The girl I asked out on a date...has a boyfriend

[Alexanderr]

Not sure why but this shit completely caught me by surprise.
Had been hanging out & texting with her for months so it never came to mind. I must've misread literally all the signs. I honestly think the boyfriend might just be an online one with how unlikely it looks. She doesn't seem like the type of girl that hangs out with any guys at all, she seemed flustered enough when we were talking too.

Anyway, all that just for her to mention she got a boyfriend when I ask (over text) her to go to an arcade with me. She did say yes, but that it'd be as "friends".
I responded before I honestly even processed it and said "sure, why not" but now I have to deal with this shit tomorrow.

So now I've gotten friend-zoned and figured out the girl I liked is taken. Not a good start to the month, not a good start at all.

 

[LiteralCaucasian]

Didn't read + you're a jannie

 

[BearBoy]

 

[BearBoy]

Nah just playing dont ban me. I had many girls come up to me in Club that had boyfriends and ask me for numbers jfl it’s common now

 

[khvirgin]

it's bad because when you find out you're thinking "Ok let me act like I don't care and I'm ok with being her friend"

 

[Deleted member 1901]

She could be larping

 

[Deleted member 22190]

Not sure why but this shit completely caught me by surprise.
Had been hanging out & texting with her for months so it never came to mind. I must've misread literally all the signs. I honestly think the boyfriend might just be an online one with how unlikely it looks. She doesn't seem like the type of girl that hangs out with any guys at all, she seemed flustered enough when we were talking too.

Anyway, all that just for her to mention she got a boyfriend when I ask (over text) her to go to an arcade with me. She did say yes, but that it'd be as "friends".
I responded before I honestly even processed it and said "sure, why not" but now I have to deal with this shit tomorrow.

So now I've gotten friend-zoned and figured out the girl I liked is taken. Not a good start to the month, not a good start at all.

It took you months to make a move?

 

[Deleted member 19157]

over tbh. i know fat ass longfaced nibbas who cheat on their gfs with girls who have bfs because theyre hyper NT

 

[Deleted member 1901]

She did say yes, but that it'd be as "friends".

Forget about her then

 

[Hypersonic]

Tie her on this and launch her into antartica at the speech of mach 7, 5 minute delivery time.

 

[NFA PB]

She might be lying
Either way it's over

 

[Alexanderr]

It took you months to make a move?
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Yup, unironically. Not to garner the courage but we'd already been hanging out during this time period so I never bothered to do much beyond.

 

[Deleted member 17531]

Ask her "how long have you had that problem"

 

[Deleted member 14693]

1 month not nutting for this, live of a incel

 

[n0rthface]

Why didn’t you ask in the first 30 seconds of meeting her?

 

[Deleted member 21532]

Pretty sad tbh, My only advice for you is to give couple months and mog her bf to obvlion, there is no any other way.

 

[Alexanderr]

She might be lying

Unlikely, she mentioned someone I could easily ask for verification that supposedly already knew. She said she's pretty much the only person she talks with him about.
Anyway. I've spent some time going over all our interactions and even now, there's no way I could've guessed from that.
Checked her IG bio and there's perhaps a slight sign there but overall I'm still confused as shit right now.

 

[n0rthface]

She shouldn’t be talking to you if she has BF

 

[Alexanderr]

She shouldn’t be talking to you if she has BF

That's the weird part. We've been texting and hanging out and months in I find out she's taken? I remember her mentioning she barely even had any social interactions a couple of months earlier during summer break. Since we're also co-workers.

 

[RAITEIII]

Not sure why but this shit completely caught me by surprise.
Had been hanging out & texting with her for months so it never came to mind. I must've misread literally all the signs. I honestly think the boyfriend might just be an online one with how unlikely it looks. She doesn't seem like the type of girl that hangs out with any guys at all, she seemed flustered enough when we were talking too.

Anyway, all that just for her to mention she got a boyfriend when I ask (over text) her to go to an arcade with me. She did say yes, but that it'd be as "friends".
I responded before I honestly even processed it and said "sure, why not" but now I have to deal with this shit tomorrow.

