chadhamed
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I’m genuinely scared for the next generation of South Asians because too many of you come across as whiny losers.
Yes, South Asian hate exists, even amongst ourselves, but instead of complaining, there are things we can do to combat it.
Physicality – Get Stronger & More Athletic
Hit the gym at least 3 times a week, focusing on full-body workouts (our bodies respond best to this).
Nutrition tip:
•Cut your carbs in half every meal.
•Increase your protein intake.
•If you’re Muslim, incorporate higher-fat meats (we respond better to them) – e.g. lamb, chicken thighs/legs, salmon.
If you’re weak, small, or out of shape – fix it. Your physical presence should command respect.
Looks – Present Yourself Better
Looking good isn’t just genetics, it’s maintenance.
Eyebrows: Trim them, pluck the monobrow (break the stereotype).
Facial Hair:
•Clean shave if your beard is weak.
•Grow a beard that suits your face shape.
Haircuts: Get a proper fade/haircut twice a month – make sure it actually looks fresh.
Line yourself up at home in between (cheap trimmers + YouTube tutorials).
When you look sharp, you feel sharp.
Hygiene – Fix This ASAP
Some of you need to hear this. We already have a stereotype of smelling bad. Don’t reinforce it.
Shower daily (minimum)
•Use proper shower gel (not a 3-in-1 garbage bottle).
•Shampoo 1-3x a week, condition every other day (prevents breakage).
•Use a loofah – washing with your hands does NOTHING.
Post-Shower Routine
•Use separate oils for hair & beard (if applicable).
•Moisturize (face, ears, nose, and body).
•Double up on deodorant (Roll-on + Spray).
If you stink at Jummah or have smelly feet, fix it. People notice.
Intellect – Level Up Your Mind
Education matters. Study, study, study.
Social skills matter. Interact with people, especially women, so you don’t act weird around them.
(Asking your mum to make roti doesn’t count.)
Work on your accent.
I was lucky to grow up in a white area, so I don’t have that South Asian twang, but some of you sound fresh off the boat despite being born in the UK, USA, or Canada.
•Work on pronunciation – accents affect perception.
•Let’s be real: our accents aren’t the most attractive.
Be street smart.
•Observe South Asian roadmen – take the good aspects (confidence, presence), not the criminality.
•You should never be an easy target for Goreh or Kaleh.
Know your history & be ready for racists.
•If someone tries it, physically and verbally check them.
•Learn to debate and articulate your points (watch Muslim debaters like M. Hijab).
•Remember: India made Britain rich while they were throwing urine into the streets.
•Muslim Moors introduced perfume and bathing to Europe. (Google it if you don’t believe me.)
Be Proud of Your History
We’re one of the most successful immigrant groups despite facing racism.
Top CEOs.
Highest-earning households.
Warrior traditions – we’re NOT weak.
Look at:
The Great Gama (wrestling legend)
Amir Khan, Adam Azim, Hamzah Sheeraz, Nishant Dev
Pehlwani (stone lifting, kabaddi, wrestling)
Embrace your heritage – there’s nothing weak about it.
Clothing – Dress Like a Man, Not a Teenager
Start fresh with these staples:
T-Shirts (High Quality)
•2x Black
•2x White
•2x Coloured
Jeans/Trousers:
•2x Black Jeans
•2x Light Blue/Grey Jeans
•2x Blue Jeans
•2x Cargos
Jackets/Hoodies:
•2x Black Hoodie
•2x Black Bomber Jacket
•2x Leather Jacket
•2x Smart Casual Jacket
•2x Winter Puffer
Trainers:
•1x Black Trainers
•1x White Trainers
Keep it clean, mix & match.
Doesn’t need to be designer, just high quality (Zara, H&M, etc.).
Dating – Stop Moving Like a Victim
Stop taking dad selfies.
Fix your Instagram (Watch Jack Hopkins’ ‘A G’s Guide to Instagram’).
Use the right dating apps: Hinge, Tinder, Dil Mil, Muzz.
Stop being awkward.
First date = Coffee/Chai, NOT an expensive meal.
(Are you her dad?)
Finances – Secure the Bag
Earning power = Respect.
Make good money.
Invest in stock dividends.
Start a business.
Have 6-12 months’ worth of living expenses saved.
Have an emergency fund your wife doesn’t know about (DTA – Don’t Trust Anybody.).
Being broke is a choice in 2025 – level up.
Final Thoughts – No More Weakness
I shouldn’t have to make this post, but too many of you need guidance.
Stop whining like little kuriya.
Change starts with YOU.
A lot of our women look elsewhere because they don’t see us as leaders and protectors anymore.
Our ancestors provided for entire families, protected their own, and moved with strength.
We need to go back to that.
