Update, I finally asked a girl out!

[Toad]

Ok so I’ve been struggling with a paralyzing fear of rejection for a long time. One of the main reasons I got a therapist was to help me get over this fear. I’ve been trying to build up the courage to ask any girl out for a few months now and today I finally did it.

I go to college a few times a week and after a while I picked out about 4 girls from different classes to ask out as practice.

I was getting strong signals from this one girl and decided to just take the plunge and ask her out for lunch.

I was shocked when she said yeah at first but then when I asked her if Saturday was good she suddenly changed her mind and said that she just got out of a relationship.

She said that’s the only reason and I said alright no worries.

Even though she basically rejected me I’m happy that I finally faced my fear. It wasn’t bad at all and it feels way better to know for sure than to live in regret like a usually do.

Anyway, I see her in class two times a week so now she knows. I think she likes another dude in class though but thats ok, there are other girls.

 

[nathan]

happy for you bhai

 

[Bonecel01]

She rejected you nothing to celebrate, asking a girl out is easy but not failing the date or getting her attention isn't (that's advanced shit).

When a girl rejects your offer to get a date means it's over with her. I did my first cold approachs the last year and failed, also failed when asking them out.

Depending on who you are and how you look results may vary.

 

[Toad]

She rejected you nothing to celebrate, asking a girl out is easy but not failing the date or getting her attention isn't (that's advanced shit).

When a girl rejects your offer to get a date means it's over with her. I did my first cold approachs the last year and failed, also failed when asking them out.

Right but the main goal was to get over my fear. Before this I was too petrified to even ask a girl out to begin with. I expected a rejection, however I succeeded in finally overcoming my fear

Now I can try asking the other girls out and collect more data

 

[Toad]

happy for you bhai

Thank you!

 

[ChadL1te]

Nice man, ignore some of these users. They're jealous creatures who will drag you down with them

 

[Ultimate SUbhuman]

Going to new heights bhai

 

[noodlelover]

Right but the main goal was to get over my fear. Before this I was too petrified to even ask a girl out to begin with. I expected a rejection, however I succeeded in following overcoming my fear

Now I can try asking the other girls out and collect more data

You might as well ask them all out and get rejected by all of them.

After that, they'll probably awkwardly avoid you, or switch classes.

This is useful because it gives you motivation to really focus and improve (Looks-max, NT-max, money-max) whatever the reason they rejected you is.

 

[Bonecel01]

You might as well ask them all out and get rejected by all of them.

After that, they'll probably awkwardly avoid you, or switch classes.

This is useful because it gives you motivation to really focus and improve (Looks-max, NT-max, money-max) whatever the reason they rejected you is.

Yeah it's the same shit blackpill for men, he better looksmaxx and then ask more girls out so the results are better. Atleast he's confident, that's good.

 

[Toad]

Nice man, ignore some of these users. They're jealous creatures who will drag you down with them

Thanks, and yeah I know the drill. I was in a dark place mentally too a couple years ago but I did the work and improved my mental health.

I’m still blackpilled but now I maintain a positive attitude and disposition regardless and keep trying to improve my life and that means making an effort to talk to women even if they are hypergamous and picky

Plus I was a feral animal before and I’ve never been able to function on a normal level socially so I’m trying new things right now

 

[Swarthy Knight]

Mirin. I'm pushing 30 yet I have never once approached a foid yet It's online or death for me

 

[Lebron_James]

Ok so I’ve been struggling with a paralyzing fear of rejection for a long time. One of the main reasons I got a therapist was to help me get over this fear. I’ve been trying to build up the courage to ask any girl out for a few months now and today I finally did it.

I go to college a few times a week and after a while I picked out about 4 girls from different classes to ask out as practice.

I was getting strong signals from this one girl and decided to just take the plunge and ask her out for lunch.

I was shocked when she said yeah at first but then when I asked her if Saturday was good she suddenly changed her mind and said that she just got out of a relationship.

She said that’s the only reason and I said alright no worries.

Even though she basically rejected me I’m happy that I finally faced my fear. It wasn’t bad at all and it feels way better to know for sure than to live in regret like a usually do.

Anyway, I see her in class two times a week so now she knows. I think she likes another dude in class though but thats ok, there are other girls.

Keep practicing bhai

 

[Bonecel01]

Mirin. I'm pushing 30 yet I have never once approached a foid yet It's online or death for me

Clown

I did my first approach at 16 (got humilliated) atleast I learned how girls really are. I even approached girls on the street (don't do it).

 

[AOL]

Stop bragging noob

 

[Toad]

You might as well ask them all out and get rejected by all of them.

After that, they'll probably awkwardly avoid you, or switch classes.

This is useful because it gives you motivation to really focus and improve (Looks-max, NT-max, money-max) whatever the reason they rejected you is.

That’s fine they can do that, it’s not gonna kill me.

Also I’m already working on looksmaxxing, NT-maxing and Money as well.

