tips on moving out of parents house?

[FiendFiend]

my fag alcoholic dad came back, he said to my mom "hes a bully and i only have one real son anymore"

btw he said this in violent ass tone, this guy has smashed my head on the radiator before as a kid, beat th ever living shit out of me. My mom thinks its normal btw and is like "well this is just normal in households" and shit.

I wanna leave but have no job, only like 2-3k $, like 400$ coming in monthly, i just turned 18 what do i do.

 

[Kroker]

Just unlock the door and head out it’s not that hard bro

Jokes aside, make sure you’re financially stable then decide

 

[FiendFiend]

Just unlock the door and head out it’s not that hard bro

Jokes aside, make sure you’re financially stable then decide

i will never be financially stable im in one of the most expensive cities in the world, for 2 month of rent even for a 1 room i'd lose all my money.

However i dont wanna even live in this house where i genually fear for my life

 

[Kroker]

i will never be financially stable im in one of the most expensive cities in the world, for 2 month of rent even for a 1 room i'd lose all my money.

However i dont wanna even live in this house where i genually fear for my life

Just call the cops on his ass

Are in a black household? Use him and milk every cent you can and then relocate somewhere moderately expensive

 

[FiendFiend]

Just call the cops on his ass

Are in a black household? Use him and milk every cent you can and then relocate somewhere moderately expensive

im white.

Also im 18, last time he put hands on my mom was months ago police wont do shit bro + im giga high inhib for that

 

[FiendFiend]

Just call the cops on his ass

Are in a black household? Use him and milk every cent you can and then relocate somewhere moderately expensive

his money is in his bank, trust me if i could take this faggots money and leave atp i would. I know how he is though he genually hates my guts even as a kid he literally said he doesnt see me as his son he would just literally get me arrested

im not dealing with a cuck here, genuine horrible person. Yeah bro 100kg fucking orc saying his 50kg son is a "bully" as he has beat the living ever shit out of me, put hands on my mom and despises me for existing. He literally crashed out and basically wants me disowned because I didnt put a rug up after showering.

Cant make this shit up.

 

[Kroker]

im white.

Also im 18, last time he put hands on my mom was months ago police wont do shit bro + im giga high inhib for that

No older siblings? No relatives?

What did u do that pissed him off

 

[FiendFiend]

im white.

Also im 18, last time he put hands on my mom was months ago police wont do shit bro + im giga high inhib for that

its hard to explain how high inhib and how helpless i feel to even do shit against him, even fight back , take shit from him, call police on him will just be impossible to get myself to do that.

Thats how fucked up hes messed me up mentally since birth

 

[CorinthianLOX]

I’m in a lowkey similar situation rn

 

[Kroker]

his money is in his bank, trust me if i could take this faggots money and leave atp i would. I know how he is though he genually hates my guts even as a kid he literally said he doesnt see me as his son he would just literally get me arrested

im not dealing with a cuck here, genuine horrible person. Yeah bro 100kg fucking orc saying his 50kg son is a "bully" as he has beat the living ever shit out of me, put hands on my mom and despises me for existing. He literally crashed out and basically wants me disowned because I didnt put a rug up after showering.

Cant make this shit up.

Tell the nigga to get a hobby or travel somewhere

Go to a shooting range or go on fishing, he needs to let the steam out

 

[FiendFiend]

No older siblings? No relatives?

What did u do that pissed him off

idk he doesnt even pay the rent. He smashed my head into a radiator as a kid, was hardly present, always drunk, and hes mad because im "ungrateful" or "selfish" cuz I eat food in the house (btw i eat like less than 1k calories a day and im like 110lbs) and cuz im just so fucking depressed and feel like a sitting duck in where I just wanna LDAR. Not bothering anyone, not saying a word to anyone the whole day, just on my pc or phone. Its been like this for months btw.

After he put my hands on my mom , my mom made him move out for 2 months in his home in spain, but now he came back out of no where and I said I dont wanna see him because hes not my dad to me anymore, I did say I dont care if he dies, i said this when i was 7 cuz how hard he beat my ass before so i havent been inconsistent.

 

[FiendFiend]

Tell the nigga to get a hobby or travel somewhere

Go to a shooting range or go on fishing, he needs to the steam out

he went on holiday and hes back and hes still aggressive, hes now gonna work in where he comes home drinking after doing hard labour and i just dont want to be part of that or see what happens.