So now I've gotten friend-zoned and figured out the girl I liked is taken. Not a good start to the month, not a good start at all.

Damn.

But a lesson is learned. Dont spend so long for someone who you dont know if it's even available. And if you have any intentions you need to find out quicker if they are available.

I am giving you a huge thumbs up for making such a chill and relaxed post. RAI... I mean others would have been posting a rant wanting the whole world to burn.

 

[NFA PB]

Unlikely, she mentioned someone I could easily ask for verification that supposedly already knew. She said she's pretty much the only person she talks with him about.
Anyway. I've spent some time going over all our interactions and even now, there's no way I could've guessed from that.
Checked her IG bio and there's perhaps a slight sign there but overall I'm still confused as shit right now.

Well dude if she still said yes to going out just with you then that relationship is weak af and she lowkey might want to cheat

It's up to you to find out

 

[Alexanderr]

1 month not nutting for this, live of a incel

Reality will always find a way to bring you down to earth. I asked her out, and she said yes initially, so I'm happy, I took a nap, and wake up to her clarifying that she has a boyfriend so this can't be a date.

 

[BearBoy]

Reality will always find a way to bring you down to earth. I asked her out, and she said yes initially, so I'm happy, I took a nap, and wake up to her clarifying that she has a boyfriend so this can't be a date.

Tell her that she is a ugly fat bitch and she needs to kill herself (in Minecraft)

 

[Deleted member 17531]

Reality will always find a way to bring you down to earth. I asked her out, and she said yes initially, so I'm happy, I took a nap, and wake up to her clarifying that she has a boyfriend so this can't be a date.

Whats ur stats?

 

[Deleted member 13787]

Tell her that she is a ugly fat bitch and she needs to kill herself (in Minecraft)

 

[Alexanderr]

Pretty sad tbh, My only advice for you is to give couple months and mog her bf to obvlion, there is no any other way.

I have no idea what the guy looks like, to be honest, but I doubt he's much of anything. Considering she's been talking with me for months. I'll be turning the switch to 100 now though.

 

[Deleted member 22190]

Reality will always find a way to bring you down to earth. I asked her out, and she said yes initially, so I'm happy, I took a nap, and wake up to her clarifying that she has a boyfriend so this can't be a date.

Ehh who cares.

If you're attractive enough kiss her and fuck her on the first date no shits given if you can. I believe in you bro. Cuck this imaginary BF faggot to suicide.

 

[RAITEIII]

That's the weird part. We've been texting and hanging out and months in I find out she's taken? I remember her mentioning she barely even had any social interactions a couple of months earlier during summer break. Since we're also co-workers.

May I know what do u work

Unlikely, she mentioned someone I could easily ask for verification that supposedly already knew. She said she's pretty much the only person she talks with him about.
Anyway. I've spent some time going over all our interactions and even now, there's no way I could've guessed from that.
Checked her IG bio and there's perhaps a slight sign there but overall I'm still confused as shit right now.

Also. With my experience. Wholeheartedly, be clear with your intentions. And expect as such. If someone likes you they won't be playing around... so become someone of quality.

 

[Alexanderr]

Damn.

But a lesson is learned. Dont spend so long for someone who you dont know if it's even available. And if you have any intentions you need to find out quicker if they are available.

I am giving you a huge thumbs up for making such a chill and relaxed post. RAI... I mean others would have been posting a rant wanting the whole world to burn.

I don't think I've quite reached the anger stage yet it's more confusion and sadness right now. I really don't know how I never even considered that option. Seems like one of the first things you'd check but I tell you her interactions wouldn't have me guess she was taken even if I had a 100 tries.

 

[Enfant terrible]

Not sure why but this shit completely caught me by surprise.
Had been hanging out & texting with her for months so it never came to mind. I must've misread literally all the signs. I honestly think the boyfriend might just be an online one with how unlikely it looks. She doesn't seem like the type of girl that hangs out with any guys at all, she seemed flustered enough when we were talking too.

