Sandriguez
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Before I start, I completely understand the privilege that comes with being a white person. I’ve seen it in comparison to my friends of colour, I’ve experienced it, I acknowledge how lucky I am for being able to have it. I went to an extremely liberal university, it was in arguably the most multicultural city in Canada. When I say white people were few and far between I mean it. This I have 0 problem with, I actually enjoyed it and over the course of getting my degree learned A LOTBefore I start, I completely understand the privilege that comes with being a white person. I’ve seen it in comparison to my friends of colour, I’ve experienced it, I acknowledge how lucky I am for being able to have it. I went to an extremely liberal university, it was in arguably the most multicultural city in Canada. When I say white people were few and far between I mean it. This I have 0 problem with, I actually enjoyed it and over the course of getting my degree learned A LOT about myself and my privilege. During my second year, however, it was literally all I wrote about. My program was in the helping profession so it was really important we
Before I start, I completely understand the privilege that comes with being a white person. I’ve seen it in comparison to my friends of colour, I’ve experienced it, I acknowledge how lucky I am for being able to have it.
I went to an extremely liberal university, it was in arguably the most multicultural city in Canada. When I say white people were few and far between I mean it. This I have 0 problem with, I actually enjoyed it and over the course of getting my degree learned A LOT about myself and my privilege. During my second year, however, it was literally all I wrote about. My program was in the helping profession so it was really important we know and understand ourselves before we work with others. My second year was basically all self reflections. All of my papers started with “Hi, I am _____, I am a cisgendered, able-bodied, white, straight woman”. After writing it about 100 times it just got to be a bit much but even that I didn’t really care about. It wasn’t until I was in a class and all of the white people were told not to participate in discussions because it is important to create spaces for the people of colours voices who are constantly silenced. I understood the sentiment but it just felt off, I chalked it up to my white fragility and that I should be asking myself why I’m bothered if I’ve always had the privilege of a voice. Honestly, I didn’t even like speaking in class anyways lol. Then my friend was in another class and the same thing happened. Except when participation marks came out he got a 4/10 for participation. He was literally told not to talk because white men are always taking up space, but then got a 40% for participation. This pissed me off. While I understand white peoples voices have always been heard over the voices of people of colour, I just can’t understand how you can just flat out look at someone and tell them not to speak. I am of the belief discourse is important. While I want to listen to the voices of colour, their experiences and perspectives a lot of white people don’t. And by silencing them all that’s going to happen is their white fragility is going to take over and everything the person of colour is saying is going to go in one ear and out the other. Silence is not an effective tool for change.
I have also seen this a lot on the internet. At the beginning of BLM white people used their privilege as shields for black protestors, which was so important and truly an amazing thing to watch. At the same time, there were a lot of discussions happening about performance activism on social media. White people who had never thought or cared about the rights of black people came out of the wood work to post a black square in their instagram page. I could understand why for black people this was frustrating. It felt like their human rights were almost a trend for white peoples to participate in. But at the same time, white people who’d never thought about black lives were finally thinking about them for the first time in their life. Trend or not, that is a positive thing for change.
