This forum is toxic and more harmful than people realize

[DownwardGrowthCel]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

 

[DownwardGrowthCel]

bump

 

[takethezincpill]

bump

Bomp

 

[Panchitosbroncs]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

Summarize

 

[onfoenem]

dnr but based off the title youre right. org is a forum full of negative incels, but thats common knowledge. just find the nice guys and ask them for advice

 

[AntiCortisol]

Well if people post their face on here, they should know everyone will downgrade them or be truthfully honest. Didn’t read allat though

 

[KidFlash]

I don't really care honestly, it's pretty easy for me to accept people are just gonna say the most negative and sometimes false things about me possible and to sometimes troll them back for fun

 

[Quetila]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

whitepilled slop

 

[Brava]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

I agree but at the same time this is how the world works. Being an outcast and seeing others are in similar situations, can give hope and help each other. That’s what lm is basically for.

 

[SwissArms]

Tales from broken enter key

 

[TheAncientMacedonia]

Tales from broken enter key

it would be so easier to read if he hit the button

 

[gunrenaissance]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

Tldr?
Also I think it's pretty much water there's nothing you can really do about it aside from ignoring those people

 

[Wexilarious]

there a lot of sciencecels that ignore everything that isn't on their "studies"

 

[manhattanbound]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

dnr, it was never that serious

 

[HTNAntoine]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

Ain’t reading allat

 

[_Zygomatic_]

I lowkey only come here to troll and read the psychopathic comments of people its actually pretty fun, but i literally do not relate to most of these pople in any way cause theyre so heavily blackpilled and clearly have never touched grass or felt the touch of a woman. this whole forum is basically filled with doomers that think that their life is over meanwhile most of them are teenagers. honestly as long as youre not a sub 3 you can live a normal life and have a dating life but you actually have to have a personality and some social awareness which the people here clearly lack lol

 

[Boosie’s_Build]

Editops

 

[Boosie’s_Build]

https://looksmax.org/members/potency.266833/

@Potency

 

[BeanCelll]

it would be so easier to read if he hit the button

If only...

 

[Acquiescence]

Life / normies / the workplace / school etc etc is just as, if not more, brutal so eh wgaf it’s all shit let it be shit

 

[Potency]

@Potency

???

 

[dancingdoll25]

they are very fucking angry

 

[0bs]

Most incels are here to find validation, they dont look for self improvement

 

[dancingdoll25]

Most incels are here to find validation, they dont look for self improvement

im looking for self improvement

 

[DownwardGrowthCel]

bump

 

[Luquier]

Life / normies / the workplace / school etc etc is just as, if not more, brutal so eh wgaf it’s all shit let it be shit

Agreed no matter what you do or where you go normies will suck the life out of you

 

[Calippo]

100% man. This site normalises despair to the point where it feels like the only honest perspective..but it ends up ruining real life functioning for a lot of ppl.

Mfs criticize normies and women for cruelty and shallowness, yet the forum reinforces that exact behaviour ...attacking decent users, repping edgy trollers and doomer spam.

Sympathy evaporates once someone is labelled "never began", mental health gets dismissed as bluepilled cope, threads that could offer practical advice gets turned into rope jokes, dnrd spam, ldar, kys and all other shit. A handful of users have already roped (RIP).

This place was meant to be a place for improvement, a real community...because external society rarely provides tools, sympathy or understanding for these issues. When we tear each other down instead of lifting where possible, we sabotage the very goal we claim to pursue.

 

[ronluk]

Foooooshuuu i literallly lurk here for no reason anymore I literally have my acension plan figured out alongside surgeries currently planned and booked. everything else here is just noise. Yet I can’t leave as this place is interesting as fuckkkk

 

[xXXxZeusxXXx]

Dnr

 

[Vantablack]

Life / normies / the workplace / school etc etc is just as, if not more, brutal so eh wgaf it’s all shit let it be shit

exactly, i didn’t become blackpilled after coming on this forum, i came here because i saw the lies and corruption around me and searched for answers. i wish i could forget it all and live a normal, happy life. i certainly have the looks and reources for it. but the truth comes to bite back one way or the other.

