What is this forum’s position on marriage?

[bicepsandscalpels]

I think it depends. If you’re a Chad who can get a woman who’s devoted and obsessed with you, and considers you the best she could ever get, then marriage probably isn’t a terrible idea if you want a family and/or are religious.

If you’re average or below average, and you feel like your wife is settling for you, then it’s probably a bad idea, especially if you are a high-earner and she’s not.

On the other hand, you could argue that a Chad would have more fun just pumping-and-dumping for the rest of his life, and an average guy with financial means would have more fun passport-broing or escortmaxing for the rest of his life.

The thought of being with one woman forever sounds genuinely shit to me, if I’m honest.

 

[Сигма Бой]

1 Corinthians 7:9 King James Version

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.​

 

[Pento]

Only if you're 100% sure you'll be with her, she truly loves you, etc sign the paper.
If you care about money, I'd begin hiding it (if you can) to be sure she doesnt take half of it.

 

[Mike456]

I think it depends. If you’re a Chad who can get a woman who’s devoted and obsessed with you, and considers you the best she could ever get, then marriage probably isn’t a terrible idea if you want a family and/or are religious.

If you’re average or below average, and you feel like your wife is settling for you, then it’s probably a bad idea, especially if you are a high-earner and she’s not.

On the other hand, you could argue that a Chad would have more fun just pumping-and-dumping for the rest of his life, and an average guy with financial means would have more fun passport-broing or escortmaxing for the rest of his life.

The thought of being with one woman forever sounds genuinely shit to me, if I’m honest.

Just make a prenup no matter the women. Also girls will cheat no matter if you are chad.
A good example is Lamine Yamal(he aint no chad but Yea) he is young, athleti, famous, rich and popular and still got cheated on

 

[bicepsandscalpels]

Only if you're 100% sure you'll be with her, she truly loves you, etc sign the paper.
If you care about money, I'd begin hiding it (if you can) to be sure she doesnt take half of it.

The thing is, though, I bet 90% of the men who end up getting divorced thought they were deeply in love, that “she was the one”, and “we’ll never get divorced” on their wedding day. And it still ends up happening. I just don’t think most humans are really hardwired for longterm monogamy; we’re hardwired for monogamy for the duration of the time it takes to have kids and raise them for a little while, but after about 10 years, most people have had enough. Cohabitating with your spouse and seeing all their weird/gross habits probably kills romance and sexual attraction, too. To a lesser extent if you’re both physically attractive, but it’s still inevitable to some degree. How many men over 45 are still genuinely physically attracted to their wife?

 

[Scarface756]

Good if she's a truly good women.

Bad if she's a reformed thot or modern feminist.

 

[bicepsandscalpels]

Just make a prenup no matter the women. Also girls will cheat no matter if you are chad.
A good example is Lamine Yamal(he aint no chad but Yea) he is young, athleti, famous, rich and popular and still got cheated on

The problem is that prenups only protect assets going *into* the marriage. So if you had $1,000,000 going into the marriage, you could sign a prenup that says, “this is mine, I’m keeping it in the event of a divorce”, but if you accrue wealth during the marriage (e.g. investments, interest on investments, appreciation of your house), then all of that gets split in a divorce, even if you’re wife didn’t even work. Plus you can end up paying her alimony and child support. I agree with the concept of child support, but imagine having to pay alimony to a woman who cheated on you.

 

[Mike456]

The problem is that prenups only protect assets going *into* the marriage. So if you had $1,000,000 going into the marriage, you could sign a prenup that says, “this is mine, I’m keeping it in the event of a divorce”, but if you accrue wealth during the marriage (e.g. investments, interest on investments, appreciation of your house), then all of that gets split in a divorce, even if you’re wife didn’t even work. Plus you can end up paying her alimony and child support. I agree with the concept of child support, but imagine having to pay alimony to a woman who cheated on you.

But if you sign your investments on your mother name wouldn't it work. I heard about this and it worked

 

[Pento]

The thing is, though, I bet 90% of the men who end up getting divorced thought they were deeply in love, that “she was the one”, and “we’ll never get divorced” on their wedding day. And it still ends up happening. I just don’t think most humans are really hardwired for longterm monogamy; we’re hardwired for monogamy for the duration of the time it takes to have kids and raise them for a little while, but after about 10 years, most people have had enough. Cohabitating with your spouse and seeing all their weird/gross habits probably kills romance and sexual attraction, too. To a lesser extent if you’re both physically attractive, but it’s still inevitable to some degree. How many men over 45 are still genuinely physically attracted to their wife?

They thought that, but they likely ignored many red flags and proceeded because they were blinded by love.
I guarantee you a friend/family member told them too but they still proceeded.

"Cohabitating with your spouse and seeing all their weird/gross habits probably kills romance and sexual attraction, too. To a lesser extent if you’re both physically attractive, but it’s still inevitable to some degree. How many men over 45 are still genuinely physically attracted to their wife?"

That's the sad reality, and probably not many, which is why long term it's better to emotionally fit together. The best marriages and relationships are usually ones where they've known each other for a long time, or where they've been friends for a long time.

I cant see myself dating a random woman, because I know it won't workout long term. I can't imagine being with the same person for 5 years, let alone for the rest of my life unless I know her and really love her for who she is. Sexual wise it's also smart to date someone you know will likely age well, usually its not a huge problem for men compared to women.

 

[Сигма Бой]

Good if she's a truly good women.

Bad if she's a reformed thot or modern feminist.

Ecclesiastes 7:28 King James Version

Which yet my soul seeketh, but I find not: one man among a thousand have I found; but a woman among all those have I not found.​

 

[TheLightOfMyLife]

I’d love to be married to a quality woman who actually loved me

 

[Mike456]

I’d love to be married to a quality woman who actually loved me

Try to find a woman like that today chances are 2 low to even try

 

[soggra]

Try to find a woman like that today chances are 2 low to even try

if your a chad its extremely easy

 

[soggra]

marriage is a good idea but only if your at least HTN+ for example

 

[Mike456]

if your a chad its extremely easy

Yea but really who is Chad on this forum

 

[soggra]

Yea but really who is Chad on this forum

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