Why do people not respect me

[menas]

People especially while in friend groups do not care about me as i am not even there
for some example they literally listen ears wide open for other people but when i try to talk i need to put fucking effort

After thinking for a while i am convinced it is not related to my looks since there are people uglier and shorter i am 6ft1 and mtn

Think this as a brother giving advice to another i really do need help this shit fucking hurts

why am i always the third person

i dont really think that i am someones favorite not even my parents

 

[lurks]

ur in the wrong friend groups

 

[menas]

People especially while in friend groups do not care about me as i am not even there
for some example they literally listen ears wide open for other people but when i try to talk i need to put fucking effort

After thinking for a while i am convinced it is not related to my looks since there are people uglier and shorter i am 6ft1 and mtn

Think this as a brother giving advice to another i really do need help this shit fucking hurts

why am i always the third person

i dont really think that i am someones favorite not even my parents

@NZb6Air @maarda @Ethernal @yuda @Peter Steele

 

[Peter Steele]

Cıvıksın muhtemelen ve insanlari kolay affediyorsun

 

[menas]

ur in the wrong friend groups

Why ? And why does it happen to me all the time i believe i had same interests with the people most of the time but this shit happens out of the friend group too

 

[menas]

Cıvıksın muhtemelen ve insanlari kolay affediyorsun

Cıvık olmak zorunda kalıyomuş gibi hissediyorum bazen ciddi konuşabileceğim kimsem yok kimsenin bana saygı duyduğunu düşünmüyorum hayat bitmiş küçüklüğümün obez ve berbat geçmesine bağlıyorum bu durumu çocukkende çok taşınırdık ve çok okul değiştirdim fazla dışarı çıkan bir çocukta değildim anlayacağın hayat bitmiş

 

[Gengar]

You are either:

- Short
- skinny
- fat
- unathletic
- white

Or all of the above.

 

[Peter Steele]

You are either:

- Short
- skinny
- fat
- unathletic
- white

Or all of the above.

He is fat

 

[Gengar]

You are either:

- Short
- skinny
- fat
- unathletic
- white

Or all of the above.

Last one is a joke but if you gymmaxx then people will respect you more, especially if you’re tall.

 

[Gengar]

He is fat

Disgusting fat fuck needs to lay off of the bacon.

 

[yeeyeeslayer]

tagging the social theorist maybe he can help u out @ChadL1te

 

[yeeyeeslayer]

are you non NT?

 

[menas]

Last one is a joke but if you gymmaxx then people will respect you more, especially if you’re tall.

The point is there are skinny fat and short people in the group but why not them and me?

 

[longjohnmong]

the volume of your skull isn't great enough

 

[Ethernal]

@NZb6Air @maarda @Ethernal @yuda @Peter Steele

menas sen baya dolmuşsun baya üstüne gelmiş senin bu konu
instagramım var sende, istek at bi konuşalım senle bu konuyu (dm at hangisi olduğunu biliyim)

 

[Gengar]

The point is there are skinny fat and short people in the group but why not them and me?

You look the least threatening out of them all.

 

[menas]

You look the least threatening out of them all.

no literally no i am %100 sure its not about my looks

 

[Ethernal]

The point is there are skinny fat and short people in the group but why not them and me?

konu o değil ki zaten amk konu senin görünüşün değil,
arkadaş ortamında gördüğün saygı tipinle orantlılı olmuyor genelde, tipin sorun olsaydı o gruba başta kabul edilmezdin ve zorbalanırdın ok?

yaptığın haraketler,insanların sana olan bakışı, öğretmenlerin sana olan bakışı, senin statün, konuştuğun şeyler, ilgilendiğin şeyler, arkadaş ortamıyla ortamda uyumlu konuşup, zamanında espri yaptığın, zamanında oturup kalktığın
bunlara kadar etkiliyor
biz senle hangisi olduğunu bulucaz.