Big Papa, over and out.
DMs are open. I’m 21, I’ve seen life. Let’s get it.
Yes, South Asian hate exists, even amongst ourselves, but instead of complaining, there are things we can do to combat it.
Physicality – Get Stronger & More AthleticHit the gym at least 3 times a week, focusing on full-body workouts (our bodies respond best to this).
Nutrition tip:
•Cut your carbs in half every meal.
•Increase your protein intake.
•If you’re Muslim, incorporate higher-fat meats (we respond better to them) – e.g. lamb, chicken thighs/legs, salmon.
If you’re weak, small, or out of shape – fix it. Your physical presence should command respect.
Looks – Present Yourself BetterLooking good isn’t just genetics, it’s maintenance.
Eyebrows: Trim them, pluck the monobrow (break the stereotype). Facial Hair:•Clean shave if your beard is weak.
•Grow a beard that suits your face shape.
Haircuts: Get a proper fade/haircut twice a month – make sure it actually looks fresh. Line yourself up at home in between (cheap trimmers + YouTube tutorials).When you look sharp, you feel sharp.
Hygiene – Fix This ASAPSome of you need to hear this. We already have a stereotype of smelling bad. Don’t reinforce it.
Shower daily (minimum)•Use proper shower gel (not a 3-in-1 garbage bottle).
•Shampoo 1-3x a week, condition every other day (prevents breakage).
•Use a loofah – washing with your hands does NOTHING.
Post-Shower Routine•Use separate oils for hair & beard (if applicable).
•Moisturize (face, ears, nose, and body).
•Double up on deodorant (Roll-on + Spray).
If you stink at Jummah or have smelly feet, fix it. People notice.
Intellect – Level Up Your Mind Education matters. Study, study, study. Social skills matter. Interact with people, especially women, so you don’t act weird around them.(Asking your mum to make roti doesn’t count.)
Work on your accent.I was lucky to grow up in a white area, so I don’t have that South Asian twang, but some of you sound fresh off the boat despite being born in the UK, USA, or Canada.
•Work on pronunciation – accents affect perception.
•Let’s be real: our accents aren’t the most attractive.
Be street smart.•Observe South Asian roadmen – take the good aspects (confidence, presence), not the criminality.
•You should never be an easy target for Goreh or Kaleh.
Know your history & be ready for racists.•If someone tries it, physically and verbally check them.
•Learn to debate and articulate your points (watch Muslim debaters like M. Hijab).
•Remember: India made Britain rich while they were throwing urine into the streets.
•Muslim Moors introduced perfume and bathing to Europe. (Google it if you don’t believe me.)
Be Proud of Your HistoryWe’re one of the most successful immigrant groups despite facing racism.
Top CEOs. Highest-earning households. Warrior traditions – we’re NOT weak.Look at:
The Great Gama (wrestling legend) Amir Khan, Adam Azim, Hamzah Sheeraz, Nishant Dev Pehlwani (stone lifting, kabaddi, wrestling)Embrace your heritage – there’s nothing weak about it.
Clothing – Dress Like a Man, Not a Teenager Start fresh with these staples: T-Shirts (High Quality)•2x Black
•2x White
•2x Coloured
Jeans/Trousers:•2x Black Jeans
•2x Light Blue/Grey Jeans
•2x Blue Jeans
•2x Cargos
Jackets/Hoodies:•2x Black Hoodie
•2x Black Bomber Jacket
•2x Leather Jacket
•2x Smart Casual Jacket
•2x Winter Puffer
Trainers:•1x Black Trainers
•1x White Trainers
Keep it clean, mix & match. Doesn’t need to be designer, just high quality (Zara, H&M, etc.). Dating – Stop Moving Like a Victim Stop taking dad selfies. Fix your Instagram (Watch Jack Hopkins’ ‘A G’s Guide to Instagram’). Use the right dating apps: Hinge, Tinder, Dil Mil, Muzz. Stop being awkward. First date = Coffee/Chai, NOT an expensive meal.(Are you her dad?)
Finances – Secure the Bag Earning power = Respect. Make good money. Invest in stock dividends. Start a business. Have 6-12 months’ worth of living expenses saved. Have an emergency fund your wife doesn’t know about (DTA – Don’t Trust Anybody.).Being broke is a choice in 2025 – level up.
Final Thoughts – No More Weakness
I shouldn’t have to make this post, but too many of you need guidance.
Stop whining like little kuriya. Change starts with YOU.A lot of our women look elsewhere because they don’t see us as leaders and protectors anymore.
Our ancestors provided for entire families, protected their own, and moved with strength.
We need to go back to that.
Big Papa, over and out.
DMs are open. I’m 21, I’ve seen life. Let’s get it.
