Tandem is a waste of time for geomaxx

[SecularIslamist]

I'm officially giving up. I started back in September 2024 before my visit to Antalya. I've been on and off it since. It's just been one big waste of time.

I got super excited when I first used it because thanks to my NEC (native English cock) many women would respond to me or even message me out of the blue. But recently it's been a waste of time. Especially since I racked up 'reviews' (references) all of them from Arab, Iranian and Turkish women. Now when I reach out to a food, nobody wants to talk to me because they know I am talking to every MENA female I can get my hands on.

60% of people are not interested in relationships. The other 40% maybe open but you have to be very careful. You definitely need to larp that you're actually interested in learning their language. It's definitely not a dating app! But it definitely can be if you push the right buttons with the right persons.

However, I've made nothing but pen pals. Sometimes you get along with someone throughout the whole day, then next thing you know they ghost out of the blue.

Not to mention in many cases, the English is really bad. So they are not worth pursuing anyway. Some of them overrate their own English skills. They are still really really bad. Less than 5% of people actually speak decent - as in good enough to have an actual conversation with (decent grammar, good pronunciation).

@Shahnameh @Manchild_v2

@curryascenderr you were right.

The only good thing about the app is you can actually get talking to women that would otherwise skip you in a microsecond if it was an online dating app. I I've had a fair share of HTB+ women that I talked to. As expected it never lasted. They just totally ghost. Even if we spent the whole day talking. I see some of them online still and they never read my messages
It kills me inside

 

[sarmatian]

Have you tried learning Persian, Turkish and Arabic?

 

[Deleted member 126320]

get references from men too so they don't assume you're a spam maxing indian obsessed with women. it gives low value. i have two accounts on tandem one mostly has male references. also jfl at not actually learning their langauge at least the basics

muslim women are not like western women you need to offer them something to get them to continually be interested in you.

add them on ig or whatsapp

 

[SecularIslamist]

Have you tried learning Persian, Turkish and Arabic?

Yes I actually have those on my learning list.

get references from men too so they don't assume you're a spam maxing indian obsessed with women. it gives low value. i have two accounts on tandem one mostly has male references. also jfl at not actually learning their langauge at least the basics

Literally all of my reviews are women
Spoken with a few guys but they also tend to ghost me. I will try making a new account on hello talk. I think I am beyond saving on Tandem. When I got close to one girl, she mentioned to me 'but you have so many girls on your reviews' JFL

muslim women are not like western women you need to offer them something to get them to continually be interested in you.

Like what? How would you know Mr Cuba living in America?

add them on ig or whatsapp

Yeah I usually get their numbers after we've spoken extensively. Don't have ig. Unfortunately I've only got the numbers of women who I don't find that interesting. But they are definitely less likely to ghost on via WhatsApp.

 

[Deleted member 126320]

Yes I actually have those on my learning list.


Literally all of my reviews are women
Spoken with a few guys but they also tend to ghost me. I will try making a new account on hello talk. I think I am beyond saving on Tandem. When I got close to one girl, she mentioned to me 'but you have so many girls on your reviews' JFL


Like what? How would you know Mr Cuba living in America?


Yeah I usually get their numbers after we've spoken extensively. Don't have ig. Unfortunately I've only got the numbers of women who I don't find that interesting. But they are definitely less likely to ghost on via WhatsApp.

i try not to do references for women. your account is cooked. men ghost you because you have no interest in their language or culture

i'm muslim all my life retard. arabs turks and iranians etc all of these women don't think like western women. they prefer overwhelmingly long term relationships and social proof

get an ig. no reason to not have it

 

[curryascenderr]

Dnr, I told you tandem was total cope. Hinge is only app that works

 

[Deleted member 72469]

Thr issue with tandem is, its flooded with horny desperate men like every other dating app.

It's long past its golden age, back in 2014 i had tons of women from over the world messaging me per day.

 

[SecularIslamist]

Thr issue with tandem is, its flooded with horny desperate men like every other dating app.

It's long past its golden age, back in 2014 i had tons of women from over the world messaging me per day.

I joined Hellotalk literally yesterday btw. It's such bullshit that they have locked most of the features until you pay for VIP. I've had way more people reach out to me on there though. it literally feels like a proper dating app / social media. Even asking what your personality is..