why do people have such a hard time handling the truth ?

[kisuke]

when people tell someone a negative fact about them that is objectively true they tend to get mad , and i never understood why , i understand that people cope to keep their sanity but sometimes there's no denying the truth yet they still do it , what's the psychological mechanism behind that for anyone educated on psychology ? i've tried researching this topic and all i see is pure cope and articles trying to validate the fact people lie to themselves

 

[angel wings]

ego threat, ppl get defensive when u fuck with their preconceived notions and worldview and a lot of the time its subconscious + most ppl respond to everything emotionally cuz rational thought comes later

 

[kisuke]

ego threat, ppl get defensive when u fuck with their preconceived notions and worldview and a lot of the time its subconscious + most ppl respond to everything emotionally cuz rational thought comes later

interesting , but i swear sometimes people keep the defensiveness going for so long it has to be concious at some point , i wish i could lie to myself like that im not capable of coping no more

 

[angel wings]

interesting , but i swear sometimes people keep the defensiveness going for so long it has to be concious at some point , i wish i could lie to myself like that im not capable of coping no more

people lie to themselves all the time, existence is miserable. the cope/gaslighting around immutable genetic features in particular is unbelievable

over time when it becomes conscious, people jst continue because changing their view would hurt more anyways. ur brain doesn't want rational thought it wants to be validated

 

[kisuke]

people lie to themselves all the time, existence is miserable. the cope/gaslighting around immutable genetic features in particular is unbelievable

over time when it becomes conscious, people jst continue because changing their view would hurt more anyways. ur brain doesn't want rational thought it wants to be validated

imagine a world where everyone would be honest , would be so much more enjoyable and real

 

[angel wings]

imagine a world where everyone would be honest , would be so much more enjoyable and real

honesty is a spectrum like everything else

some lies are good, people need to cope with something. if everyone was honest in the form of being unable to lie or speak anything outside of rational truth, people would jst hate themselves and everyone. truth needs to be softened, what you want removed is the intentional gaslighting