
Seth Walsh
The man in the mirror is my only threat
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- Looks filter the pool; below-average faces barely register.
- Top 10 % of men and women hoard most digital attention; median users starve.
- Women date up in status, income, and age; men accept lateral or down.
- Early-20s female desirability peaks; late-30s male resources peak.
- Dating apps run winner-take-most auctions: a super-hot tier monopolizes matches.
- Global social media exposes local daters to world-class competitors, inflating standards.
- Monogamy relied on social pressure; erosion of that norm widens inequality in pairings.
- Choice overload breeds paralysis and serial short-term bonds.
- Most people anchor on perceived market value, not personal compatibility.
- Commitment often triggers when biological or social deadlines loom rather than when “ready.”
- Emotional labor expected from women; financial provisioning expected from men; both resent the trade.
- Romantic storytelling markets the product; underlying exchange remains transactional.
- Sexual market is zero-sum short-term – one man’s success often requires another’s failure.
- Women filter, men pursue – biological cost of pregnancy makes female selectivity foundational.
- Looks and status dominate entry – personality only matters after attraction threshold is crossed.
- Hypergamy is real – most women date up or across; rarely down.
- Male peak ≈ 30-35 (resources higher, maintain looks + be normal), female peak ≈ 20-24 – asymmetrical windows of maximum desirability.
- Top 10% of men monopolize most attention – digital dating accelerates winner-takes-most dynamics.
- "Nice guy" behavior without arousal is invisible – kindness doesn’t generate attraction without desire.
- Commitment is an earned privilege, not a default – given to those who excite and lead, not merely present.
- Marriage is often a bet against time and libido – declining novelty fights pair-bonding after 3–5 years.
- Rejection isn’t always about you—it’s often about her options, timing, ego, or trauma—but internalizing it still ruins men who lack frame.