Learning to ask girls out and go on regular dates is part of being NT as I didn’t really know how to do that

Most of the girls I dated in the past approached me

 

[SidharthTheSlayer]

Feel like you're a fakecel

 

[AOL]

Feel like you're a fakecel

He is.

 

[Toad]

Mirin. I'm pushing 30 yet I have never once approached a foid yet It's online or death for me

You can do it bro

 

[Toad]

Feel like you're a fakecel

What makes you think that?

 

[Alt Number 3]

She was letting you down easy the whole way..

 

[Toad]

She was letting you down easy the whole way..

Yeah that’s what I’m thinking, it’s cool though I was anticipating a rejection, however it wasn’t nearly as bad as I imagined

I thought it was going to be soul crushingly awkward but I actually felt relief afterwards

Living with regret sucks, a weight has been lifted

Tomorrow is a new day and there is a girl in another class I have my sights on

 

[Swarthy Knight]

Clown

I did my first approach at 16 (got humilliated) atleast I learned how girls really are. I even approached girls on the street (don't do it).

Cold approach seems so unnatural to me. Like going up to a random stranger and conversating with them seems so weird irl. Idk how niggas in youtube make it look so normal jfl

 

[Tabula Rasa]

incel trait

 

[Toad]

Cold approach seems so unnatural to me. Like going up to a random stranger and conversating with them seems so weird irl. Idk how niggas in youtube make it look so normal jfl

It is weird, I didn’t ask this girl out until I had already talked to her in class several times. The last couple of days she was initiating conversation with me a lot and acting playful/friendly etc

I wouldn’t have asked her out otherwise

I try to start a simple conversation by asking a mundane question then if she’s nice I continue to talk after which if I have sufficient data to assume she might possibly be receptive I decide to ask her out

Granted this is my first time completely following through with this method

 

[$ u b H u m a n]

It is weird, I didn’t ask this girl out until I had already talked to her in class several times. The last couple of days she was initiating conversation with me a lot and acting playful/friendly etc

I wouldn’t have asked her out otherwise

I try to start a simple conversation by asking a mundane question then if she’s nice I continue to talk after which if I have sufficient data to assume she might possibly be receptive I decide to ask her out

Granted this is my first time completely following through with this method

can you give an example of an mundane question

 

[Toad]

Double post

 

[Toad]

can you give an example of an mundane question

Hey, did you you take the math test?

What score did you get?

Have you started working on the essay?

This is enough to gauge her reaction.

If she’s polite and friendly throughout the conversation then you can probably just take it from there

In my experience a girl that really doesn’t want to talk to you will make it clear by being really rude

 

[$ u b H u m a n]

Hey, did you you take the math test?

What score did you get?

Have you started working on the essay?

This is enough to gauge her reaction.

If she’s polite and friendly throughout the conversation then you just take it from there

In my experience a girl that really doesn’t want to talk to you will make it clear by being really rude

do you ever feel bad or weird for socialising not for the purpose of saying something cause u mean it but saying it to get a reaction or test the other person?

 

[Toad]

do you ever feel bad or weird for socialising not for the purpose of saying something cause u mean it but saying it to get a reaction or test the other person?

No, I have a natural tendency to analyze any and all social interactions with the intent of finding the most effective method of achieving my end goal.

I don’t find it weird but I’m aware that it is to other people as my therapist tells me to stop analyzing everything

I have adhd, ocd, social anxiety and rejection sensitive dysphoria among other things so I move and behave strategically

It’s hard though since some normies can detect that something is off but not everyone

Also I’m getting better at it. Therapy helped a lot too. I kind of figured out how to hold normie tier conversations

 

[Toad]

do you ever feel bad or weird for socialising not for the purpose of saying something cause u mean it but saying it to get a reaction or test the other person?

As a matter of fact I actually find it fun and stimulating

 

[$ u b H u m a n]

As a matter of fact I actually find it fun and stimulating

can i put my balls on your forehead?

theyre shaved

just shaved them yesterday

theyre so soft on the outside

 

[|Daddy_Zygos|]

Ok so I’ve been struggling with a paralyzing fear of rejection for a long time. One of the main reasons I got a therapist was to help me get over this fear. I’ve been trying to build up the courage to ask any girl out for a few months now and today I finally did it.

I go to college a few times a week and after a while I picked out about 4 girls from different classes to ask out as practice.

I was getting strong signals from this one girl and decided to just take the plunge and ask her out for lunch.

I was shocked when she said yeah at first but then when I asked her if Saturday was good she suddenly changed her mind and said that she just got out of a relationship.

She said that’s the only reason and I said alright no worries.

Even though she basically rejected me I’m happy that I finally faced my fear. It wasn’t bad at all and it feels way better to know for sure than to live in regret like a usually do.

Anyway, I see her in class two times a week so now she knows. I think she likes another dude in class though but thats ok, there are other girls.

Proud of you op

I had the same experience as well

 

[Michael Myers]

I'm glad you got out of your shell and tried. On to the next one you go. Here's a hug to make you feel better.

*hug*