watching your peers pass you by is tragic

[turkproducer]

another year, another instance of watching those born to better circumstances, more well adjusted, happier, better looking, etc etc pass you by in life.

summer = tragic when you have no motion. seeing everyone go on holidays, have fun, date etc is depressing when you’re just a broke side character. Then your position just keeps getting lower and lower.

Makes you wish for the lost time to come back, but still too weak mentally to make advantage of the available time. been like this for years

 

[vermillioncorefan]

i get mad at people with summer jobs. like, summertime came and by the end of the week they have a job it just can’t be

 

[turkproducer]

i get mad at people with summer jobs. like, summertime came and by the end of the week they have a job it just can’t be

It’s partially because of our own inaction but wanting to do other things doesn’t magically remove your formative experiences

 

[MaghrebGator]

Man do you remember me? Go to PMs

 

[Entschuldigung]

 

[Saisei]

people born into rich families

 

[vermillioncorefan]

It’s partially because of our own inaction but wanting to do other things doesn’t magically remove your formative experiences

nah it wasn’t my inaction i’m just biased againsti tried way harder than most ppl

 

[turkproducer]

people born into rich families

They live worlds apart from a kid with unsuitable parents and whom are poor

 

[turkproducer]

brb gonna go get intoxicated

 

[nastynas]

just turned 25 yesterday and have no idea how time passed i legit feel 16 still

 

[alurmo]

 

[turkproducer]

just turned 25 yesterday and have no idea how time passed i legit feel 16 still

kardes I missed u

 

[nastynas]

kardes I missed u

me too bro been a while ngl

 

[FaceandBBC]

just turned 25 yesterday and have no idea how time passed i legit feel 16 still

2020 literally felt like yesterday. Covid fucked me over hard and robbed me of life milestones.

 

[looksmaxxed]

it's more tragic when you realize they passed by you into an adulthood of cope. most men lead lives of quiet desperation. unless they're some kind of millionaire genius inventor who will lead a fulfilling and exciting life and go down in history for a thousand years, it's hard to envy most people. most people just get old, retire, and die. they didn't really pass by me, they just veered off into a different path

 

[Saisei]

They live worlds apart from a kid with unsuitable parents and whom are poor

rich get richer and middle class is shrinking only way to escape is to be born into a rich family its so annoying bc i was and my dad lost millions to a gambling addiction now he lives with his 80 year old parents FML

 

[looksmaxxed]

rich get richer and middle class is shrinking only way to escape is to be born into a rich family its so annoying bc i was and my dad lost millions to a gambling addiction now he lives with his 80 year old parents FML

what a retarded fuck

 

[Saisei]

what a retarded fuck

yeah its so sad man i dont talk to him hes dead to me havent seen him in over a year man hes evil and has done worse

 

[Darkeningstar]

another year, another instance of watching those born to better circumstances, more well adjusted, happier, better looking, etc etc pass you by in life.

summer = tragic when you have no motion. seeing everyone go on holidays, have fun, date etc is depressing when you’re just a broke side character. Then your position just keeps getting lower and lower.

Makes you wish for the lost time to come back, but still too weak mentally to make advantage of the available time. been like this for years

just turned 25 yesterday and have no idea how time passed i legit feel 16 still

Yeah

 

[Nick.Harte]

I feel like I was born to watch others win.

 

[turkproducer]

it's more tragic when you realize they passed by you into an adulthood of cope. most men lead lives of quiet desperation. unless they're some kind of millionaire genius inventor who will lead a fulfilling and exciting life and go down in history for a thousand years, it's hard to envy most people. most people just get old, retire, and die. they didn't really pass by me, they just veered off into a different path

for me I feel life mogged just looking at peers who had it easier or had some minor success. People like famous athletes and inventors, I don’t even register because I already know their lives are completely different

 

[turkproducer]

I feel like I was born to watch others win.

same even after accomplishing anything I’m not satisfied or happy

Think our brains refuse to let us be content

 

[Danish_Retard]

for me I feel life mogged just looking at peers who had it easier or had some minor success. People like famous athletes and inventors, I don’t even register because I already know their lives are completely different

It's really crazy isn't it.

The ones that there born just a little better in everything. It compounds so quickly.

They get bigger social circles, better jobs, better educations, venture into dating slightly earlier.

Everything is just a big better, and it all grows exponentially for them.

 

[turkproducer]

It's really crazy isn't it.

The ones that there born just a little better in everything. It compounds so quickly.

They get bigger social circles, better jobs, better educations, venture into dating slightly earlier.