 

[menas]

menas sen baya dolmuşsun baya üstüne gelmiş senin bu konu
instagramım var sende, istek at bi konuşalım senle bu konuyu (dm at hangisi olduğunu biliyim)

Unuttum neydiki gruptan niye çıktın

 

[Ethernal]

Unuttum neydiki gruptan niye çıktın

melak senmisin

 

[Aypo129]

Send a recording of your voice

 

[sub5outsider]

they see you as a low status person

 

[longjohnmong]

konu o değil ki zaten amk konu senin görünüşün değil,
arkadaş ortamında gördüğün saygı tipinle orantlılı olmuyor genelde, tipin sorun olsaydı o gruba başta kabul edilmezdin ve zorbalanırdın ok?

yaptığın haraketler,insanların sana olan bakışı, öğretmenlerin sana olan bakışı, senin statün, konuştuğun şeyler, ilgilendiğin şeyler, arkadaş ortamıyla ortamda uyumlu konuşup, zamanında espri yaptığın, zamanında oturup kalktığın
bunlara kadar etkiliyor
biz senle hangisi olduğunu bulucaz.

You from Istanbul by any chance?

 

[RealNinja]

You can be tall and still not have people respect your presence if you’re skinny / look weak. So if you’re fat, skinny, or skinny fat, then start lifting weights and put some muscle on your frame. It’s also very likely that people don’t respect you because of your general demeanor. Have good posture and look straight ahead, don’t stare at the floor. Look people in the eyes, lack of eye contact makes you look nervous and not confident. Don’t mumble or speak softly, speak from your chest.

I see a lot of dudes that have nerd body language that screams anxiety and low confidence. I automatically respect them less even if they’re 6’1 or whatever. You can be 5’7 and have other men treat you normally if you just don’t act like a weak bitch in your movement and speaking patterns

 

[Esky1911]

Take a step back and reflect.

1) Have they been like this since the beginning of the friendship?

2) What are your group's interest, you may have lost touch with it?

3) Probably something happen to you that affects them. Maybe one of them got envious of you and influence the others.

4) Were you the type of person to never speak about anything serious, thus the treatment that you received.

Or you could probably ask one friend you can probably trust and ask for the reason.

If maybe one day, you realise just maybe they are still not treating you like a friend, they are not for you

 

[menas]

You can be tall and still not have people respect your presence if you’re skinny / look weak. So if you’re fat, skinny, or skinny fat, then start lifting weights and put some muscle on your frame. It’s also very likely that people don’t respect you because of your general demeanor. Have good posture and look straight ahead, don’t stare at the floor. Look people in the eyes, lack of eye contact makes you look nervous and not confident. Don’t mumble or speak softly, speak from your chest

i have muscle mass im fat but my frame aint bad but thank you good advice as you say i might be not confident

 

[Ethernal]

You from Istanbul by any chance?

for what? if you dont mind i ask,

 

[Gengar]

no literally no i am %100 sure its not about my looks

Are you retarded/non-NT?

 

[Ethernal]

Take a step back and reflect.

1) Have they been like this since the beginning of the friendship?

2) What are your group's interest, you may have lost touch with it?

3) Probably something happen to you that affects them. Maybe one of them got envious of you and influence the others.

4) Were you the type of person to never speak about anything serious, thus the treatment that you received.

Or you could probably ask one friend you can probably trust and ask for the reason.

If maybe one day, you realise just maybe they are still not treating you like a friend, they are not for you

@menas
bu adama cevap ver bu bişiyler biliyor

 

[menas]

Are you retarded/non-NT?

Yes but i literally act NT but why tf can people just talk and get listened while i have to put effort so they notice i am talking to them

 

[menas]

Take a step back and reflect.

1) Have they been like this since the beginning of the friendship?

2) What are your group's interest, you may have lost touch with it?

3) Probably something happen to you that affects them. Maybe one of them got envious of you and influence the others.

4) Were you the type of person to never speak about anything serious, thus the treatment that you received.

Or you could probably ask one friend you can probably trust and ask for the reason.

If maybe one day, you realise just maybe they are still not treating you like a friend, they are not for you

You know that they do it uncounsuicly right? even if i ask they wont reply the truth since they dont notice it

 

[Andremln]

frame, height, voice and mostly personality failos are present in every guy i know that's usually disrespected by his friends, if i had to guess you're probably really high inhib and maybe not NT, but when it comes for getting attention from others inhibition is key

 

[longjohnmong]

for what? if you dont mind i ask,

My ortho is there. They have my Invisalign aligners, but somehow are having a problem figuring out how to ship them to me in the US. Looking for some advice on getting them shipped, or someone to just ship them for me.

 

[longjohnmong]

You know that they do it uncounsuicly right? even if i ask they wont reply the truth since they dont notice it

Maybe they subconsciously realize you are obsessed with 12 year old Brooke Shields.

