Stop Waiting for the "Right Time"

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Growing up as teen for years I convinced myself that I wasn't good enough to for things that truly mattered to me. I'd stare at a test message or an empty gym bag and think, I'll ask out that girl when I have lost weight. I'll learn that web stack when I've sorted my routine. I tied every dream to some future milestone if I could just achieve this x, save that amount z or feel more confident, then I'd finally be ready. The truth is those conditions never arrived. Life kept moving, and I kept waiting watching opportunities slip by while I polished an imaginary version of myself that would supposedly be worthy one day.

I see this same attitude as a direct mirror to my past self in many of you. Many of you are just like me. Waiting for some X surgery while life moves on, waiting for some X thing to happen to get a job. Some imaginary thing that you have made up in your head tieing you down and expecting a moment of epiphany and you wake up and you have already wasted a year.

These are things that we tell ourselves to stay comfortable. I started small. I literally didn't even understand css and basic frameworks when I first started freelancing. I was googling what node modules means when I was getting paid to do work. Yes I was that bad. And I started asking out to girls when I was fat idiot and nothing to offer to a woman. But that was what built momentum. The real growth starts the moment you decide you're enough right now, flaws and all.
 
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Don't tell me what to do
 
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@BigBallsLarry @Insomnia
 
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Cope thread. All that was meant to happen is determined
 
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Yeah I feel you, so many times I've shot myself in the foot like this :feelscry:
 
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@imontheloose
 
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It’ll never be enough anyway. Your very will to be able to do that (or not) is what makes you so miserable
You will one day. Keep faith
 
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Do you have any advice for a 16 year old, concerning his portfolio or even online work (main language is python)?
 
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Do you have any advice for a 16 year old, concerning his portfolio or even online work (main language is python)?
Already made an entire thread bro

 
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Growing up as teen for years I convinced myself that I wasn't good enough to for things that truly mattered to me. I'd stare at a test message or an empty gym bag and think, I'll ask out that girl when I have lost weight. I'll learn that web stack when I've sorted my routine. I tied every dream to some future milestone if I could just achieve this x, save that amount z or feel more confident, then I'd finally be ready. The truth is those conditions never arrived. Life kept moving, and I kept waiting watching opportunities slip by while I polished an imaginary version of myself that would supposedly be worthy one day.

I see this same attitude as a direct mirror to my past self in many of you. Many of you are just like me. Waiting for some X surgery while life moves on, waiting for some X thing to happen to get a job. Some imaginary thing that you have made up in your head tieing you down and expecting a moment of epiphany and you wake up and you have already wasted a year.

These are things that we tell ourselves to stay comfortable. I started small. I literally didn't even understand css and basic frameworks when I first started freelancing. I was googling what node modules means when I was getting paid to do work. Yes I was that bad. And I started asking out to girls when I was fat idiot and nothing to offer to a woman. But that was what built momentum. The real growth starts the moment you decide you're enough right now, flaws and all.
Just like me, Niggas way more insufficient compared to me are way ahead in certain aspects..
 
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Buddy's never been blasting some shitty cloud rap while going 80 down the country backroads at night. :Comfy:
I have, I’ve done it in a Porsche before. Nothing will fill that void of me that seeks nonexistence.
 
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So, you shouldn’t be waiting around for opportunities, you should just make it happen?:feelswat:
 
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I have, I’ve done it in a Porsche before. Nothing will fill that void of me that seeks nonexistence.
typical existential crisis of a high-iq, rich, oxford student.

lowk go to africa and join a tribe, having to hunt for your food might give you the will to live jfl.
 
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typical existential crisis of a high-iq, rich, oxford student.

lowk go to africa and join a tribe, having to hunt for your food might give you the will to live jfl.
I’d feel much more inclined to survive, yes. The ideal way to make everyone commit suicide would be communism and helping everyone. That’s why I’m so polite to people usually.

When everyone gets kindness and feels no need to chase anything or hate anyone, they’ll realise how truly meaningless life is and that being is far worse than nonbeing.
 
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I've been driving nothing but old Golf GTIs since I was 14. :(
GTIs are cool. I prefer Rs. Their natural stock sound is very impressive
 
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When everyone gets kindness and feels no need to chase anything or hate anyone, they’ll realise how truly meaningless life is and that being is far worse than nonbeing.
Exactly.
That’s why I’m so polite to people usually.
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Don’t own it. Was a Taycan 4S.
One day you'll have an Aston Martin and a cute British gf alongside it and wearing a Christopher ward watch doing to a Chateu in Sussex
 
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I convinced myself that I wasn't good enough to for things that truly mattered to me

I didn't convince myself; life did it for me, through the genetics it gave me, through the parents it gave me, through the city and country where I was born, through the period of time when it decided that I should be born and live

I tied every dream to some future milestone if I could just achieve this x, save that amount z or feel more confident, then I'd finally be ready. The truth is those conditions never arrived. Life kept moving, and I kept waiting watching opportunities slip by while I polished an imaginary version of myself that would supposedly be worthy one day.

Every day, I daydream about how things could have been if.. while all around me and inside me is hell on earth, a hell that I cannot control or change..

And all the while, as you say, time passes..

And I can only let life happen directly through my eyes, which makes things even more miserable..
 
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Thanks man, you actually motivated me to start a new business tomorrow.

Not even joking
 
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Yeah just take some shit to be more lowinhib, less ND and go on that date, and then next/next/next/next
I kinda unlocked in terms of dating / interacting but im 'old' & I had kinda success streak last few months (afer leanmaxxing what are the odds... :lul:) so Im more confident..

Still there are blockades, that I must breach, like a job opportunities that I fumble / fear of failing and shiet, ultimate oneitis that im afraid to DM because of fear of final rejection and shieeet, but as Jason said: START SMALL, and it'll come to you.
 
Growing up as teen for years I convinced myself that I wasn't good enough to for things that truly mattered to me. I'd stare at a test message or an empty gym bag and think, I'll ask out that girl when I have lost weight. I'll learn that web stack when I've sorted my routine. I tied every dream to some future milestone if I could just achieve this x, save that amount z or feel more confident, then I'd finally be ready. The truth is those conditions never arrived. Life kept moving, and I kept waiting watching opportunities slip by while I polished an imaginary version of myself that would supposedly be worthy one day.

I see this same attitude as a direct mirror to my past self in many of you. Many of you are just like me. Waiting for some X surgery while life moves on, waiting for some X thing to happen to get a job. Some imaginary thing that you have made up in your head tieing you down and expecting a moment of epiphany and you wake up and you have already wasted a year.

These are things that we tell ourselves to stay comfortable. I started small. I literally didn't even understand css and basic frameworks when I first started freelancing. I was googling what node modules means when I was getting paid to do work. Yes I was that bad. And I started asking out to girls when I was fat idiot and nothing to offer to a woman. But that was what built momentum. The real growth starts the moment you decide you're enough right now, flaws and all.

What type of phone do u have? @Jason Voorhees
 

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