What makes a male seem effeminate or gay

[Luquier]

Compared to a normal, average male with flaws

@Banned User @Jason Voorhees @Mogs Me @Clqs @iGoontoOrgans

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

Or is it deeper than generic weak traits

 

[Tttopgtoni]

Poor posture

 

[formidable]

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

all of this can apply to str8 man, so no

 

[Luquier]

all of this can apply to str8 man, so no

It’s not just about literal gayness

I’m generally straight but I act like a pussy faggot

 

[ER1887]

Compared to a normal, average male with flaws

@Banned User @Jason Voorhees @Mogs Me @Clqs @iGoontoOrgans

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

Or is it deeper than generic weak traits

Posture, voice

 

[2ndAscension]

the gay lisp
small wrists
effeminate gestures

 

[Luquier]

the gay lisp
small wrists
effeminate gestures

Posture, voice

Poor posture

Posture, expressions, sitting style and walking defo

I move like a woman

 

[dragomog]

glasses
not having a physique
being into anime

 

[2ndAscension]

Posture, expressions, sitting style and walking defo

I move like a woman

how exactly
regardless, it's not gay or cringe if you get visibly muscular, than it's just confident

 

[Luquier]

how exactly

I don’t want to explain

regardless, it's not gay or cringe if you get visibly muscular, than it's just confident

Wdym wouldn’t it still look gay

 

[annenisikeyim]

Compared to a normal, average male with flaws

@Banned User @Jason Voorhees @Mogs Me @Clqs @iGoontoOrgans

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

Or is it deeper than generic weak traits

askin about what makes a male gay or effemine

 

[Luquier]

askin about what makes a male gay or effemine

True

 

[laxey]

Being below 6ft

 

[Luquier]

askin about what makes a male gay or effemine

What about excessive self restraint and feeling ashamed for engaging in self serving actions

 

[annenisikeyim]

What about excessive self restraint and feeling ashamed for engaging in self serving actions

is this a gun pointing at me?

 

[sherry12]

Compared to a normal, average male with flaws

@Banned User @Jason Voorhees @Mogs Me @Clqs @iGoontoOrgans

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

Or is it deeper than generic weak traits

manerism are like 80% of being percieved as gay

 

[formidable]

Posture, expressions, sitting style and walking defo

I move like a woman

i think ur just slandering on urself

 

[Luquier]

is this a gun pointing at me?

I think it’s feminine since

You care more about following rules in a closed space than accomplishing things in the real world. Think how all the girls in school were teachers pets and did all the homework. While males don’t studycel hard until like university where it’s warranted

 

[xye]

Compared to a normal, average male with flaws

@Banned User @Jason Voorhees @Mogs Me @Clqs @iGoontoOrgans

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

Or is it deeper than generic weak traits

too skinny, gay voice, thin eyebrows, small frame, short midface, small chin

 

[annenisikeyim]

I think it’s feminine since

You care more about following rules in a closed space than accomplishing things in the real world. Think how all the girls in school were teachers pets and did all the homework. While males don’t studycel hard until like university where it’s warranted

ofc its feminine

 

[annenisikeyim]

Compared to a normal, average male with flaws

@Banned User @Jason Voorhees @Mogs Me @Clqs @iGoontoOrgans

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

Or is it deeper than generic weak traits

any man without freedom is fem

 

[Hess]

I would consider narcissism in a man to be an effeminate trait, especially when its always prevalent in men who were raised by single mothers

 

[MixedMAscendingToCL]

Zesty walk
Jojos fashion (jojo is peak tho)

 

[2ndAscension]

Wdym wouldn’t it still look gay

to a male gaze it would, but women don't usually see it the same way, it's why gay looking prettyboys can slay too
looking good is all that matters, where on the masculine-feminine scale you fall matters much less

 

[Luquier]

ofc its feminine

any man without freedom is fem

Whenever I’m reprimanded for doing something or ordered around, what must be a wave of oestrogen starts rushing thru my veins

It feels like being a cute puppy, very emasculating

 

[annenisikeyim]

Whenever I’m reprimanded for doing something or ordered around, what must be a wave of oestrogen starts rushing thru my veins

It feels like being a cute puppy, very emasculating

yes, i hate people telling me what to do or not really

 

[Luquier]

yes, i hate people telling me what to do or not really

Tell them to fuck off, 99% of the time they don’t even have the right to order you around. Calling people’s bullshit and having hard boundaries is law

 

[gucci💛]

idk never bothered with this

 

[motionmantris]

glasses
not having a physique
being into anime

sounds like me

 

[Luquier]

idk never bothered with this

Not caring about random bs is a good trait to have

 

[motionmantris]

I would consider narcissism in a man to be an effeminate trait, especially when its always prevalent in men who were raised by single mothers

narcissism is a high test trait btw

 

[gucci💛]

Not caring about random bs is a good trait to have

yeah well gender norms and all this stuff is really whack anyway.

