me, then subsequently fought with each other over who could. Another girl openly told my gf she had a huge crush on me upon meeting her, knowing we were dating. One said she wanted to suck me off and tried to show me her tits to seduce me (this was one of my gf's friends).

HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE AT LTN?

The answer is simple. PSL does not equal appeal. Does PSL matter? Absolutely. But PSL alone does not explain the dramatic increase in success I had in the dating world. At absolute best, most people can only raise their PSL by .5-1 points MAX depending on how bad they are pre-ascension. When I started looksmaxxing, I saw results within two months, after relatively little change had occurred. I was doing skincare, improved my hygiene, started wearing cologne, grew my hair out, and got cooler outfits. None of these are the striking glow ups you see in tiktok transformation videos or bimax before and afters on the forum. Yet with this little progress, I got two different girls to break up with their boyfriends for me by the beginning of senior year, while several more flirted with me trying to get me to cheat.

WHAT CHANGED?
My face didn't change much, but my personality and appearance did. I THOUGHT I was making crazy gains (was totally gaslighting myself in hindsight) which made me overconfident and socialize a lot. I quick added tons of girls on snap, flirted with random girls I wasn't even interested in at my school for practice, and convinced myself I was really attractive and had a huge glow up. This lead to rapid improvement in how I acted (now known as NTmaxxing). I stopped acting like a retard and reading the unabomber manifesto at school or freaking out when women talked to me, and surrounded myself with friends/situationships. I smelled nice, dressed nice, and talked nice, even if I didn't have a perfect nose to mouth ratio or ideal forward growth.

WHAT'S YOUR POINT?
Everyone here tries to tell you your life is determined by genetics, or that the only way out is surgery, peptides, or steroids. If you maximize everything that's in your control, and not just the obvious stuff, you'll be surprised by how much you can increase your appeal.
 
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Everyone here tries to tell you your life is determined by genetics
your cute little anecdote here disproves exactly nothing relating this statement. If you were born a deformed indian who will reach a final height of 4'2 this would not have happened. It doesn’t matter if that’s unrealistic, the possibility of it happening alone means that your life was indeed determined at birth.
 
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Don't care. I just got a girlfriend
 
your cute little anecdote here disproves exactly nothing relating this statement. If you were born a deformed indian who will reach a final height of 4'2 this would not have happened. It doesn’t matter if that’s unrealistic, the possibility of it happening alone means that your life was indeed determined at birth.
the odds of being 4'2" and severely deformed are almost zero, I am not saying genetics don't matter, but they are overemphasized. there are tons of people here that genuinely believe you need to be chadlite or HTN to get a girl, and yet despite being LTN I can easily pull
 
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The thing is personality is probably more down to genetics than looks
 
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the odds of being 4'2" and severely deformed are almost zero, I am not saying genetics don't matter, but they are overemphasized. there are tons of people here that genuinely believe you need to be chadlite or HTN to get a girl, and yet despite being LTN I can easily pull
I know a guy, the chances are definitely not zero
 
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The thing is personality is probably more down to genetics than looks
normie 'confidence' usually comes as a result of looks, the rest of the factors being things like your upbringing, which are down to luck, just another form of bp outside of looks
 
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The thing is personality is probably more down to genetics than

normie 'confidence' usually comes as a result of looks, the rest of the factors being things like your upbringing, which are down to luck, just another form of bp outside of looks
Agreed, but they can be artificially changed with conscious effort, just like your looks
 
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The answer is simple. PSL does not equal appeal. Does PSL matter? Absolutely. But PSL alone does not explain the dramatic increase in success I had in the dating world.

