Why do I feel guilty all the time?

[sub5sunite]

I have never really told anyone this before but I have always sort of felt 'responsible' for people I cared about, so whenever anything happens to them it always feels like it's my fault. For example my grandma, shes old and has countless illnesses, including diabetes, shes blind, liver problems and way more. Whenever I visit her I don't know what to talk about and I always find myself going and sitting alone (mainly when someone else is there) and I cant fucking help it but feel like time's running out and I'm gonna think back and blame myself for not spending more time with her. I dont want to feel guilt anymore

 

[fashioncel]

I have never really told anyone this before but I have always sort of felt 'responsible' for people I cared about, so whenever anything happens to them it always feels like it's my fault. For example my grandma, shes old and has countless illnesses, including diabetes, shes blind, liver problems and way more. Whenever I visit her I don't know what to talk about and I always find myself going and sitting alone (mainly when someone else is there) and I cant fucking help it but feel like time's running out and I'm gonna think back and blame myself for not spending more time with her. I dont want to feel guilt anymore

Blame other people for it at least that's what I did

 

[sub5sunite]

Blame other people for it at least that's what I did

blame WHO theres no one else to blame

 

[fashioncel]

blame WHO theres no one else to blame

Random people that hurt you

 

[sub5sunite]

Random people that hurt you

but no one even hurt me

 

[dnrwarrior11]

but no one even hurt me

blame it on the voices.

 

[fashioncel]

but no one even hurt me

Blame it on people are nice to you

 

[sub5sunite]

blame it on the voices.

nga im not mentally ill there is NO VOICES

 

[dnrwarrior11]

nga im not mentally ill there is NO VOICES

create some of ur own and start blaming it on them

trust me bro it works mental illnessmax

 

[sub5sunite]

create some of ur own and start blaming it on them

trust me bro it works mental illnessmax

idk how to create some, but i am always talking to myself and pretending im talking to someone else

 

[dnrwarrior11]

idk how to create some, but i am always talking to myself and pretending im talking to someone else

Ur off to a great start, keep going and u might start being able to hallucinate people and then u can blame it on them

 

[Stallone]

Maybe it’s related to some kind of childhood trauma? Look into 'Shadow Work'.

 

[sub5sunite]

Maybe it’s related to some kind of childhood trauma? Look into 'Shadow Work'.

idrk but i remember this from a VERY young age, i was 6 in class crying bc i was thinking of my grandma being home alone and was blaming it on myself for some reason

 

[TheVoidInside]

it wasnt our fault. bad parenting, bad social groups, its only natural we made wrong decisions.

my parents didnt understand that im NOT a passionate person and that i didnt have big ambitions.

and i didnt have any people like myself around me to be empowered with either.

 

[Stallone]

idrk but i remember this from a VERY young age, i was 6 in class crying bc i was thinking of my grandma being home alone and was blaming it on myself for some reason

You should definitely do some type of inner work, these behaviours aren't typically there for random reasons. You could even try therapy if it's really bothering you. I don't think people in this forum is going to give you meaningful advice brother.

 

[Stallone]

it wasnt our fault. bad parenting, bad social groups, its only natural we made wrong decisions.

my parents didnt understand that im NOT a passionate person and that i didnt have big ambitions.

and i didnt have any people like myself around me to be empowered with either.

Narcissist parents can really fuck one up.

 

[TheVoidInside]

Narcissist parents can really fuck one up.

they were strict at the wrong times about the wrong things

 

[Stallone]

they were strict at the wrong times about the wrong things

Same here. Can't really say i wasn't loved, and i can't say i hate them, they didn't even know better because their parents committed the same mistakes, but that doesn't mean that it wasn't wrong and that we deserved it.

 

[TheVoidInside]

they didn't even know better because their parents committed the same mistakes, but that doesn't mean that it wasn't wrong and that we deserved it.

tfw some random girl from tinder knew what was better for you than your own parents. my mom was pressuring me to pursue a career when the girl knew that i didnt have ambition and told me to just make money as a tutor