Genually feel like he might kill me cuz he broke down my door the other month

 

[FiendFiend]

I’m in a lowkey similar situation rn

brutal. How do we get out of this. Im so high inhib its fucked in where i havent left house in months other than to do driving lessons.

 

[Askeladd93270]

my fag alcoholic dad came back, he said to my mom "hes a bully and i only have one real son anymore"

btw he said this in violent ass tone, this guy has smashed my head on the radiator before as a kid, beat th ever living shit out of me. My mom thinks its normal btw and is like "well this is just normal in households" and shit.

I wanna leave but have no job, only like 2-3k $, like 400$ coming in monthly, i just turned 18 what do i do.

WTF IM IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION

 

[CorinthianLOX]

brutal. How do we get out of this. Im so high inhib its fucked in where i havent left house in months other than to do driving lessons.

I’m pushing 20 and i’m still in this situation fuck me

 

[FiendFiend]

WTF IM IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION

yeah im just lost what to do im so fucked. I have one friend who i meet every couple months but i dont wanan bother his nt ass and his mom and sister he lives with. Having a random stranger live in ur house must be so weird and brutal

 

[Kroker]

idk he doesnt even pay the rent. He smashed my head into a radiator as a kid, was hardly present, always drunk, and hes mad because im "ungrateful" or "selfish" cuz I eat food in the house (btw i eat like less than 1k calories a day and im like 110lbs) and cuz im just so fucking depressed and feel like a sitting duck in where I just wanna LDAR. Not bothering anyone, not saying a word to anyone the whole day, just on my pc or phone. Its been like this for months btw.

After he put my hands on my mom , my mom made him move out for 2 months in his home in spain, but now he came back out of no where and I said I dont wanna see him because hes not my dad to me anymore, I did say I dont care if he dies, i said this when i was 7 cuz how hard he beat my ass before so i havent been inconsistent.

I’m really sorry that you’re going through this, if he’s that incompetent and doesn’t like responsibility then he should have never procreated, but yeah he seems incapable of thinking right from the beginning if he came up with that decision and damn sure knows he won’t live up to their offspring’s expectations

Try to spend as much of time as you can outside and get back to eat and sleep

Are you guys poor, why he’s so stingy on food? How many family members in total?

 

[FiendFiend]

I’m pushing 20 and i’m still in this situation fuck me

brutal. They think its normal too. My mom just thinks this is a regular occurance is like "well why dont u remember the good things about ur childhood" as if it wasnt mostly shouting, trauma from getting my ass beat. I feel like i cant stand up to him and if that isnt evident enough of how deathly terrified i am of him idk what is.

I genually have always felt even as a kid this nigga might just kill me in my sleep.

 

[FiendFiend]

I’m really sorry that you’re going through this, if he’s that incompetent and doesn’t like responsibility then he should have never procreated, but yeah he seems incapable of thinking right from the beginning if he came up with that decision and damn sure knows he won’t live up to their offspring’s expectations

Try to spend as much of time as you can outside and get back to eat and sleep

Are you guys poor, why he’s so stingy on food? How many family members in total?

i know i said i dont even wanna be here anyway. I dont think he'd even give a fuck if i roped. I feel sorry for my mom because my mom thinks we're like equally at fault and we just can't "get along" or something.

This guy only sees me as a robot not a son, basically disowning me because i just turned 18 because of him so fucking high inhib in where i dont wanna study or even go outside, or not working. I know probably this wouldnt have happend if I worked a job or went studying but I just cant get myself to doing that the experience at schools and shit have been so brutal i cant.

 

[Kroker]

i know i said i dont even wanna be here anyway. I dont think he'd even give a fuck if i roped. I feel sorry for my mom because my mom thinks we're like equally at fault and we just can't "get along" or something.

This guy only sees me as a robot not a son, basically disowning me because i just turned 18 because of him so fucking high inhib in where i dont wanna study or even go outside, or not working. I know probably this wouldnt have happend if I worked a job or went studying but I just cant get myself to doing that the experience at schools and shit have been so brutal i cant.

What are you limitations? What’s hindering you?

 

[FiendFiend]

I’m really sorry that you’re going through this, if he’s that incompetent and doesn’t like responsibility then he should have never procreated, but yeah he seems incapable of thinking right from the beginning if he came up with that decision and damn sure knows he won’t live up to their offspring’s expectations

Try to spend as much of time as you can outside and get back to eat and sleep

Are you guys poor, why he’s so stingy on food? How many family members in total?

idk he has like a home in spain, 80k in his account ,hes mad cuz i eat like 1 steak a day, and like a snack or two, thats my whole meal for the day.