Anyway, all that just for her to mention she got a boyfriend when I ask (over text) her to go to an arcade with me. She did say yes, but that it'd be as "friends".
I responded before I honestly even processed it and said "sure, why not" but now I have to deal with this shit tomorrow.

So now I've gotten friend-zoned and figured out the girl I liked is taken. Not a good start to the month, not a good start at all.

i will get you a gf if you make me mod

 

[reborn]

Not sure why but this shit completely caught me by surprise.

As you get older you will realize all girls have boyfriends unless they are 1/10 disfigured landwhales. This is because there are no wars anymore and men don't die anymore. Therefore there are too many men and therefore too few women. So any attractive woman has an army of cucks.

 

[RAITEIII]

Whats ur stats?

6ft6 chadlite

 

[Deleted member 21532]

I have no idea what the guy looks like, to be honest, but I doubt he's much of anything. Considering she's been talking with me for months. I'll be turning the switch to 100 now though.

Obviously you don’t know how he looks , but the fact she chose him over you tells me that he is probably better looking than you, give it couple months and just looksmax bro, what do you mean by ‘switch to 100’

 

[Deleted member 17531]

6ft6 chadlite

I dont think OP would be a mod on here as a 6'6 NT Chadlite.

 

[Alexanderr]

Obviously you don’t know how he looks , but the fact she chose him over you tells me that he is probably better looking than you, give it couple months and just looksmax bro, what do you mean by ‘switch to 100’

Just that I'll be putting in my all to look better now. I became a bit passive last few months.

I dont think OP would be a mod on here as a 6'6 NT Chadlite.

He's exaggerating but I am 6ft4. I became a mod here long before I became NT though.

Ehh who cares.

If you're attractive enough kiss her and fuck her on the first date no shits given if you can. I believe in you bro. Cuck this imaginary BF faggot to suicide.

I'll see tomorrow dude but even if she did cheat, having someone that cheated once before as a girlfriend doesn't seem advisable at all. Best case scenario, they break up today but that's unlikely. I'll just focus on myself for now.

 

[BigJimsWornOutTires]

Perhaps, she wants competition. She wants to see what you got. Someone in a relationship won't go out with the other gender, even as friends. This doesn't happen unless family related. I wouldn't hang out with another woman as friends out of respect. But women seeking options might. And so she might change her tune later to, "Its complicated."

 

[Prettyboy]

Situations like these suck but they still beat never making a move at all. Years can fly by and some guys never take initiative

 

[Alexanderr]

I'll be hitting the gym in the next 15min, I'll try to respond after.

 

[Yliaster]

bro don't go on that date lmao EVAC ASAP [Mission Abort] thats ultimate disrespect to tell someone "I have a bf" after they ask you out,especially after y'all been (talking) for months

 

[n0rthface]

That's the weird part. We've been texting and hanging out and months in I find out she's taken? I remember her mentioning she barely even had any social interactions a couple of months earlier during summer break. Since we're also co-workers.

Will you ghost her or try hard get with her?

 

[GazerGazer]

I don't think I've quite reached the anger stage yet it's more confusion and sadness right now. I really don't know how I never even considered that option. Seems like one of the first things you'd check but I tell you her interactions wouldn't have me guess she was taken even if I had a 100 tries.

bro, there's no reason to be confused, you put yourself in the friend zone my guy. How are you gonna be hanging out and texting a girl for months without making a move? honestly, if you don't make some kind of move or flirt with a girl within the first couple of linkups, its usually GG unless shes really on ur dick. Go watch sum fresh n fit bro deadass

 

[Deleted member 16474]

always assume that she is taken but that doesn't stop her from monkey branching if you are better

if you think she is the one then you know how to act on your self interest and maybe get her to be ur potential mate

if she is not the one It is an uphill battle and think what you can get from this interaction, fun? more contacts? etc

 

[Corleone]

Not sure why but this shit completely caught me by surprise.
Had been hanging out & texting with her for months so it never came to mind. I must've misread literally all the signs. I honestly think the boyfriend might just be an online one with how unlikely it looks. She doesn't seem like the type of girl that hangs out with any guys at all, she seemed flustered enough when we were talking too.

