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Hello users, within the past 10 years, meeting people online via social media or dating apps has been the most prominent way to meet a potential partner. A study finds that "About half of those under 30 (53%) report having ever used a dating site or app, compared with 37% of those ages 30 to 49, 20% of those 50 to 64 and 13% of those 65 and older." (Source.)
A graph of percentages of couples that meet online that goes by race, age, and marital status for all who need a visual graph:
Big deal, why is it so important to know how mainstream online dating is? Because with such a large amount of people doing it (53%,) there are bound to be a few issues.
Firstly, let's address the main issue with online dating nowadays - Height inflation.
Height inflation is possibly the biggest reason why men nowadays are less inclined on making the first move and getting into relationships, the standard for height keeps on going up. This is due to social media pushing for more and more and many people lying about their height for attention and praise, and a lot of people have no idea what actual heights/height differences really look like.
To put it into perspective, people nowadays perceive 6'0, when in reality it's more around 5'9 - 5'10. So a good 2-3 inches more than it actually is. Let's look at what a major height difference (7 inches) looks like in real life.
It's a no brainer, the boy isn't even in good posture and he looks way taller than the girl, but a 7 inch height difference online is completely distorted and made to look much smaller than it really is. Due to the height inflation going on online, writing your height (say for example 5'7,) on dating apps, is a sure fire way of making sure you get almost zero matches nowadays since a lot of people hear "5'7" and think of some small, tiny person when in reality this is the height difference between someone who is 5'0 (around the range of one of the most preferred heights for women to have by men,) and a man who is 5'7 (slightly below average):
It doesn't look bad at all, yet some people still desire a height difference of over a foot (no judgement if it's a genuine preference, just an informational since most people online have completely distorted image of what height looks like,) Here is a man who is 6'4 next to a woman who is 5'2:
The height difference is massive. Most people who desire a big height difference in relationships have absolutely no idea what this would look like in real life, because as stated before, it is a distorted online standard, and it's the main reason why men nowadays are insecure and on websites like this one, scrambling to find any way to improve themselves to fit some unrealistic online standard that would make them the real life equivalent of a greek God if they were to reach it, yet men in the 60s were the same height and most of them were married (Source.)
So now that we've gotten the mostly unrealistic online standard, what's the point of approaching and meeting people in real life compared to doing it online? Well there are multiple logical reasons, it saves time, you get to meet the person in a more personal fashion, you get to see what they really look like in real life, and as stated before, you, for the most part, don't have to deal with the online standards that are pushed into relationships nowadays.
As stated before, why were the majority of men throughout history all the way up to the 2000s usually married? It's because they were all low inhib since their social interactions were not fulfilled by online communities and they instead had to go out and put themselves out there if they wanted any form of human interaction. People were a lot more confident and that's why the majority of people were married back then and "incels" weren't really a thing.
Now let's put this information into a real world scenario, between the two people below, who looks like they're more likely to cold approach someone in real life and be low inhib/NT?
It's pretty obvious, easily the one on the left, something about him just gives off that energy. K. Shami (right,) doesn't look like he'd be up to the task as much, because his name online is ruined and people think of him a short, frauding man, but the person on the left, you know nothing about. So if you were to get cold approached by either of them, you'd 100% be more interested in the one on the left, even if him and K. Shami are the same height.
When you meet someone in real life, it's just a completely different experience. There are no initial doubts about their personality or what they are like in real life, it's the real thing so you don't ever have to worry. And it is also much easier to meet people in real life than online nowadays for the average man who is around the average height (majority of the forum although most users like to claim otherwise.) Unfortunately a lot of people nowadays have a steady supply of inhibition and aren't NT enough to cold approach in real life, so they limit themselves to online where standards and images of people are distorted, and they get stuck into a loop of insecurity and anger, which is probably how some of you may be here today.
