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There are some friends of mine who have achieved enormous success in social spheres, family, relationships, networking, etc., with a cold reading attitude. In fact, after an event, they were always the ones ready to tell "their story"... "their vision" of that event and "their vision of the people" present.
They're good at getting you passionate about the story, and they accurately convey the impression they made on people. That's the point. The impression is theirs, but they manage to convey it in a way that everyone agrees with.
If they tell you, "You know, yesterday I was at the party and I met Karen. She's a really lovely, sweet person, very down-to-earth," or when they speak badly of others, "Look, Frank has this attitude. He's always lazy, but you can't understand. Look at how his kids have turned out. She doesn't take care of herself, she even stinks, she won't even wash herself. Her teeth are yellow, and when she comes and goes with me, she always brings a dirty handkerchief. Be careful touching her; she could give you diseases."
In short, let's say these people live to cold-read what's happening around them, because they believe that by "distorting" or, better yet, "judging" things around them, with their perspective, they can get others to accept their perspective as well. What do you think of these attitudes? Personally, these people strike me as manipulative, sociopathic, and narcissistic (this works very well in relationships, too), but I'd like to hear your opinion.
An IRL example it's like this: Think about this person having a restaurant dinner with friends. Then they go back in their car after dinner it's over to drive to their home. If they have people with them, either be friends or just family members, they will start this cold reading process, judging the people at the dinner, and people present in the car will actually "agree" with their POV.
Time after time, event after event, they earn "reputation" in their given circle.
Now, could we explain this phenomenon from a SERIOUS and FACTS perspective?
(The same way we can explain objective attractiveness through the black pill)
Beyond whether these behaviors enhance a person's status or benefit, are they healthy or unhealthy?
Are those hitting on insecure or secure people?
They're good at getting you passionate about the story, and they accurately convey the impression they made on people. That's the point. The impression is theirs, but they manage to convey it in a way that everyone agrees with.
If they tell you, "You know, yesterday I was at the party and I met Karen. She's a really lovely, sweet person, very down-to-earth," or when they speak badly of others, "Look, Frank has this attitude. He's always lazy, but you can't understand. Look at how his kids have turned out. She doesn't take care of herself, she even stinks, she won't even wash herself. Her teeth are yellow, and when she comes and goes with me, she always brings a dirty handkerchief. Be careful touching her; she could give you diseases."
In short, let's say these people live to cold-read what's happening around them, because they believe that by "distorting" or, better yet, "judging" things around them, with their perspective, they can get others to accept their perspective as well. What do you think of these attitudes? Personally, these people strike me as manipulative, sociopathic, and narcissistic (this works very well in relationships, too), but I'd like to hear your opinion.
An IRL example it's like this: Think about this person having a restaurant dinner with friends. Then they go back in their car after dinner it's over to drive to their home. If they have people with them, either be friends or just family members, they will start this cold reading process, judging the people at the dinner, and people present in the car will actually "agree" with their POV.
Time after time, event after event, they earn "reputation" in their given circle.
Now, could we explain this phenomenon from a SERIOUS and FACTS perspective?
(The same way we can explain objective attractiveness through the black pill)
Beyond whether these behaviors enhance a person's status or benefit, are they healthy or unhealthy?
Are those hitting on insecure or secure people?