Currently on social media, specifically TikTok I keep seeing a trend of white people asking black creators questions about their blackness. Often times these questions have no malice intent behind them and they are genuinely trying to learn. Most of the time the creator doesn’t even have an issue and will answer their question. But regardless of whether or not the creator is willing to answer, people will flood the white persons comment question with replies that say “google is free”, “black people don’t owe you anything”, “stop expecting black peoples to educate you” or “why are you even here”. While I can empathize with where their frustration comes from, I also think it’s a bit ridiculous to reply to someone who genuinely wants to become a better more educated white person, with anger and frustration. Again, all that is going to do is put the white persons back up and further their ignorance. It doesn’t help create change at all. I was told I wasn’t allowed to have an opinion about the Will Smith Oscar slap because it’s a black issue. It was quite literally the most talked about event in television. And honestly the craziest part is a lot of the times it’s not even black people or other people of colour telling white people to stop talking or not to have opinions, it’s other white people
I am just tired of living in a world where I am always worrying about whether or not i’m going to offend someone. And you can say “well why would you be worried about offending someone if you’re not racist” but it’s seriously not that simple. One of my classmates used the analogy “not everything is so black and white” (referring to the colours not race) during a class discussion about ableism (literally nothing to do with race) and a girl stood up and called her a racist in the middle of one of my classes. It was fucked. Sometimes it just feels like we went so far left we’re coming back around to the right. Like we are literally going backwards in time. know and understand ourselves before we work with others. My second year was basically all self reflections. All of my papers started with “Hi, I am _____, I am a cisgendered, able-bodied, white, straight woman”. After writing it about 100 times it just got to be a bit much but even that I didn’t really care about. It wasn’t until I was in a class and all of the white people were told not to participate in discussions because it is important to create spaces for the people of colours voices who are constantly silenced. I understood the sentiment but it just felt off, I chalked it up to my white fragility and that I should be asking myself why I’m bothered if I’ve always had the privilege of a voice. Honestly, I didn’t even like speaking in class anyways lol. Then my friend was in another class and the same thing happened. Except when participation marks came out he got a 4/10 for participation. He was literally told not to talk because white men are always taking up space, but then got a 40% for participation. This pissed me off. While I understand white peoples voices have always been heard over the voices of people of colour, I just can’t understand how you can just flat out look at someone and tell them not to speak. I am of the belief discourse is important. While I want to listen to the voices of colour, their experiences and perspectives a lot of white people don’t. And by silencing them all that’s going to happen is their white fragility is going to take over and everything the person of colour is saying is going to go in one ear and out the other. Silence is not an effective tool for change.
I have also seen this a lot on the internet. At the beginning of BLM white people used their privilege as shields for black protestors, which was so important and truly an amazing thing to watch. At the same time, there were a lot of discussions happening about performance activism on social media. White people who had never thought or cared about the rights of black people came out of the wood work to post a black square in their instagram page. I could understand why for black people this was frustrating. It felt like their human rights were almost a trend for white peoples to participate in. But at the same time, white people who’d never thought about black lives were finally thinking about them for the first time in their life. Trend or not, that is a positive thing for change. Currently on social media, specifically TikTok I keep seeing a trend of white people asking black creators questions about their blackness. Often times these questions have no malice intent behind them and they are genuinely trying to learn. Most of the time the creator doesn’t even have an issue and will answer their question. But regardless of whether or not the creator is willing to answer, people will flood the white persons comment question with replies that say “google is free”, “black people don’t owe you anything”, “stop expecting black peoples to educate you” or “why are you even here”. While I can empathize with where their frustration comes from, I also think it’s a bit ridiculous to reply to someone who genuinely wants to become a better more educated white person, with anger and frustration. Again, all that is going to do is put the white persons back up and further their ignorance. It doesn’t help create change at all. I was told I wasn’t allowed to have an opinion about the Will Smith Oscar slap because it’s a black issue. It was quite literally the most talked about event in television. And honestly the craziest part is a lot of the times it’s not even black people or other people of colour telling white people to stop talking or not to have opinions, it’s other white people! I am just tired of living in a world where I am always worrying about whether or not i’m going to offend someone. And you can say “well why would you be worried about offending soBefore I start, I completely understand the privilege that comes with being a white person. I’ve seen it in comparison to my friends of colour, I’ve experienced it, I acknowledge how lucky I am for being able to have it.
I went to an extremely liberal university, it was in arguably the most multicultural city in Canada. When I say white people were few and far between I mean it. This I have 0 problem with, I actually enjoyed it and over the course of getting my degree learned A LOT about myself and my privilege. During my second year, however, it was literally all I wrote about. My program was in the helping profession so it was really important we know and understand ourselves before we work with others. My second year was basically all self reflections. All of my papers started with “Hi, I am _____, I am a cisgendered, able-bodied, white, straight woman”. After writing it about 100 times it just got to be a bit much but even that I didn’t really care about. It wasn’t until I was in a class and all of the white people were told not to participate in discussions because it is important to create spaces for the people of colours voices who are constantly silenced. I understood the sentiment but it just felt off, I chalked it up to my white fragility and that I should be asking myself why I’m bothered if I’ve always had the privilege of a voice. Honestly, I didn’t even like speaking in class anyways lol. Then my friend was in another class and the same thing happened. Except when participation marks came out he got a 4/10 for participation. He was literally told not to talk because white men are always taking up space, but then got a 40% for participation. This pissed me off. While I understand white peoples voices have always been heard over the voices of people of colour, I just can’t understand how you can just flat out look at someone and tell them not to speak. I am of the belief discourse is important. While I want to listen to the voices of colour, their experiences and perspectives a lot of white people don’t. And by silencing them all that’s going to happen is their white fragility is going to take over and everything the person of colour is saying is going to go in one ear and out the other. Silence is not an effective tool for change.