TL;DR: Be NT, approaching people in real life has been and will always be the best form of meeting potential partners and friends. You live your life once and once only so put yourself out there, don't invest in the idea that you'll meet someone of quality online, your time is precious, better to spend it on something worthwhile.
A graph of percentages of couples that meet online that goes by race, age, and marital status for all who need a visual graph:
Big deal, why is it so important to know how mainstream online dating is? Because with such a large amount of people doing it (53%,) there are bound to be a few issues.
Firstly, let's address the main issue with online dating nowadays - Height inflation.
Height inflation is possibly the biggest reason why men nowadays are less inclined on making the first move and getting into relationships, the standard for height keeps on going up. This is due to social media pushing for more and more and many people lying about their height for attention and praise, and a lot of people have no idea what actual heights/height differences really look like.
To put it into perspective, people nowadays perceive 6'0, when in reality it's more around 5'9 - 5'10. So a good 2-3 inches more than it actually is. Let's look at what a major height difference (7 inches) looks like in real life.
It's a no brainer, the boy isn't even in good posture and he looks way taller than the girl, but a 7 inch height difference online is completely distorted and made to look much smaller than it really is. Due to the height inflation going on online, writing your height (say for example 5'7,) on dating apps, is a sure fire way of making sure you get almost zero matches nowadays since a lot of people hear "5'7" and think of some small, tiny person when in reality this is the height difference between someone who is 5'0 (around the range of one of the most preferred heights for women to have by men,) and a man who is 5'7 (slightly below average):
It doesn't look bad at all, yet some people still desire a height difference of over a foot (no judgement if it's a genuine preference, just an informational since most people online have completely distorted image of what height looks like,) Here is a man who is 6'4 next to a woman who is 5'2:
The height difference is massive. Most people who desire a big height difference in relationships have absolutely no idea what this would look like in real life, because as stated before, it is a distorted online standard, and it's the main reason why men nowadays are insecure and on websites like this one, scrambling to find any way to improve themselves to fit some unrealistic online standard that would make them the real life equivalent of a greek God if they were to reach it, yet men in the 60s were the same height and most of them were married (Source.)
So now that we've gotten the mostly unrealistic online standard, what's the point of approaching and meeting people in real life compared to doing it online? Well there are multiple logical reasons, it saves time, you get to meet the person in a more personal fashion, you get to see what they really look like in real life, and as stated before, you, for the most part, don't have to deal with the online standards that are pushed into relationships nowadays.
As stated before, why were the majority of men throughout history all the way up to the 2000s usually married? It's because they were all low inhib since their social interactions were not fulfilled by online communities and they instead had to go out and put themselves out there if they wanted any form of human interaction. People were a lot more confident and that's why the majority of people were married back then and "incels" weren't really a thing.
Now let's put this information into a real world scenario, between the two people below, who looks like they're more likely to cold approach someone in real life and be low inhib/NT?
It's pretty obvious, easily the one on the left, something about him just gives off that energy. K. Shami (right,) doesn't look like he'd be up to the task as much, because his name online is ruined and people think of him a short, frauding man, but the person on the left, you know nothing about. So if you were to get cold approached by either of them, you'd 100% be more interested in the one on the left, even if him and K. Shami are the same height.
When you meet someone in real life, it's just a completely different experience. There are no initial doubts about their personality or what they are like in real life, it's the real thing so you don't ever have to worry. And it is also much easier to meet people in real life than online nowadays for the average man who is around the average height (majority of the forum although most users like to claim otherwise.) Unfortunately a lot of people nowadays have a steady supply of inhibition and aren't NT enough to cold approach in real life, so they limit themselves to online where standards and images of people are distorted, and they get stuck into a loop of insecurity and anger, which is probably how some of you may be here today.
TL;DR: Be NT, approaching people in real life has been and will always be the best form of meeting potential partners and friends. You live your life once and once only so put yourself out there, don't invest in the idea that you'll meet someone of quality online, your time is precious, better to spend it on something worthwhile.