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Agreed, but they can be artificially changed with conscious effort, just like your looks
only to an extent. No amount of 'conscious effort' is realistically going to make somebody legitimately nd in adulthood/ very late adolescence into someone completely nt
 
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only to an extent. No amount of 'conscious effort' is realistically going to make somebody legitimately nd in adulthood/ very late adolescence into someone completely nt
I never became truly NT, but I at least learned how to mask well enough to look that way on the outside
 
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you were never nd. JFL.
I am diagnosed with ADHD (an ND condition) and acted like a complete retard. Still am on the inside :feelswhy:
 
I am diagnosed with ADHD (an ND condition)
Nigga, respectfully, it takes next to nothing to get an ADHD diagnosis. Half the niggas I talk to nowadays claim to have adhd. When you are genuinely socially fucked, you can’t just ‘play it off’ it doesn’t work like that that (not claiming to be that way personally).
 
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I am 19. I am 5'10", 150 lbs, with brutal coloring, bad asymmetry in the lower third and eye area, a "hawk nose", a slightly recessed mandible, terribly crooked teeth and braces, mild acne, forward head posture, and a low hyoid. I've been rated LTN on the looksmaxxing discord by multiple people. My best rating was HMTN. Before I started looksmaxxing at age 16, I was arguably subhuman from how bad my hygiene and overall appearance was.

For the first ~16 years of my life I was a total retard, 0-3 friends, no gf, no first kiss, no female attention, picked on for being short/ugly. I was also even skinnier and shorter (120 lbs, 5'8", pre "ascension".) I found out about looksmaxxing at the end of junior year and gave it a try.

Fast forward 3 years, and I have a beautiful girlfriend. Around 15 girls have asked me out, told me they had a crush on me, or asked for my number. Two of my gf's friends asked her not to date me so they could have me, then subsequently fought with each other over who could. Another girl openly told my gf she had a huge crush on me upon meeting her, knowing we were dating. One said she wanted to suck me off and tried to show me her tits to seduce me (this was one of my gf's friends).

HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE AT LTN?

The answer is simple. PSL does not equal appeal. Does PSL matter? Absolutely. But PSL alone does not explain the dramatic increase in success I had in the dating world. At absolute best, most people can only raise their PSL by .5-1 points MAX depending on how bad they are pre-ascension. When I started looksmaxxing, I saw results within two months, after relatively little change had occurred. I was doing skincare, improved my hygiene, started wearing cologne, grew my hair out, and got cooler outfits. None of these are the striking glow ups you see in tiktok transformation videos or bimax before and afters on the forum. Yet with this little progress, I got two different girls to break up with their boyfriends for me by the beginning of senior year, while several more flirted with me trying to get me to cheat.

WHAT CHANGED?
My face didn't change much, but my personality and appearance did. I THOUGHT I was making crazy gains (was totally gaslighting myself in hindsight) which made me overconfident and socialize a lot. I quick added tons of girls on snap, flirted with random girls I wasn't even interested in at my school for practice, and convinced myself I was really attractive and had a huge glow up. This lead to rapid improvement in how I acted (now known as NTmaxxing). I stopped acting like a retard and reading the unabomber manifesto at school or freaking out when women talked to me, and surrounded myself with friends/situationships. I smelled nice, dressed nice, and talked nice, even if I didn't have a perfect nose to mouth ratio or ideal forward growth.

WHAT'S YOUR POINT?
Everyone here tries to tell you your life is determined by genetics, or that the only way out is surgery, peptides, or steroids. If you maximize everything that's in your control, and not just the obvious stuff, you'll be surprised by how much you can increase your appeal.
I am 19. I am 5'10", 150 lbs, with brutal coloring, bad asymmetry in the lower third and eye area, a "hawk nose", a slightly recessed mandible, terribly crooked teeth and braces, mild acne, forward head posture, and a low hyoid. I've been rated LTN on the looksmaxxing discord by multiple people. My best rating was HMTN. Before I started looksmaxxing at age 16, I was arguably subhuman from how bad my hygiene and overall appearance was.

For the first ~16 years of my life I was a total retard, 0-3 friends, no gf, no first kiss, no female attention, picked on for being short/ugly. I was also even skinnier and shorter (120 lbs, 5'8", pre "ascension".) I found out about looksmaxxing at the end of junior year and gave it a try.