Everything is just a big better, and it all grows exponentially for them.

yeah this was the comment I was looking for

Whilst I’m still dealing with my shit formative experiences others never had to look past those (at least even near to the same extent). They’re too busy having fun, succeeding, and looking at life how you naturally should.

People are naturally social, have some self esteem, competent in something. maybe those who are fortunate have further benefits, either given by whatever power is above or their circumstances allowed for it have much more. but shitty experiences take the love of life out of you and it’s extremely difficult to get it back

I’d say it’s even impossible. Your brain chemistry and structure is forever altered depending on what happened to you

 

[Danish_Retard]

yeah this was the comment I was looking for

Whilst I’m still dealing with my shit formative experiences others never had to look past those (at least even near to the same extent). They’re too busy having fun, succeeding, and looking at life how you naturally should.

People are naturally social, have some self esteem, competent in something. maybe those who are fortunate have further benefits, either given by whatever power is above or their circumstances allowed for it have much more. but shitty experiences take the love of life out of you and it’s extremely difficult to get it back

I’d say it’s even impossible. Your brain chemistry and structure is forever altered depending on what happened to you

Ahh man so brutal to find someone else that gets it. Wish we could go for some beers and discuss this at length.

I hate seeing my friends, other peers so effortlessly succeed in things where I had to spent years and countless effort just to get to baseline. We claw back at life, work so hard, just to get to what this majority of people there simply born with, no effort required.

I spent years with a psychologist, did endless reading on social skills, geomaxxed just to get these skills that are common, and now that I've acquired just a bit of them only to realise just how much I still have left to learn, just how many experiences these 'others', 'normies' have lived through, how all these relationships just form naturally.

It's fucking infuriating bro, I can't lie. Yeah it's sad, our reality, but it makes me fucking rage, WHY US? Why do all of these people get these things, even the poorest slum dog I interacted with in Thailand all have friends and family. And then our actual peers are succeeding in jobs or education too.


I do think it's possible to alter the brain chemistry, neuroplasticity never ceases and can be greatly boosted with drugs, statistically certain forms of psychological therapy have also proven to be very effective, (F.x: intensive short term dynamic psychotherapy (istdp))

And I'll say I've changed my life a bit, I'm still a drop-out loser that has never had a gf and small social circle of other losers, but I don't feel like an alien among normies anymore, I can go on dates with a normie girl and not put her on a pedastal. I've overcome my anxiety oh so slowly, from not being able to walk past a busstop if it had people to effortlessly approaching in clubs and escalating on dates. Talking with strangers without a problem.

There is some hope, but say this hope is true, we're still years behind, we just reached the start line hahahaha, they started running long ago.

 

[turkproducer]

Ahh man so brutal to find someone else that gets it. Wish we could go for some beers and discuss this at length.

I hate seeing my friends, other peers so effortlessly succeed in things where I had to spent years and countless effort just to get to baseline. We claw back at life, work so hard, just to get to what this majority of people there simply born with, no effort required.

I spent years with a psychologist, did endless reading on social skills, geomaxxed just to get these skills that are common, and now that I've acquired just a bit of them only to realise just how much I still have left to learn, just how many experiences these 'others', 'normies' have lived through, how all these relationships just form naturally.

It's fucking infuriating bro, I can't lie. Yeah it's sad, our reality, but it makes me fucking rage, WHY US? Why do all of these people get these things, even the poorest slum dog I interacted with in Thailand all have friends and family. And then our actual peers are succeeding in jobs or education too.


I do think it's possible to alter the brain chemistry, neuroplasticity never ceases and can be greatly boosted with drugs, statistically certain forms of psychological therapy have also proven to be very effective, (F.x: intensive short term dynamic psychotherapy (istdp))

And I'll say I've changed my life a bit, I'm still a drop-out loser that has never had a gf and small social circle of other losers, but I don't feel like an alien among normies anymore, I can go on dates with a normie girl and not put her on a pedastal. I've overcome my anxiety oh so slowly, from not being able to walk past a busstop if it had people to effortlessly approaching in clubs and escalating on dates. Talking with strangers without a problem.