My dad is saying he shouldnt be eating steak cuz hes ungrateful, despite him not paying a single bill, just stacking up money for god knows who? Only me and my brother in the house. He shifts between studying and working.

 

[FiendFiend]

What are you limitations? What’s hindering you?

idk man im just so fucked mentally its weird i dont mind doing driving lessons cuz the instructor is chill, we just drive and its hands on, and i genually like it and wanna get my license.

I dont know why he hates my ass so much he just sees me as a drain of recourses, if the kid is not like 17 or 18 working like 10 jobs its wild to him. He used to say back in his day he would have to cook soup for the whole family and shit and in the 90s in the USSR had to survive off bread.

He doesnt understand I never experienced such struggle, was enabled by mom who let me play games all day and dad never played with me and shit so I just glued myself to the computer screen.

No amount of talking or sense will get to him. He will always just see me as ungrateful despite him not being in my mental framework and him not understanding how hard it is to do any task, all because i have jaw issues from shit nutrition as a kid, and have basically spent months talking to not a single soul and staring in front of a screen, because its my only cope.

He believes too much in free will and its so strange, even my brother who has always got good grades, struggles socializing a lot, but hes older, and studied and enjoy studying always as a cope and i never did and would just cry on my first day of school wanting to gtfo out of there.

 

[Askeladd93270]

yeah im just lost what to do im so fucked. I have one friend who i meet every couple months but i dont wanan bother his nt ass and his mom and sister he lives with. Having a random stranger live in ur house must be so weird and brutal

I just turned 18, my dad is an alcoholic too, I have a few grands too, I don't have a job too I perfectly know what you mean by violant ass tome but my dad never physically beat me your situation is way worse, mine drink, lick ppls shoes and scream every nigth to my mom but he doesn't touch us, at some point I just got enough bc of an argument and went to live with my grandpa it was great but then my parents wanted me to comeback and my dumbass grandpa promised my mom that I would but I was like no I won't but then I felt pressure so I went just for a talk and I had my first real conversation with my dad I told him im nd and malnourished bc of him in a NT way we were screaming crying etc and at the end I told him I will stay if he admit he was wrong and stop alcohol he did none of those so I went on my way to go then he threatened me that he would beat me up all the way to the door then after that OBVIOUSLY I had to go but on my way other grandma's not the one I was staying at wich are far and uncles stopped me and didn't want me to go my mom too so I decided I will leave tomorrow when I'm at peace but then my mom I felt pressure from her and I didn't go , so now I'm looking for a job and trying to get my license and just fully ignoring my dad Idk how it will go for you tho your situation is way worse

 

[FiendFiend]

I just turned 18, my dad is an alcoholic too, I have a few grands too, I don't have a job too I perfectly know what you mean by violant ass tome but my dad never physically beat me your situation is way worse, mine drink, lick ppls shoes and scream every nigth to my mom but he doesn't touch us, at some point I just got enough bc of an argument and went to live with my grandpa it was great but then my parents wanted me to comeback and my dumbass grandpa promised my mom that I would but I was like no I won't but then I felt pressure so I went just for a talk and I had my first real conversation with my dad I told him im nd and malnourished bc of him in a NT way we were screaming crying etc and at the end I told him I will stay if he admit he was wrong and stop alcohol he did none of those so I went on my way to go then he threatened me that he would beat me up all the way to the door then after that OBVIOUSLY I had to go but on my way other grandma's not the one I was staying at wich are far and uncles stopped me and didn't want me to go my mom too so I decided I will leave tomorrow when I'm at peace but then my mom I felt pressure from her and I didn't go , so now I'm looking for a job and trying to get my license and just fully ignoring my dad Idk how it will go for you tho your situation is way worse

fucking brutal. its crazy how he defends his alcoholism, and he says i think im "entilted" to shit. I said i feel like im entitled to a dad who doesnt drink or beat their wife or kids and he basically said ok yeah but everyone does that.

Its like where im just so at lost I dont know when his next crash out is gonna be, I feel so fucked and never was brought up with any social skills so I cant even work or do shit. He leaves for spain again in december. I dont know how im gonna survive european winter with like 3k for 3 months.