Fast forward 3 years, and I have a beautiful girlfriend. Around 15 girls have asked me out, told me they had a crush on me, or asked for my number. Two of my gf's friends asked her not to date me so they could have me, then subsequently fought with each other over who could. Another girl openly told my gf she had a huge crush on me upon meeting her, knowing we were dating. One said she wanted to suck me off and tried to show me her tits to seduce me (this was one of my gf's friends).

HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE AT LTN?

The answer is simple. PSL does not equal appeal. Does PSL matter? Absolutely. But PSL alone does not explain the dramatic increase in success I had in the dating world. At absolute best, most people can only raise their PSL by .5-1 points MAX depending on how bad they are pre-ascension. When I started looksmaxxing, I saw results within two months, after relatively little change had occurred. I was doing skincare, improved my hygiene, started wearing cologne, grew my hair out, and got cooler outfits. None of these are the striking glow ups you see in tiktok transformation videos or bimax before and afters on the forum. Yet with this little progress, I got two different girls to break up with their boyfriends for me by the beginning of senior year, while several more flirted with me trying to get me to cheat.

WHAT CHANGED?
My face didn't change much, but my personality and appearance did. I THOUGHT I was making crazy gains (was totally gaslighting myself in hindsight) which made me overconfident and socialize a lot. I quick added tons of girls on snap, flirted with random girls I wasn't even interested in at my school for practice, and convinced myself I was really attractive and had a huge glow up. This lead to rapid improvement in how I acted (now known as NTmaxxing). I stopped acting like a retard and reading the unabomber manifesto at school or freaking out when women talked to me, and surrounded myself with friends/situationships. I smelled nice, dressed nice, and talked nice, even if I didn't have a perfect nose to mouth ratio or ideal forward growth.

WHAT'S YOUR POINT?
Everyone here tries to tell you your life is determined by genetics, or that the only way out is surgery, peptides, or steroids. If you maximize everything that's in your control, and not just the obvious stuff, you'll be surprised by how much you can increase your appeal.
not reading that essay:forcedsmile:
 
PSL does not equal appeal. Does PSL matter? Absolutely. But PSL alone does not explain the dramatic increase in success I had in the dating world. At absolute best, most people can only raise their PSL by .5-1 points MAX depending on how bad they are pre-ascension. When I started looksmaxxing, I saw results within two months, after relatively little change had occurred. I was doing skincare, improved my hygiene,
:feelswhy::feelswhy::feelswhy::feelswhy::feelsahh::feelsahh::feelsahh::feelsahh: Brooooooooootall appeal bettr than psllll Jordan Barrett
 
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your cute little anecdote here disproves exactly nothing relating this statement. If you were born a deformed indian who will reach a final height of 4'2 this would not have happened. It doesn’t matter if that’s unrealistic, the possibility of it happening alone means that your life was indeed determined at birth.
too smart for org
 
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Nigga, respectfully, it takes next to nothing to get an ADHD diagnosis. Half the niggas I talk to nowadays claim to have adhd. When you are genuinely socially fucked, you can’t just ‘play it off’ it doesn’t work like that that (not claiming to be that way personally).
Maybe he had brain scans to prove it
 
Maybe he had brain scans to prove it
it's genetic and my dad had it and was diagnosed when no one even believed it was a thing so that's how you know it's serious :lul::lul:
 
your cute little anecdote here disproves exactly nothing relating this statement. If you were born a deformed indian who will reach a final height of 4'2 this would not have happened. It doesn’t matter if that’s unrealistic, the possibility of it happening alone means that your life was indeed determined at birth.
 
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normie 'confidence' usually comes as a result of looks, the rest of the factors being things like your upbringing, which are down to luck, just another form of bp outside of looks
"Personality" basically means neurotype, while "good personality" means neurotypical.
 
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