 

[annenisikeyim]

Tell them to fuck off, 99% of the time they don’t even have the right to order you around. Calling people’s bullshit and having hard boundaries is law

exactly what im doing. im succesful and do my needs. so they cant say anything

 

[Hess]

narcissism is a high test trait btw

You're conflating narcissism with confidence/arrogance, narcissism is an over correction caused by deep insecurity and inability to actually look and judge oneself due to how frail your ego is

 

[motionmantris]

You're conflating narcissism with confidence/arrogance, narcissism is an over correction caused by deep insecurity and inability to actually look and judge oneself due to how frail your ego is

dont say this it hurts my feelings

 

[motionmantris]

You're conflating narcissism with confidence/arrogance, narcissism is an over correction caused by deep insecurity and inability to actually look and judge oneself due to how frail your ego is

is it really tho?

i would consider putting urself and ur own needs above others consistently narcissistic but i wouldn't call that a result of frail ego

 

[connive]

Compared to a normal, average male with flaws

@Banned User @Jason Voorhees @Mogs Me @Clqs @iGoontoOrgans

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

Or is it deeper than generic weak traits

Voice, Frame, Muscularity, Eye Contact, etc.

 

[Luquier]

exactly what im doing. im succesful and do my needs. so they cant say anything

This is my problem I let people push me instead of calling their bs out and putting them on the spot

You don’t even need to be aggressive alpha thug to do this, all it involves is speaking clearly with a firm tone. And it makes your life 10x easier and more satisfying

Difference between low T and high T I guess

 

[Hess]

is it really tho?

i would consider putting urself and ur own needs above others consistently narcissistic but i wouldn't call that a result of frail ego

Self interest is something that many people are to varying degrees and I don't think can be used as an identifier of NPD, it is a much more complicated mental state than that I think, I would define it as a need for external admiration, unreasonable sense of importance, all of it hiding someone who is over compensating and feeding on whatever validation they can find in order to continually fuel their self importance

 

[annenisikeyim]

This is my problem I let people push me instead of calling their bs out and putting them on the spot

You don’t even need to be aggressive alpha thug to do this, all it involves is speaking clearly with a firm tone. And it makes your life 10x easier and more satisfying

Difference between low T and high T I guess

nah my t is not high its normal, all about boundties and like i cut off my 2 best friends cuz they pushed the boundaries

 

[luuk]

Compared to a normal, average male with flaws

@Banned User @Jason Voorhees @Mogs Me @Clqs @iGoontoOrgans

Are perfectionism over realism, excessive insecurity, need for validation on everything you do, glazing and inability to accept criticism examples of effeminate traits

Or is it deeper than generic weak traits

Insecurity, submissiveness, passiveness, self-depreciation, shyness, flamboyance etc

 

[motionmantris]

Self interest is something that many people are to varying degrees and I don't think can be used as an identifier of NPD, it is a much more complicated mental state than that I think, I would define it as a need for external admiration, unreasonable sense of importance, all of it hiding someone who is over compensating and feeding on whatever validation they can find in order to continually fuel their self importance

im mirin ur effort on these responses bro

 

[motionmantris]

Self interest is something that many people are to varying degrees and I don't think can be used as an identifier of NPD, it is a much more complicated mental state than that I think, I would define it as a need for external admiration, unreasonable sense of importance, all of it hiding someone who is over compensating and feeding on whatever validation they can find in order to continually fuel their self importance

is ur sign true?

 

[Hess]

im mirin ur effort on these responses bro

Thank you fren I do like to try and discuss serious topics on this site I find it quite enjoyable

 

[Hess]

is ur sign true?

it is!

 

[motionmantris]

Thank you fren I do like to try and discuss serious topics on this site I find it quite enjoyable

how come ur frm 2023 and somehow blue?

did u take a long break or sum

 

[motionmantris]

it is!

mirin bro u might hit that wizard status and unlock superpowers

 

[Luquier]

nah my t is not high its normal, all about boundties and like i cut off my 2 best friends cuz they pushed the boundaries

True it’s just normal thing to do

Why cut them off did they really go too far?

 

[annenisikeyim]

True it’s just normal thing to do

Why cut them off did they really go too far?

some say they did some sey they didnt. they did to me and disrespected to my girl and me

 

[Hess]

how come ur frm 2023 and somehow blue?

did u take a long break or sum

I take quite long and sporadic breaks and only use in habitual states for a few days, but lately I have been using it much more