 

[notalive]

You aren't blessed with looks to be automatically respected.
You have to socialmax, gymmax, moneymax in addition to looksmax in order to be respected

 

[Ethernal]

My ortho is there. They have my Invisalign aligners, but somehow are having a problem figuring out how to ship them to me in the US. Looking for some advice on getting them shipped, or someone to just ship them for me.

sorry im not in istanbul but i did wonder why me?

 

[menas]

frame, height, voice and mostly personality failos are present in every guy i know that's usually disrespected by his friends, if i had to guess you're probably really high inhib and maybe not NT, but when it comes for getting attention from others inhibition is key

Yeah but why does that still happen while i am being nt? i literally feel so bad when they dont listen what i am saying and i need to put effort

 

[Andremln]

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there's the issue bud

 

[menas]

Maybe they subconsciously realize you are obsessed with 12 year old Brooke Shields.

16 Lmao

 

[StuntmanMike]

People are extremely social creatures .They know something is wrong with you . It is also failo effect .One guy hates you ,shits on your back and organize the others then the whole comunity begins hating on you .If you are autistic then it is gg you will never have a chance to defend urself

 

[menas]

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there's the issue bud

Yeah i didnt care or noticed some people seriously care about this shit

 

[Ethernal]

You know that they do it uncounsuicly right? even if i ask they wont reply the truth since they dont notice it

insta isteğimi kabul et, burdakilerle konuşma boş boş
herkez farklı bişey söylicek zaten sikilmiş olan kafanı daha çok sikecekler.
böyle şeyleri kimseden öğrenemezsin, yaşadığın şeylerin sebebini hayatını hiç görmemiş olan insanlara soramazsın, bak burda bile hata yapıyosun.

yorma kendini, kafanı doldurma, bi sakinleş.
git kahve yap kendine otur biraz, pencereden dışarıyı izle, bi muzik aç telefondan kahveni yudumla.
biraz sakinleş senle konuşucaz zaten.

 

[Esky1911]

You know that they do it uncounsuicly right? even if i ask they wont reply the truth since they dont notice it

The next time you talk to them, try to be aware of the pattern they are making. You must be a bit high iq though

Anyway, if you are still a teen, I believe that one or more of them do not like you and have told the others.

What you can probably do is to engage with each of them individually. You don't need to vent or try to interrogate them. Just act how you normally would.

You might find the person who may not like you

 

[madaaa]

People especially while in friend groups do not care about me as i am not even there
for some example they literally listen ears wide open for other people but when i try to talk i need to put fucking effort

After thinking for a while i am convinced it is not related to my looks since there are people uglier and shorter i am 6ft1 and mtn

Think this as a brother giving advice to another i really do need help this shit fucking hurts

why am i always the third person

i dont really think that i am someones favorite not even my parents

get your ass in a fighting gym and theyll start listening

 

[Andremln]

Yeah but why does that still happen while i am being nt? i literally feel so bad when they dont listen what i am saying and i need to put effort

you can't "act" being nt, you either are or you're not, people unconciously notice when you aren't neurotypical, its an evolutionary defense mechanism developed because prehistoric non NT people were either a risk to others due to being absolute fucking psychos or a burden for their tribes due to lack of social skills in the beginnings of communication in humanity

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

People especially while in friend groups do not care about me as i am not even there
for some example they literally listen ears wide open for other people but when i try to talk i need to put fucking effort

After thinking for a while i am convinced it is not related to my looks since there are people uglier and shorter i am 6ft1 and mtn

Think this as a brother giving advice to another i really do need help this shit fucking hurts

why am i always the third person

i dont really think that i am someones favorite not even my parents

I never talk so nobody talks to me, I'm certainly not offended by it

It may just be a matter of nobody expecting you to talk and so they react strangely when you do

But when I'm at work and I enter a convo people are usually pretty attentive as I hardly talk

So I'm not sure why they are dismissive towards you

But if they actually are doing it on purpose they are some bad people, not worth it

I never even care to socialize lately. I don't relate to anyone after years of isolation and rotting

 

[IOS]

be an alpha male
live alone

 

[Esky1911]

be an alpha male
live alone

That's actually a sigma male

 

[kasrkin]

just confront them, if they're uglier, there's no reason to be scared

 

[Angutoid]

Youre either dominant or youre not
Your current self is an outcome of many years and cant be shaped easily so get used to it or just stay alone