There is some hope, but say this hope is true, we're still years behind, we just reached the start line hahahaha, they started running long ago.

it’s always a struggle to get someone to understand

For sure, even just simple things like dating and being socialised I had to act out of character or make huge adjustments to have any success. This isn’t to say I haven’t done anything positive, but in most instances you have to go against your brain’s conditioning in almost every way to do the “right thing” it makes you envy those who were born to money, properly socialised and not subject to trauma, which in turn leads to greater confidence to tackle studies, dating, entrepreneurship, literally everything. Everything is better that way

In a way I can decently wageslave but i just know it’ll destroy me. I’ve seen how trustfund kids live, their lives are all paid for and they can go pursue whatever they like. I have to do what’s practical, foregoing happiness and what I like to do just because of chance and luck. They can go use that positive energy to win at other areas of life too.

Therapy is a mixed bag for dudes. but the injustice is something that haunts me everyday all day. my parents failed me

It’s possible to make good changes but after a certain age, parts of your brain are either pretty much not alterable or not that significantly alterable. This is even considering that you have the practical means and the strength and intelligence to fix your own situation

Whenever i feel good about positive things I’ve done I just think back to how it came to others naturally or was given to them out of pure luck. Like yeah you buy a car but someone else at 17 just had a brand new Merc given to them. You had to work in shitty fast food jobs or something of the like to get a worse version.

 

[Danish_Retard]

it’s always a struggle to get someone to understand

For sure, even just simple things like dating and being socialised I had to act out of character or make huge adjustments to have any success. This isn’t to say I haven’t done anything positive, but in most instances you have to go against your brain’s conditioning in almost every way to do the “right thing” it makes you envy those who were born to money, properly socialised and not subject to trauma, which in turn leads to greater confidence to tackle studies, dating, entrepreneurship, literally everything. Everything is better that way

In a sense I’m in a decent position to wageslave and moneymax but i just know it’ll destroy me. I’ve seen how trustfund kids live, their lives are all paid for and they can go pursue whatever they like. I have to do what’s practical, foregoing happiness and what I like to do just because of chance and luck. They can go use that positive energy to win at other areas of life too.

Therapy is a mixed bag for dudes. but the injustice is something that haunts me everyday all day. my parents failed me

It’s possible to make good changes but after a certain age, parts of your brain are either pretty much not alterable or not that siBut gnificantly alterable. This is even considering that you have the practical means and the strength and intelligence to fix your own situation

Whenever i feel good about positive things I’ve done I just think back to how it came to others naturally or was given to them out of pure luck. Like yeah you buy a car but someone else at 17 just had a brand new Merc given to them. You had to work in shitty fast food jobs or something of the like to get a worse version.

I think the biggest change for positivity for me was stopping to care about doing the "right thing", unironically just being myself to a degree, makes everything easier, and if you wouldn't have had any connection with the people you're faking for anyway why care? You lost nothing from their rejection. And the girls don't care as long as you're good looking and escalating.

But you're right in that it's literally everything, they don't have to worry about anything socially, no baggage, no catching up, just moving forward.

But why accept your fate? You there given a bad hand, so you'll just throw it? Give up immedieately because someone has it better? Would you be happy if no one had it better than you? Is comparison the only thing that gives you happiness, hope, willingness to try?

But that's also another blackpill as you say, if you even have the means and intelligence to overcome trauma.

Whenever i feel good about positive things I’ve done I just think back to how it came to others naturally or was given to them out of pure luck. Like yeah you buy a car but someone else at 17 just had a brand new Merc given to them. You had to work in shitty fast food jobs or something of the like to get a worse version.

But look at this shit, it's fucking weird bro, those trustfund kids could look at the billionaire kids and dispair, they'll never have their own private jet, never buy 10 supermodel prostitutes at once.

We are not at the station we feel we deserve to be. The only conclusion is to work towards it or be content with what you have. I want fucking in, I'm FUCKING TIRED of watching from the sidelines, I've catched up to the start line, I'll sprint till I can't anymore to the make to the back of the pack.

As a sidenote, can you really even compare yourself to the 1/100.000 globally? Why not the other 99.999/100.000

 

[fukmylyf]

from the beginning to the end, losers lose, winners win

 

[Danish_Smartass]

Legit post but op is a whining chad

 

[Baban]

another year, another instance of watching those born to better circumstances, more well adjusted, happier, better looking, etc etc pass you by in life.

summer = tragic when you have no motion. seeing everyone go on holidays, have fun, date etc is depressing when you’re just a broke side character. Then your position just keeps getting lower and lower.

Makes you wish for the lost time to come back, but still too weak mentally to make advantage of the available time. been like this for years

you don't have anything to look forward to in the future, that's your problem. find the solution yourself

 

[oatmeal]

as much as i relate i also have seen simultaneously a lot of people's lives go to shit, and how strange shit really is to me. idk, its weird.