it’s better to know these things early, rather than be in your 50s and find out your wife is cucking you with her personal trainer. imagine the brutality of bluepilled boomers and gen x men who had to go through it. there’s a reason men commit 4x more suicide than women, it’s not because they’re lurking on incel forums

 

[kisslessvirgin]

i get where ur coming from

but no one who could have had a great or above normal life would get roped into spending all their time here. people who arent validated irl come here, while people who have success dont need to stay here

 

[DownwardGrowthCel]

Dnr

1:1 post to rep ratio btw

 

[kenibba]

@grok summarize the thread

 

[xXXxZeusxXXx]

1:1 post to rep ratio btw

dnr

 

[ASTRO_YSD]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

Well the only reason I am their bc I never got loved the person I loved the most could do anything for her hated me blocked get away from me the reason was I didn't looked good and also people don't like me bc I look ugly

 

[Luquier]

100% man. This site normalises despair to the point where it feels like the only honest perspective..but it ends up ruining real life functioning for a lot of ppl.

Mfs criticize normies and women for cruelty and shallowness, yet the forum reinforces that exact behaviour ...attacking decent users, repping edgy trollers and doomer spam.

Sympathy evaporates once someone is labelled "never began", mental health gets dismissed as bluepilled cope, threads that could offer practical advice gets turned into rope jokes, dnrd spam, ldar, kys and all other shit. A handful of users have already roped (RIP).

This place was meant to be a place for improvement, a real community...because external society rarely provides tools, sympathy or understanding for these issues. When we tear each other down instead of lifting where possible, we sabotage the very goal we claim to pursue.

Just skim BOTB then leave IMO

.org is catty normie central

 

[DownwardGrowthCel]

Bump

 

[DownwardGrowthCel]

bump this shit

 

[super_cuck69]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

sky is blue

 

[user20266741]

There’s a reason a lot of the so called forum legends eventually disappear. (like Arvid gustavsson etc)
When I first found this place I honestly thought everyone here was insane. But the more time I spent reading, especially in off topic, the more I started to relate to people. At the beginning it was only a few things that felt familiar while most of it still seemed extreme or ridiculous to me. I remember thinking I would never end up with that kind of mindset or see myself in such a negative way. But over time something changed. If the version of me from nine months ago could see me now and hear how I talk about the world he would probably think I lost my mind. I started hating myself more, pulling away from real life, and looking at normal people like they were from a different planet.
This place kind of glorifies being an outcast and beating yourself up mentally. People reinforce each other’s worst thoughts and it turns into a downward spiral. The truth is that for most people who think it’s over for them it really isn’t. Just because you’re not getting constant attention or praise for your looks doesn’t mean your life is finished.
I understand why someone would want to reach that ideal if they think they can. Wanting to improve yourself is natural and the drive can be strong. The problem is when you start believing that if you can’t have that exact life then nothing else is worth living for. That mindset only destroys you in the end. You’re the one who pays the price for it.
I don’t think anyone actually wants to live stuck like that. Most people didn’t think that way when they first joined. For a lot of users this environment slowly shaped how they see themselves until it felt normal. Deep down I doubt anyone truly wants to believe they’re doomed. The limiting beliefs just get repeated so often that they start to feel like facts. But every time you go outside you see people who don’t fit those harsh standards still having friends relationships and decent lives. They’re happier than most people who sit online obsessing over their flaws.
It’s easy to fall into confirmation bias where you only notice things that support your negative beliefs and ignore everything that contradicts them. You explain away real life examples that don’t fit your worldview instead of questioning the mindset itself. In the end that way of thinking doesn’t hurt the world it hurts you.
If someone really believes they have no chance at happiness it’s worth asking why they still keep going. Usually it’s because deep down they still want to live and be happy but they’re holding themselves back with their own assumptions.
I’m not trying to attack anyone. I’m just saying I don’t see the point of staying trapped in a mentality that makes you miserable. You should want to move forward and leave that mindset behind. For most people a better life isn’t some impossible fantasy. It’s something they could actually reach if they stopped convincing themselves they can’t.
Anyway it’s late and I just needed to get this off my chest. I wrote this quickly so it’s probably messy but I wanted to say it anyway.

Yea i agree, i think living life should be a lot more talker about on this forum, its ok to improve ofc, but its important to live life a little and be happy. Its not all about looks