
got.daim
Such creature is said to stalk the night
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I think female attraction works different from the model we accept as universal, which seems to be male-centric. There was that study I remember seeing years ago where straight men, gay men, bisexual men, lesbians, bisexual women, and straight women all watched a bunch of erotic videos with various biometrics on them (sweat, pulse, genital response) to see if they were turned on without using self-report (since people might feel embarrassed and lie. They showed them straight porn, gay porn, lesbian porn, and a control video of animals mating. The men had responses that aligned closely to their stated preferences--the straight men liked the straight and the lesbian porn, the bisexual men liked it all, the gay men liked the gay porn and maybe some of the male focus in the straight porn, none of them liked the animals. But the women...orientation didn't matter, all of them responded to all of it, even to the animals mating. It was just ~erotic vibes~.My experience with that type of lust is that it has nothing to do at all with who you want to be with or have sex with--there's no "you" in it, it's sort of a disembodied cloud of eroticism appreciating all sorts of things. In the male-gaze view, it'd be weird to enjoy the thought of horses mating--like what, do you want to fuck a horse? But it's not about fucking a horse as a human, it's about the sexual passion the horses have for each other. This is why lesbians like yaoi. The whole "liking celebrities and fictional characters" thing isn't bisexuality. I thought I was bi because I crushed on anime boys, then I realized if the only boys you're "attracted" to are 2d, you're not bisexual. Sometimes it's closer to AAP than true "attraction" anyway..
Female sexuality is just different like that. It doesn't mean they're all secretly bisexual. (Altho I do want to clarify, I don't think this is a universal difference, more like a type of fembrain/malebrain, where even cis people can experience the other type of attraction, it's just less common.) I'm a mix of fembrain and malebrain in other areas but I'm pretty damn fembrained on this so I understand it well. Been around plenty of lesbians who work this way--some of whom were in fact never raped or SAed in any way. They just don't feel any interest around actual men when they're around them. They're not even necessarily closed to the idea, like "well, if I did get feelings like that for a man, I guess I'd reconsider whether I'm bi," but they don't feel the need to call themselves bi and give men false hope when the only men they "like" are celebrities or cartoons.
Female sexuality is just different like that. It doesn't mean they're all secretly bisexual. (Altho I do want to clarify, I don't think this is a universal difference, more like a type of fembrain/malebrain, where even cis people can experience the other type of attraction, it's just less common.) I'm a mix of fembrain and malebrain in other areas but I'm pretty damn fembrained on this so I understand it well. Been around plenty of lesbians who work this way--some of whom were in fact never raped or SAed in any way. They just don't feel any interest around actual men when they're around them. They're not even necessarily closed to the idea, like "well, if I did get feelings like that for a man, I guess I'd reconsider whether I'm bi," but they don't feel the need to call themselves bi and give men false hope when the only men they "like" are celebrities or cartoons.