Before I start, I completely understand the privilege that comes with being a white person. I’ve seen it in comparison to my friends of colour, I’ve experienced it, I acknowledge how lucky I am for being able to have it.
I went to an extremely liberal university, it was in arguably the most multicultural city in Canada. When I say white people were few and far between I mean it. This I have 0 problem with, I actually enjoyed it and over the course of getting my degree learned A LOT about myself and my privilege. During my second year, however, it was literally all I wrote about. My program was in the helping profession so it was really important we know and understand ourselves before we work with others. My second year was basically all self reflections. All of my papers started with “Hi, I am _____, I am a cisgendered, able-bodied, white, straight woman”. After writing it about 100 times it just got to be a bit much but even that I didn’t really care about. It wasn’t until I was in a class and all of the white people were told not to participate in discussions because it is important to create spaces for the people of colours voices who are constantly silenced. I understood the sentiment but it just felt off, I chalked it up to my white fragility and that I should be asking myself why I’m bothered if I’ve always had the privilege of a voice. Honestly, I didn’t even like speaking in class anyways lol. Then my friend was in another class and the same thing happened. Except when participation marks came out he got a 4/10 for participation. He was literally told not to talk because white men are always taking up space, but then got a 40% for participation. This pissed me off. While I understand white peoples voices have always been heard over the voices of people of colour, I just can’t understand how you can just flat out look at someone and tell them not to speak. I am of the belief discourse is important. While I want to listen to the voices of colour, their experiences and perspectives a lot of white people don’t. And by silencing them all that’s going to happen is their white fragility is going to take over and everything the person of colour is saying is going to go in one ear and out the other. Silence is not an effective tool for change.
I have also seen this a lot on the internet. At the beginning of BLM white people used their privilege as shields for black protestors, which was so important and truly an amazing thing to watch. At the same time, there were a lot of discussions happening about performance activism on social media. White people who had never thought or cared about the rights of black people came out of the wood work to post a black square in their instagram page. I could understand why for black people this was frustrating. It felt like their human rights were almost a trend for white peoples to participate in. But at the same time, white people who’d never thought about black lives were finally thinking about them for the first time in their life. Trend or not, that is a positive thing for change.
Currently on social media, specifically TikTok I keep seeing a trend of white people asking black creators questions about their blackness. Often times these questions have no malice intent behind them and they are genuinely trying to learn. Most of the time the creator doesn’t even have an issue and will answer their question. But regardless of whether or not the creator is willing to answer, people will flood the white persons comment question with replies that say “google is free”, “black people don’t owe you anything”, “stop expecting black peoples to educate you” or “why are you even here”. While I can empathize with where their frustration comes from, I also think it’s a bit ridiculous to reply to someone who genuinely wants to become a better more educated white person, with anger and frustration. Again, all that is going to do is put the white persons back up and further their ignorance. It doesn’t help create change at all. I was told I wasn’t allowed to have an opinion about the Will Smith Oscar slap because it’s a black issue. It was quite literally the most talked about event in television. And honestly the craziest part is a lot of the times it’s not even black people or other people of colour telling white people to stop talking or not to have opinions, it’s other white people
I am just tired of living in a world where I am always worrying about whether or not i’m going to offend someone. And you can say “well why would you be worried about offending someone if you’re not racist” but it’s seriously not that simple. One of my classmates used the analogy “not everything is so black and white” (referring to the colours not race) during a class discussion about ableism (literally nothing to do with race) and a girl stood up and called her a racist in the middle of one of my classes. It was fucked. Sometimes it just feels like we went so far left we’re coming back around to the right. Like we are literally going backwards in time. know and understand ourselves before we work with others. My second year was basically all self reflections. All of my papers started with “Hi, I am _____, I am a cisgendered, able-bodied, white, straight woman”. After writing it about 100 times it just got to be a bit much but even that I didn’t really care about. It wasn’t until I was in a class and all of the white people were told not to participate in discussions because it is important to create spaces for the people of colours voices who are constantly silenced. I understood the sentiment but it just felt off, I chalked it up to my white fragility and that I should be asking myself why I’m bothered if I’ve always had the privilege of a voice. Honestly, I didn’t even like speaking in class anyways lol. Then my friend was in another class and the same thing happened. Except when participation marks came out he got a 4/10 for participation. He was literally told not to talk because white men are always taking up space, but then got a 40% for participation. This pissed me off. While I understand white peoples voices have always been heard over the voices of people of colour, I just can’t understand how you can just flat out look at someone and tell them not to speak. I am of the belief discourse is important. While I want to listen to the voices of colour, their experiences and perspectives a lot of white people don’t. And by silencing them all that’s going to happen is their white fragility is going to take over and everything the person of colour is saying is going to go in one ear and out the other. Silence is not an effective tool for change.