Its just we are at such odds where i said i dont care if he dies, i actually hope he dies. Its genually true, if he dropped dead tommorow because he got health problems it would be such a relief because as much as i tried to reason with him he finds doing harm to me and my mom as normal activities. I dont have to stress about whens the next hime hes gonna come from work or if hes gonna kill my mom, break thru my door.

 

[KD6Imp33]

Watch youtube videos about living minimalistic.
And survival tips videos are good for everyone.
There are also communes that live that way, planting their own food etc.
Search for one, ask them if you can join.
Better than to live in your current shithole and you'll learn social skills etc.

And maybe stop simping for an israel-ass kissing faggot.
If you are one, you can sell you're ass on the streets to some gay Chads, Changs and Tyrones to help you with money.

 

[Askeladd93270]

fucking brutal. its crazy how he defends his alcoholism, and he says i think im "entilted" to shit. I said i feel like im entitled to a dad who doesnt drink or beat their wife or kids and he basically said ok yeah but everyone does that.

Its like where im just so at lost I dont know when his next crash out is gonna be, I feel so fucked and never was brought up with any social skills so I cant even work or do shit. He leaves for spain again in december. I dont know how im gonna survive european winter with like 3k for 3 months.

Its just we are at such odds where i said i dont care if he dies, i actually hope he dies. Its genually true, if he dropped dead tommorow because he got health problems it would be such a relief because as much as i tried to reason with him he finds doing harm to me and my mom as normal activities. I dont have to stress about whens the next hime hes gonna come from work or if hes gonna kill my mom, break thru my door.

Yeah mine says I'm acting like a man but I'm not and that he created me so I should do whatever he says like I asked for them to be there that guy never taught me anything really he taught me 0 things and he thinks he's my dad anyway you can't move out to live with your grandparents? Or other family members?

 

[Debetro]

Just call the cops on his ass

Are in a black household? Use him and milk every cent you can and then relocate somewhere moderately expensive

Baltic household

 

[Kroker]

Baltic household

He said his dad is from Spain

 

[Debetro]

brutal. How do we get out of this. Im so high inhib its fucked in where i havent left house in months other than to do driving lessons.

I’m pushing 20 and i’m still in this situation fuck me

Same stuff here. I'm waiting till it gets better since 12.

I don't leave my house for anything. I'm too scared of going outside, I probably forgot how to talk with people. I have no job and I have no studies.

The only thing I want is to wake up in 2016 and realize all of this was just a nightmare.

 

[Debetro]

He said his dad is from Spain

Most likely baltic that bought a home there.
The southern man northern woman couples tend to move out to the southern country.

 

[unon]

my fag alcoholic dad came back, he said to my mom "hes a bully and i only have one real son anymore"

btw he said this in violent ass tone, this guy has smashed my head on the radiator before as a kid, beat th ever living shit out of me. My mom thinks its normal btw and is like "well this is just normal in households" and shit.

I wanna leave but have no job, only like 2-3k $, like 400$ coming in monthly, i just turned 18 what do i do.

Sleep inside a car

 

[kief]

i will never be financially stable im in one of the most expensive cities in the world, for 2 month of rent even for a 1 room i'd lose all my money.

However i dont wanna even live in this house where i genually fear for my life

What city u in.

 

[IraniancelV2]

It's not as bad for me, but I'm in a similar situation

 

[Gomez]

my fag alcoholic dad came back, he said to my mom "hes a bully and i only have one real son anymore"

btw he said this in violent ass tone, this guy has smashed my head on the radiator before as a kid, beat th ever living shit out of me. My mom thinks its normal btw and is like "well this is just normal in households" and shit.

I wanna leave but have no job, only like 2-3k $, like 400$ coming in monthly, i just turned 18 what do i do.

lowkey collect some evidence and after a month just move out and then sue him​

 

[Prøphet]

Parents pill is so unimaginably brutal

 

[pulsar23]

my fag alcoholic dad came back, he said to my mom "hes a bully and i only have one real son anymore"

btw he said this in violent ass tone, this guy has smashed my head on the radiator before as a kid, beat th ever living shit out of me. My mom thinks its normal btw and is like "well this is just normal in households" and shit.

I wanna leave but have no job, only like 2-3k $, like 400$ coming in monthly, i just turned 18 what do i do.

literally my dad be like fuck that stupid nigger, beat his ass

 

[sayso27]

my fag alcoholic dad came back, he said to my mom "hes a bully and i only have one real son anymore"

btw he said this in violent ass tone, this guy has smashed my head on the radiator before as a kid, beat th ever living shit out of me. My mom thinks its normal btw and is like "well this is just normal in households" and shit.