Anyway, all that just for her to mention she got a boyfriend when I ask (over text) her to go to an arcade with me. She did say yes, but that it'd be as "friends".
I responded before I honestly even processed it and said "sure, why not" but now I have to deal with this shit tomorrow.

So now I've gotten friend-zoned and figured out the girl I liked is taken. Not a good start to the month, not a good start at all.

doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't see you as a potential partner. Girls are usually hopping from one boyfriend to another, rather than break up with no back-up option to fall on, as they are scared to be alone. If you say you've been vibing and got some hints that she could be interested, I wouldn't stress the fact that she has a boyfriend.

Hope you can still pull through.

 

[Corleone]

Didn't read + you're a jannie

jannie CEO

 

[Deleted member 20370]

this is some @Ken tier shit tbh

 

[Alexanderr]

I'll be hitting the gym in the next 15min, I'll try to respond after.

I'm back and feel a whole lot better.

bro, there's no reason to be confused, you put yourself in the friend zone my guy. How are you gonna be hanging out and texting a girl for months without making a move? honestly, if you don't make some kind of move or flirt with a girl within the first couple of linkups, its usually GG unless shes really on ur dick. Go watch sum fresh n fit bro deadass

Usually, I'd agree but I didn't like this girl from the start. The more I got the know her, the more I started liking her. Not to mention we were already hanging out on a regular so there was no pressure.

bro don't go on that date lmao EVAC ASAP [Mission Abort] thats ultimate disrespect to tell someone "I have a bf" after they ask you out,especially after y'all been (talking) for months

It's too late son. Not to mention, we planned on going to work together right afterward (we usually do). I've really put myself in a rough position here. I feel a lot better than 2 hours ago though. I can finally feel see a way out of this rut, let's hope tomorrow I'll be semi-up to speed again.

Situations like these suck but they still beat never making a move at all. Years can fly by and some guys never take initiative

I suppose. I am glad I asked though and that she corrected me, had she not, I would've been living with this delusion a lot longer.

Will you ghost her or try hard get with her?

Hard to ghost her when she's still my coworker. Our school buildings are also pretty much right next to each other. I'll just see her less and try to get over her.

always assume that she is taken but that doesn't stop her from monkey branching if you are better

if you think she is the one then you know how to act on your self interest and maybe get her to be ur potential mate

if she is not the one It is an uphill battle and think what you can get from this interaction, fun? more contacts? etc

Eh, I don't like the idea of having a girl that was taken by someone else while being in a relationship. Even if that someone else is me. After all, it merely means the same could happen again. Being friends is an option- once I am no longer romantically vested. Which will require me to avoid her for a while.

 

[PURE ARYAN GENETICS]

brutal blow to the adminpill

I responded before I honestly even processed it and said "sure, why not" but now I have to deal with this shit tomorrow

 

[PURE ARYAN GENETICS]

maybe it's a shit test to see if you really like her as a person or just want to sleep with her

 

[Ken]

Reality will always find a way to bring you down to earth. I asked her out, and she said yes initially, so I'm happy, I took a nap, and wake up to her clarifying that she has a boyfriend so this can't be a date.

BRUTAL same thing happened to me. If you arent too obsessed with her you can stay friends and ask if she has any friends she can hook you up with. If she sees you hooking up with one of her friends it will make her more attracted to you. If you are too obsessed with her like I was with my oneitis then you should cut her out of your life completely. Being around her will only make you suffer.

Situations like these suck but they still beat never making a move at all. Years can fly by and some guys never take initiative

Legit, always make a move as soon as possible. Every decent looking girl I know has at least one orbiter that pretends to be her friend just waiting to make his move. Its pathetic, every day they dont make a move she loses even more attraction to them.

 

[GazerGazer]

Usually, I'd agree but I didn't like this girl from the start. The more I got the know her, the more I started liking her. Not to mention we were already hanging out on a regular so there was no pressure.

Even then bro, the more u got to know her as a friend, the deeper u went into the friendzone. no if, ands or buts about it