
Jason Voorhees
𝕯𝖝𝕯 𝖈𝖗𝖊𝖜 𝕵𝖊𝖘𝖙𝖊𝖗
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My boyfriend (23M) has a hypersensitive glans and it’s affecting our intimacy — how can I support him without making him feel worse? (F20)
So, my boyfriend (23M) and I (F20) have been struggling with physical intimacy because he seems to have a hypersensitive glans. He’s uncircumcised (He is from India, if that context helps) and every time we try to be intimate or even initiate sex, he ends up in a lot of discomfort or pain, and it immediately kills the mood.
The worst part is how it’s affecting him emotionally. He gets really anxious, upset, and honestly kind of shuts down. It breaks my heart to see him feel so defeated — like he’s somehow "less of a man" because of something he can’t control. I’ve told him so many times that I love him deeply, and this doesn’t change how I feel about him at all, but I think even that reassurance makes him feel worse, like I’m just trying to be nice or “settle.”
I gently suggested seeing a doctor, but that made him more insecure and defensive. I don’t want to pressure him, but I do want us to have a healthy sex life someday and, more importantly, for him to feel confident and safe in his body. I just don’t know how to help him without accidentally making him feel worse.
Any advice from people who’ve been in similar situations? Or even just how I can be a better, more supportive partner while he deals with this?
So, my boyfriend (23M) and I (F20) have been struggling with physical intimacy because he seems to have a hypersensitive glans. He’s uncircumcised (He is from India, if that context helps) and every time we try to be intimate or even initiate sex, he ends up in a lot of discomfort or pain, and it immediately kills the mood.
The worst part is how it’s affecting him emotionally. He gets really anxious, upset, and honestly kind of shuts down. It breaks my heart to see him feel so defeated — like he’s somehow "less of a man" because of something he can’t control. I’ve told him so many times that I love him deeply, and this doesn’t change how I feel about him at all, but I think even that reassurance makes him feel worse, like I’m just trying to be nice or “settle.”
I gently suggested seeing a doctor, but that made him more insecure and defensive. I don’t want to pressure him, but I do want us to have a healthy sex life someday and, more importantly, for him to feel confident and safe in his body. I just don’t know how to help him without accidentally making him feel worse.
Any advice from people who’ve been in similar situations? Or even just how I can be a better, more supportive partner while he deals with this?