I have also seen this a lot on the internet. At the beginning of BLM white people used their privilege as shields for black protestors, which was so important and truly an amazing thing to watch. At the same time, there were a lot of discussions happening about performance activism on social media. White people who had never thought or cared about the rights of black people came out of the wood work to post a black square in their instagram page. I could understand why for black people this was frustrating. It felt like their human rights were almost a trend for white peoples to participate in. But at the same time, white people who’d never thought about black lives were finally thinking about them for the first time in their life. Trend or not, that is a positive thing for change. Currently on social media, specifically TikTok I keep seeing a trend of white people asking black creators questions about their blackness. Often times these questions have no malice intent behind them and they are genuinely trying to learn. Most of the time the creator doesn’t even have an issue and will answer their question. But regardless of whether or not the creator is willing to answer, people will flood the white persons comment question with replies that say “google is free”, “black people don’t owe you anything”, “stop expecting black peoples to educate you” or “why are you even here”. While I can empathize with where their frustration comes from, I also think it’s a bit ridiculous to reply to someone who genuinely wants to become a better more educated white person, with anger and frustration. Again, all that is going to do is put the white persons back up and further their ignorance. It doesn’t help create change at all. I was told I wasn’t allowed to have an opinion about the Will Smith Oscar slap because it’s a black issue. It was quite literally the most talked about event in television. And honestly the craziest part is a lot of the times it’s not even black people or other people of colour telling white people to stop talking or not to have opinions, it’s other white people! I am just tired of living in a world where I am always worrying about whether or not i’m going to offend someone. And you can say “well why would you be worried about offending soBefore I start, I completely understand the privilege that comes with being a white person. I’ve seen it in comparison to my friends of colour, I’ve experienced it, I acknowledge how lucky I am for being able to have it.
I went to an extremely liberal university, it was in arguably the most multicultural city in Canada. When I say white people were few and far between I mean it. This I have 0 problem with, I actually enjoyed it and over the course of getting my degree learned A LOT about myself and my privilege. During my second year, however, it was literally all I wrote about. My program was in the helping profession so it was really important we know and understand ourselves before we work with others. My second year was basically all self reflections. All of my papers started with “Hi, I am _____, I am a cisgendered, able-bodied, white, straight woman”. After writing it about 100 times it just got to be a bit much but even that I didn’t really care about. It wasn’t until I was in a class and all of the white people were told not to participate in discussions because it is important to create spaces for the people of colours voices who are constantly silenced. I understood the sentiment but it just felt off, I chalked it up to my white fragility and that I should be asking myself why I’m bothered if I’ve always had the privilege of a voice. Honestly, I didn’t even like speaking in class anyways lol. Then my friend was in another class and the same thing happened. Except when participation marks came out he got a 4/10 for participation. He was literally told not to talk because white men are always taking up space, but then got a 40% for participation. This pissed me off. While I understand white peoples voices have always been heard over the voices of people of colour, I just can’t understand how you can just flat out look at someone and tell them not to speak. I am of the belief discourse is important. While I want to listen to the voices of colour, their experiences and perspectives a lot of white people don’t. And by silencing them all that’s going to happen is their white fragility is going to take over and everything the person of colour is saying is going to go in one ear and out the other. Silence is not an effective tool for change.