I wanna leave but have no job, only like 2-3k $, like 400$ coming in monthly, i just turned 18 what do i do.

if you can, get a part-time job and start saving as much as possible. look at properties near the area where you want to live, if you can't afford a 1 bedroom, sharehouses are shittyish but they're more affordable for young adults/students with a low income.
if you're trying to distance yourself from your parents as much as possible, you could look at houses a fair while away from their house- my friend has done this before. you can then use the excuse of "living far away" + "being busy with work/study/etc" to avoid seeing them often or having to interact with them and put up with their abuse.

when looking at housing, do NOT pay for an apartment without having seen the inside first- look up some articles online to make sure you don't fall into "apartment traps". familiarise yourself with your legal rights as a tenant.

start looking for a job in your new area. make sure it pays you at least 2/3 times your rent cost, AFTER taxes. your new employer won’t tell you your after-tax pay, they will only tell you your gross pay. you have to calculate your after-tax pay on your own- google it - there are lots of calculators out there.

once you've got an average idea of what rent prices will be like, save up at least 6 months (do more if possible) of rent in advance. don't spend this, you'll want to pay your monthly rent with your income. this is your "safety barrier" to fall back on if things go haywire, and you lose your job, for example.

factor in fuel/public transport, utlities, and grocery costs, and other expenses (spotify, netflix etc) and create a budget relative to your income. as for internet, i'm not sure what it's like where you live, but over here you can get cheap mobile plans with tons of data from smaller internet provider companies- think about what phone bill will work best for you, whether you get a router instead, etc.

since you're moving out, you might be starting from scratch when it comes to your belongings. you might need things like mops, a vaccum, towels, kitchen appliances- spoons, plates, microwave, fridge freezer etc. you might be able to find used cheap versions of the electric appliances online, however if you can, try and save up and buy good quality versions of all these things- think in the long term, you don't want your appliance to break too soon and then you have to buy a new one.

learn how to cook some meals that you'll be able to mass-meal prep on the weekends once you've moved out. freeze them in serving-size ziploc bags, you can stand them in your freezer like files and they're easy to pull out after a long day rather than having to cook a whole meal from scratch. having a set meal prep routine will also save you tons of money when it comes to groceries.

if you haven't already, make sure you have all your legal documents (birth certificate, IDs, etc) you may need for the future.

good luck dude i've been in a similar situation too, my dad was shit, you're not in this alone and you can make it out too, hopefully things get better

 

[PrettyLights]

his money is in his bank, trust me if i could take this faggots money and leave atp i would. I know how he is though he genually hates my guts even as a kid he literally said he doesnt see me as his son he would just literally get me arrested

im not dealing with a cuck here, genuine horrible person. Yeah bro 100kg fucking orc saying his 50kg son is a "bully" as he has beat the living ever shit out of me, put hands on my mom and despises me for existing. He literally crashed out and basically wants me disowned because I didnt put a rug up after showering.

Cant make this shit up.

What did your mom do to make your dad want to put hands on her ??

 

[FiendFiend]

What did your mom do to make your dad want to put hands on her ??

legit nothing no fucking joke. she just existed

 

[tunisianropemaxxer]

my fag alcoholic dad came back, he said to my mom "hes a bully and i only have one real son anymore"

btw he said this in violent ass tone, this guy has smashed my head on the radiator before as a kid, beat th ever living shit out of me. My mom thinks its normal btw and is like "well this is just normal in households" and shit.

I wanna leave but have no job, only like 2-3k $, like 400$ coming in monthly, i just turned 18 what do i do.

legit dont let him beat u up brah fight back

 

[flippasav]

I’m in the same position and my parents keep arguing like I wanna move out at 20
It stresses me out and I have 3 yrs of uni to go through

 

[Latinolooksmaxxer]

behavioural sink

 

[Petsmart]

Do u at least got a car

 

[MikeMew'sBitch]

Only feasible thing would be getting a car (preferably bigger car such as SUV or sedan) and live in it while earning money at some entry level low paying job. Car would have enough space for most of your basic shit in the trunk. In most cars you can put drivers seat in horizontal position so you can sleep in it, i tried it and its fairly comfortable but you can only sleep on your back. Most modern cars also have decent thermal and sound insulation. You would have to use public toilets or do your shit in the bushes. When you get a stable job with decent income start renting a cheap apartment.