Users who've had girlfriends, how do you talk/text them? How do you keep them?

[zeroweakness]

I am pretty good at "getting my foot in the door" now with a pretty good success rate and can get as far as them responding to me a good amount.



How do you keep a girl though? The problem is it doesn't last and they lose interest. Im not good 1 on 1 (even with guys) bc im an autist. I can do surface level chatting and teasing etc but I can never get to know someone deeper. What do you guys talk about? how? how do you guys text/chat irl?

Do you have to talk constantly?

 

[koaluhzeo]

be less of an autist

 

[yoyoyo123123]

Idk , I had experiences where I got on with some well and the conversations came naturally , and other times where its usut awkward and I've no idea wtf to do

 

[zeroweakness]

Idk , I had experiences where I got on with some well and the conversations came naturally , and other times where its usut awkward and I've no idea wtf to do

what changed?

 

[yoyoyo123123]

what changed?

I don't even know bro, like the ones i got on with always talked first and were kinda carrying the conversation, I've no idea how i would talk to them otherwise

 

[zeroweakness]

I don't even know bro, like the ones i got on with always talked first and were kinda carrying the conversation, I've no idea how i would talk to them otherwise

so it was probably mutual attraction.

if its an uphill battle, no talking will work. got it.

But i've had girls (and guys) who like to talk to me to and then it dies down I think its my fault.

 

[crybaby]

I am pretty good at "getting my foot in the door" now with a pretty good success rate and can get as far as them responding to me a good amount.



How do you keep a girl though? The problem is it doesn't last and they lose interest. Im not good 1 on 1 (even with guys) bc im an autist. I can do surface level chatting and teasing etc but I can never get to know someone deeper. What do you guys talk about? how? how do you guys text/chat irl?

Do you have to talk constantly?

Unironically girls often get more attached the less you try, depends on the girl.

 

[yoyoyo123123]

so it was probably mutual attraction.

if its an uphill battle, no talking will work. got it.

But i've had girls (and guys) who like to talk to me to and then it dies down I think its my fault.

Nah it wouldn't really be your fault imo, yea sometimes it might be , but sometimes it can be ur job to keep it going which I don't like, I like when it jsut flows, I heard someone say anything thst comes to ur mind just say it, like say u got reminded of something random just say this reminds me of this and this or whatever

 

[looks>books]

Idk

 

[looks>books]

Unironically girls often get more attached the less you try, depends on the girl.

I found there is a sweet spot. If you dont try at all they will lose interest and if you try too much they will as well.

 

[tatu1]

be less of an autist

xdddd

 

[crybaby]

I found there is a sweet spot. If you dont try at all they will lose interest and if you try too much they will as well.

Yeah, but honestly to some girls i only talked about sex and they became obsessed.

My best tip is to be honest. If you only want a friendship with benefits, say that from the beginning. That way you are setting the frame for the whole relationship. If she wants more, just tell her you don’t want to, she can’t be mad because you were always honest and transparent.

 

[looks>books]

Yeah, but honestly to some girls i only talked about sex and they became obsessed.

My best tip is to be honest. If you only want a friendship with benefits, say that from the beginning. That way you are setting the frame for the whole relationship. If she wants more, just tell her you don’t want to, she can’t be mad because you were always honest and transparent.

I think op is talking about ltr

 

[nel9d]

I am pretty good at "getting my foot in the door" now with a pretty good success rate and can get as far as them responding to me a good amount.



How do you keep a girl though? The problem is it doesn't last and they lose interest. Im not good 1 on 1 (even with guys) bc im an autist. I can do surface level chatting and teasing etc but I can never get to know someone deeper. What do you guys talk about? how? how do you guys text/chat irl?

Do you have to talk constantly?

Innerlight maxx

 

[InanimatePragmatist]

You just do. If they are into you, there is no struggle.

 

[slothful]

always let her talk more, everyone loves to talk and have someone listen to them so make sure you also provide small inputs when you can

this doesn't mean don't talk at all, you have to let her get to know you and see you are someone she wants so a little lying wouldnt hurt

all this could or could not matter though, depends on who the girl is but for the most part these will fit anyone.

lastly, don't be yourself at first. always be 60-40, 60% yourself and 40% the person who you think she wants you to be

good luck man

 

[zeroweakness]

You just do. If they are into you, there is no struggle.

Not really girls were into me first sometimes and lost interest.

 

[soggra]

Not really girls were into me first sometimes and lost interest.

Then they were never into you in the first place but simply just wanted your attention.

 

[zeroweakness]

Then they were never into you in the first place but simply just wanted your attention.

Not really. They kept asking to go out and stuff.
it just died down the longer they got to know me

 

[soggra]

Not really. They kept asking to go out and stuff.
it just died down the longer they got to know me

I wish I was as delusional as you, if they genuinely liked you in the first then they would never lose interest

 

[zeroweakness]

I wish I was as delusional as you, if they genuinely liked you in the first then they would never lose interest

ok dont belive me then jfl.

if you stepped in the real world you'd realize personality matters and (unless you are cl+) looks alone won't carry you to the finish line.

 

[zeroweakness]

bump

 

[zeroweakness]

bump

 

[isis_Bleach]

I am pretty good at "getting my foot in the door" now with a pretty good success rate and can get as far as them responding to me a good amount.



How do you keep a girl though? The problem is it doesn't last and they lose interest. Im not good 1 on 1 (even with guys) bc im an autist. I can do surface level chatting and teasing etc but I can never get to know someone deeper. What do you guys talk about? how? how do you guys text/chat irl?

Do you have to talk constantly?

i treat her like shit and text other women while we’re on dates. i tell her shes inferior to me and that my exes fog her. i soecitically tell her she has small boobs which is unfixable so no matter what ill never love her. i tried being nice ti women in the past and got dumped fast af, but this method has worked great.